Why Marriage is Important to God

By Terence White Sr

Why does God care? He cares because he loves us and yearns to see his creation blessed and fruitful. He told Adam and Eve to replenish the earth and gave them the means to do so. The damage that sin brought in through disobedience has caused great division among those that have dared to obey God in being married. The tools God gives us are quite available to those that desire to be successful in their relationship of husband and wife. The beginning of this is found in the best toolbox ever put together, the Word of God. If you and your spouse would open it with a true heart for knowledge and instruction, the author would surely and most assuredly guide you to the things required for your situation and prepare you to be an example to others. He gives common sense, but requires humility to grow in understanding and implementation of his wisdom. I have tried over the years to help couples from every walk of life realize the importance of acknowledging that you cannot meet the demands of governing a marriage in joy and effectively raising a family without the great author and finisher of our faith. I've known couples who ignored this advice and rejected the tools made available by God, and their marriages did not last, or they were most miserable and all manner of discord was brought into their institution. The result was bitterness, infidelity, and no peace, and eventually it was destroyed. I've also known couples that have navigated the waters of life in their institution for well over sixty years, and took the time to find the wisdom of God in using the tools he provided in raising their families and obtaining peace. You too can change the course of your marriage and recover the joys you shared when you realized your love for each other. You must set aside the destructiveness of pride and arrogance, and pursue the knowledge, understanding, and the wisdom of God in Christ Jesus. If you ask him, he will teach you and help you restore the joy and build a strong foundation for the future of the relationship, and that of your family. None of us have all the answers, but we have access to the one that does, Jesus Christ, the ultimate bridegroom. I hope that you and your spouse find the peace and joy that marriage is supposed to have. Meet the challenges with confidence in the Lord and each other, and trust the love and friendship that brought you to the altar and God's throne; always be ready to listen and slow to speak. Honor the person that you are joined to before God. Love ye one another. Bless you both.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Page Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: May 18, 2018
• ISBN: 9781642149012

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Why Marriage is Important to God

Terence White Sr

Copyright © 2018 Terence White Sr

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Page Publishing, Inc

New York, NY

First originally published by Page Publishing, Inc 2018

ISBN 978-1-64214-900-5 (Paperback)

ISBN 978-1-64214-901-2 (Digital)

Printed in the United States of America

Acknowledgements

Would like to thank Miss Teresa Harmon, my high school English teacher, for her willingness to point out to me that I had within me a talent for literature, among other things. My Marilyn for trusting the God in us for us, and weathering the storms of our lives without giving up on us. She is amazing. Mrs. Jennifer Compean for helping me with the manuscript for this work, and for critiquing it as well, she was a constant. Mrs. Delsi Willie also for being one of two to who read this work and offered honest insight. Last but not least my public relations and events coordinator, Mrs. Dana Barnes, who was the first to suggest that I write a book that could help so many people. That was several years ago and she never relented. Thanks to Leroy and Merle White, my parents who never will see this work, but instilled in me a hunger to know and accept the challenge of marriage by their example.

Introduction

It’s really amazing that I have reached a point in my life where God has seen fit to appoint me the task of writing this book on such a topic. However, I must also admit that I should have seen this coming. While in my early adulthood, I was acutely aware of certain values and principles involved in having a marriage that could be deemed successful. I know that God has been preparing me for this, or you wouldn’t be reading this right now. The Lord also and most definitely has a plan for you, in your marriage and your relationship. First understand something: this book is not the fixer of your problems or the builder of your dreams; it is a source of advice and direction from our Lord to assist you in those endeavors. All too often I have found that most of us that are blessed to have met our mates don’t quite know what to do with the relationship part, or how it is supposed to look over time as we construct the marriage. We don’t quite get the blueprint designs, or we don’t even know there is a blueprint design. As we struggle to piece together a life with our mate, for some reason or another, the structure seems to give way to the trials and tribulations, the norms of society, or the unforeseen dangers of what we hide in our hearts and minds from our previous lives. The landscape of the marriage no longer looks like the fairy-tale life we grew up expecting or hoping for. The sense of failure or unrelenting blame begins to pull down the walls of hope, and the God-given blueprints we either discard in the corners of our lives, or don’t even know that they exist. The reason we don’t know about the blueprint designs is because they are contained in the Word of God and found on the sidewalk of prayer. The way to get beyond the pitfalls and destructive behavior and get past the trials and tribulations are to seek the tools that work with the designer’s intentions. This book and advice contained in it are tools that have worked for countless people striving to please God in every aspect of our lives. I have tried to compile and deliver the tools that God has given to all that will trust him in their lives and relationships. I know that our Lord has a plan for his children to be complete in him by being complete in each other through Christ Jesus, and godly reasoning. I do not pretend to have all the answers, but I do have some. The tools that will be presented are forged by the hand of God, and never do they fail to accomplish what they are designed to do. The task you are faced with is whether or not you will use the tools.

What exactly are the tools? They are precepts, ideas, statutes, points of reason, and the applied Word of God presented in a practical and clearly defined manner. They are the things that you will find that you recognize and can identify, but didn’t know how to apply the use of to help construct the relationship you thought you already had. I simply show people how to use the commonsense processes the Lord has already supplied, but we were lost to their effectiveness as they may be used for our relationship. I often hear couples say we’re all right, we’re okay, we got this, or that’s the way it’s always been, that’s just the way he/she is, and accept the misery of watching the walls of the marriage fall down around them. In some cases, they hear the noise but don’t see the damage until its almost too late. I watched and even experienced the self-deception involved in thinking everything was okay when the walls began to fall. Many couples measure their problems by chunks, slabs, or the large foxes. But all too often, it’s the little foxes that destroy the vineyard of what otherwise would be a profitable growing relationship, and strong marriage. The knowledge to use the tools in this book has always been available. Now is your opportunity to learn how to use them and effectively, so my hope is that you will honestly assess your current state in your marriage and the state of your relationship. Most of the people I advise are at the threshold of divorce. They tend to come for help when all else has failed, or they get surprised by the mess the fallen walls leave behind. This is not what has to be. We go to church, we pray, we fast, but we don’t really listen to the voice of reason that the Holy Ghost offers us in showing us the need to change our point of view from