How To Let Go
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The 3 Simple Words That Will Give You Freedom and Happiness Like Never Before
Are you actively pursuing your dreams?
Or do you stick to what's socially-acceptable?
Do you let society pressure you into doing the norm, instead of going after the vision you have in your head?
We have all been conditioned to live a certain way, work specific jobs, and engage in relationships that are deemed appealing
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How much longer are you going to postpone the beginning of your actual life? The life that is going to give you happiness, profound satisfaction, and purpose?
Moving on to discovering peace and joy is a lot simpler than many people imagine it to be.
The process is far from costly, disruptive, and revolutionary. Rather, it involves opening your eyes and seeing all of the superficial things you've been conditioned into deeming important.
Making the most of your life is all about three simple words:
LET IT GO!
Stop sweating the small things. Stop striving for perfection!
It's much better to try something out and fail than not do anything at all. Perfectionism and the fear of the unknown are keeping you from enjoying all of life's colors, joys, and opportunities.
Sounds like a great plan, but how do you actually let go?
What does it take to overcome fear and anxiety, as well as the anticipated consequences of your brand new actions?
In How To Let Go, you will discover:
- What perfectionism really is – fear disguised in pompous clothes
- 7 deadly ways your pursuit of perfection is keeping you from having a great life
- Profound ways your insecurities are limiting your abilities and passions
- A crucial first step that will make the process of letting go smoother and easier
- An important secret all happy people know and embrace
- A foolproof way to stop seeking approval from others when chasing your dreams
- The immense power of just doing stuff, even if you're approaching it in an imperfect way
- The coolness of making mistakes and why you should embrace them
- Powerful worst case scenario visualization and why it isn't such a bad thing after all
And so much more!
Ask yourself one very simple question – are you happy right now?
Are you living life with every fiber of your being, or are you just existing?
If the latter is true, why are you letting opportunities pass you by?
We live in a dynamic, quick-paced world that rewards perfectionism and sticking to the script. Chances are, however, that this narrative isn't making you feel alive.
It's time to break free from the status quo.
To do so, you have to let go of everything toxic and damaging that you've been taught to embrace fully.
Make the switch right now by learning from someone who has been in your shoes and who has experienced the same doubts as the ones you're going through right now.
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How To Let Go - Rugby Daniels
How to Let Go
The Pathway to Dealing With Imperfection and Finding Peace
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Rugby Daniels
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Perfection Is an Illusion (and It’s Holding You Back)
What Makes Perfectionism an Illusion?
Seven Deadly Chains
Missed Opportunities
To Fear Your Mistakes Is to Fear Success
Fear, Disappointment, and Unrealistic Expectations
Risks Strike More Fear
You Stay Within the Lines
Perfectionism Is a Crutch for Relationships
Cripples Your Self-Esteem
Recognizing Your Tendencies
Chapter 2: Dealing With the Factors That Fuel Perfectionism
Defining Unrealistic Expectations
Insecurities Come Calling
Childhood Gambles
Fixed or Flexible Mindsets
Peer Pressure and Society
Mental Health Problems
Chapter 3: The Power of Doing
Evolving Self-Actualization
Please, Just Let Go...
Hitting Roadblocks
The Immense Power of Doing
Chapter 4: Loving Your Mistakes
Mistakes Don’t Mean Failure
How to Embrace Your Mistakes
Welcome Learning Curves
Open Your Mind to Insightful Mistakes
Be Human!
Planning Is a Form of Control
Accept Responsibility
Interrogate Your Mistake
Embrace the Messiness
Use Hindsight
Chapter 5: Deal With Your Need for Approval
Identifying the Culprits
Six Strides From Approval to Self-Fulfillment
Analyze the Source
Re-Evaluate Your Social Circle
Crush Negative Self-Talk
Getting to Know Yourself
Stop Needing Approval With One Question
Readjust Your Societal Value
Chapter 6: Expect Nothing and Embrace the Uncertainty
What the Adjustment Brings
How to Enter the Flow of Fulfilment
Seize the Moment
Acknowledge and Embrace Your Fears
Become Fluid
Detach and Find Freedom
Take Charge
Know When to Step Back
Chapter 7: When All Else Fails, Think of the Worst Case Scenario
Fatalism Versus Realistic Expectations
How to Do It
Hack Your Fears
Looking Through the Lens
A Deeper Journey
Conclusion
References
Image References
Introduction
George Orwell once said: The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection.
How much does it sting to know that humans can’t be perfect? It doesn’t change the way you’re always striving for better, more, and perfect. Moreover, the pursuit of perfection is snowballing faster with each generation that comes. Millennials and Generation Z adults enter the workforce with expectations that can’t be manifested.
This cut-throat world takes no prisoners. Corporate empires drive the need for perfection with each year that passes. Everyone is seeking to improve on their last effort and aiming for the spot next to the big glass window. Our perfectionism impacts our work on every level, and sometimes, it can blow up in our faces. But can we expect anything less when success and happiness are so often competitive?
The worst is when a young lady walks into a boardroom with every bit of passion and excitement in her eyes because she worked hard to create the perfect presentation. She put her soul into it and a bit more. It doesn’t matter that she sees double after losing sleep the night before. All that matters is that her boss and colleagues praise her for wowing them. She barely makes it through the presentation before her ears start ringing from mounting fatigue.
Nothing will stop her because she only gives her best. She can do anything she expects of herself. What she doesn’t realize is that her colleagues notice the slurred speech, and let’s not mention the slides she forgot to add to her presentation from rushing. Suddenly, her greatest fear comes to life as she notices the slides are missing, and her boss asks her if she’d like to sit down or drink a glass of water.
No,
she thinks to herself, I can push through this like so many times before.
She won’t let her past failures dictate her current success. She missed deadlines and screwed up so many projects at university because she just wanted to impress her parents, professors, and peers. She’s always felt this heavy burden on her shoulders because the world was watching, and any stumble would be followed with failure.
She cannot afford failure. What would people think if she didn’t make something of herself after all? At the end of the day, she never got the standing ovation for her presentation as hoped. Instead, she was met with questionable glances after a messy train wreck. Her ideas were perfect, so how did she mess it up? This young lady, wounded and tattered, calls a friend after work to have some drinks who declines because she doesn’t drink on a Monday.
She calls another, and they’re busy. Now, she finds herself scrolling through the many faces on a random dating app. She is afraid of meeting a guy because she thinks she isn’t attractive enough to interest anyone worthwhile. So, she finally closes the app and goes to bed. Tomorrow is another day, right? Her fear of judgment is crippling her life, preventing her from sharing her genuinely innovative ideas at work.
It also emerges in low body image and prevents her from meeting someone she can love. She thinks her nose is too big, her arms aren’t slim enough, and she has no confidence in her ability to maintain small talk. She’s so afraid of making a mistake that she remains isolated, and the disappointment from work has just amplified these fears. Why is this happening to her, and why is life so unfair? She’s been taught to always do her best, and yet, it is never enough.
This young woman is miserable because of perfectionism, and she can’t see it. Perfectionism can destroy your life, and you probably know this if you’re reading this book. The harder you try to meet the standards of the corporate world, society, friends, family, and mentors, the harder you will fall into depressing thoughts. Why is happiness so far from perfection if you were told that is what's needed?
If only you knew how far perfectionism, happiness, and success are from each other. What if I told you that perfectionism is a recipe for failure and discontent? If life was so easy for this generation and perfectionism was the key to success, why are Americans unhappier than they’ve been in 50 years according to the latest polls (Lush, 2020)? Indeed, there’s a worldwide pandemic at large, but it’s fueled by unrealistic expectations.
Perfectionism was a genuine threat for younger generations, even before the pandemic struck. In 2018, 33% of women scored high on perfectionism surveys in America, as well as 21% of men (Ward, 2018). Moreover, 44% of women were self-critical in the corporate fields, and 34% of men. This proves that women are far more likely to suffer from the consequences that follow inconceivable perfectionism.
Women have always felt the need to push harder, be better, and show that they’re just as capable of doing what men can do. Indeed, they can, but this drive has created an avalanche of unrealistic expectations and a detachment from being human, and all humans need to be realistic and consider what their strengths are. It doesn’t help if this young lady’s life is a mess because she can’t meet her own standards.
What matters is that she’s miserable because she puts other people’s ideals before her own. She never realized how cut-throat the corporate world is, and always thought that she needed to be someone she’s not to meet her dream partner. What she hasn’t considered is that no one has ever told her she’s not beautiful. Her mind is consumed by the romantic comedies filled with specific expectations and the media that promotes certain figures.
This woman is perfect the way she is, and no one can take that from her. Men are also at risk for perfectionism, and if only they knew that it was the downfall of success. Perfectionism won’t make you invincible. It can and will break you and everything you stand for if you let it. I was on your path when I first entered the corporate world. The pressure felt as high as a peak on Mount Everest.
I was always miserable, trying to improve and enhance some factor of the work. I wanted to be better than my coworkers, always get a promotion, and share my success with my family. So, needless to say, it didn’t take long for the corporate world to break me. I felt at the end of my rope and that