How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography
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With cellphones and similar devices everywhere, we are all engaged in one of the most incredible social experiments ever conceived in the history of mankind. Within this alarming experiment, our kids are becoming entrenched in an increasingly pornified culture. Pornography use among kids is now a major public health issue due to its far-reaching
Educate and Empower Kids
Comprised of parents and professionals, the mission of Educate and Empower Kids (EEK) is to empower parents to create deep connection with their kids through media education, meaningful family communication and intentional parenting. As a nonprofit 501(c)(3), EEK works across the country to provide essential resources for parents, educators and clinicians to teach children and teenagers how to become resilient and strong. We believe this must be done by teaching digital citizenship, media literacy, and healthy sexuality education-including education about the dangers of online porn.
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How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography - Educate and Empower Kids
1. PORNOGRAPHY:
A MAJOR PUBLIC HEALTH ISSUE
WHEN THE INCREASED ACCESS AND EXCESSIVE USE OF PORNOGRAPHY IS LINKED TO PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIORS, THIS TREND THEN BECOMES A PUBLIC HEALTH ISSUE.
—CORDELIA ANDERSON (2015)
Our kids are becoming entrenched in an increasingly pornified culture (a trend in culture and human behavior in which media—entertainment, advertising, fashion, pop culture, etc.—is hyper-sexualized resulting from the normalization of pornography use.)
Pornography is very different today than when we were kids. Gone are the nearly quaint pictorials of naked and partially dressed women that adorned magazines like Playboy. Type ‘porn’ into Google, and you won’t see anything that looks like the old pinups; instead, you will be catapulted into a world of sexual cruelty and brutality, where women are subject to body-punishing sex and called vile names
(Dines, 2015).
EVERY CHILD YOU REACH DESERVES TO BE WARNED ABOUT THE PERILS OF ONLINE PORNOGRAPHY!
Excessive use of pornography is harmful to sexual functioning and development for males and females of any age. A child or teen’s exposure to violent or excessive pornography can change a child’s brain, social interactions, and emotional skills well into their 20s (Anderson, 2011).
Pornography hurts individuals, families, and society. Facing the epidemic of pornography use is not just for liberals
or conservatives.
Nor can this problem be viewed through a narrow lens as a religious
or feminist
issue—any more than poverty, teen pregnancy, or a measles epidemic can be viewed as such. It is an issue that anyone who cares about children (including par-ents, educators, therapists, and community leaders) needs to be concerned about and willing to act upon.
UNDERSTANDING THIS PUBLIC HEALTH CRISIS: WHY SHOULD I TALK TO MY CHILD ABOUT PORNOGRAPHY
Pornography is as addictive and as harmful as any drug, and our kids’ undeveloped brains are ill-equipped to deal with the violent, damaging content available 24 hours a day/7 days a week.
As healthy as it is to be curious about sex, it is NOT healthy to use pornography.
Children need to be aware of the hateful nature of pornography, where women are usually the targets or victims of objectification, violence, degradation, and humiliation. It is also overtly racist, playing up every negative stereotype from a variety of cultures.
It will help my child and me to be more aware of how easily accessible it is in my home, her school, and his friends’ houses.
She needs time to prepare herself for the oncoming pressure. He needs to recognize dangerous sites and know how to handle it when he is exposed.
THE FACTS
The average age of exposure to pornography is 11-years-old (Weiss, 2015).
A 2010 study of 50 of the most popular adult videos found that 88% contained scenes of physical aggression toward women (including, but not limited to slapping, gagging, and spanking), with the primary target being women and the primary perpetrator being men (Bridges, et al., 2010).
In a 2009 study, 42% of adolescents reported exposure to pornography online with 66% of those teens describing such exposure as unwanted (Braun-Courville, et al., 2009).
Teens with early pornography exposure are significantly more likely to have sex at an earlier age, have oral sex, anal sex, and sex with multiple partners, engage in risky sexual behaviors, view women as sexual objects, and experience increased difficulty in developing intimate relationships with partners (Owens, et al., 2012).
BE THE FIRST, BEST SOURCE OF INFORMATION FOR YOUR KIDS
2. COMMON QUESTIONS
WHAT AGE SHOULD I START THESE DISCUSSIONS?
We believe in starting these discussions with a child between the ages of three and four, however the discussions in this book are meant for kids ages 6–18. If your child has access to an internet-enabled device in your home or any place he or she spends time, they need to be warned about potential dangers. If you feel the discussions in this book are too mature for your younger children, please visit our website at http://educateempowerkids.org/resources/ for a starter lesson on Teaching Your Child About Pornography (Ages 3–7).
WHAT TOPICS SHOULD I ADDRESS FIRST?
It is important that your child first understand that curiosity is normal and that a desire for knowledge of sexual matters is healthy.
Next she should know what pornography is.
Then a plan should be established for how to deal with future exposure.
After that, you should adjust your chats
to fit your child’s needs including, but not limited to, discussions of intimacy (the opposite of pornography), addiction, media literacy, self-monitoring, and the other topics in this book are vital. We intentionally put the most important topics in this book!
SHOULD I DO THESE CONVERSATIONS ONE-ON-ONE? OR WITH MY KIDS TOGETHER?
Most topics should be covered one-one-one, at least at first. As your kids become more comfortable with these topics, you may find that a group discussion breeds better discussion.