17 Things to Know Before You Get Married: Don’t Say in the Future, “If I Knew What I Know Now.”

By Dr. Alix Pierre

Professor, and married pastor for 42 years, Dr. Alix Pierre in this book exposes the weaknesses and ignorance of majority of people about marriage. He also exposes the failures of local churches to address the realities and the truths about marriage. Through these 17 Principles, you will be able to know and understand many things pertaining to marriage either you are Christians or not. The issues and problems of marriage are so relevant today as they were many centuries ago. So, this book is for everybody, everywhere, every generation because it reveals what you must know to have a better marriage, leading to a better life. It will put you all on the road to successful marriage as God intended.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Jan 19, 2023
• ISBN: 9781664287587

Dr. Alix Pierre

Dr. Alix Pierre is the founder, president, and senior pastor of Universal Church of Salvation in Queens, New York, and has been with that congregation for about thirty years. He is also the founder and president of Universal Theological Seminary, where he has taught and trained pastors for more than twenty years. He is well-respected as an author, lecturer, teacher, and leadership trainer. As a skilled pastor and pastoral theology professor, he has empowered many men and women to understand their pastoral callings. As a lawyer, Dr. Pierre advocates and addresses very complex topics, and his books have included titles such as, Should Divorced Christians Remarry?, Should Christians Tithe?, and Can Women become Pastors? He and his wife, Juna, raised five children: Alexandra, Alix-Fils, Junel (Maestro Jay), Nadine and Jeffna Martine. Married for forty-two years and understanding the social tragedy of marriage, Dr. Alix Pierre exposes the weaknesses and ignorance to the majority of people about marriage. He also exposes the failure of local churches to address the realities and truths about marriage. Through these seventeen principles, you will be able to know and understand many things that pertain to marriage, whether you are Christian or not. Since the issues and problems of marriage are as relevant today as they were many centuries ago, this book is for everybody, everywhere, and every generation because it reveals what you must know to have a better marriage, which will lead to a better life and put you all on the road to successful marriages, as God intended.

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17

Things to Know

Before You

Get Married

Don’t say in the future,

If I knew what I know now.

Dr. Alix Pierre

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ISBN: 978-1-6642-8759-4 (sc)

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2022923661

WestBow Press rev. date: 1/19/2023

CONTENTS

Acknowledgments

Introduction

1. What Is Marriage?

2. Marriage Is Social, Not Spiritual

3. Why Do People Marry?

4. Twenty-Three Types of Marriage

5. How to Choose a Wife

6. How to Accept a Husband

7. What to Check before Marriage

8. Does God Choose for Us?

9. Is God Involved in All Marriages?

10. Prayers Do Not Save All Marriages

11. Ten Greatest Truths about Marriage

12. The Twelve Greatest Truths about Sex

13. Balance Your Temperaments

14. Don’t move in First

15. The Greatest Realities of Marriage.

16. The Ten Wrong Reasons to Marry.

17. The Eight Critical Stages of Marriage

Conclusion

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I am giving thanks to God Almighty for allowing me to write and publish this book.

I want to dedicate this book to all my family and friends and also to the members of Universal Church of Salvation.

I want to dedicate this book to all who contemplate marriage: first-time marriages, remarriages, and single people who hope to marry sooner or later. This book is the perfect tool for creating a successful marriage.

May you all discover the truths and realities of marriage that will help you live better and be more successful.

INTRODUCTION

Human beings today face many life challenges, such as wars, hunger, famines, and immigration difficulties. Most recently, we endured the Covid-19 pandemic. Despite these challenges, we also have many issues that need to be addressed if we want to live better within our societies.

The world is in pain, suffering with the dilemmas of differing religious beliefs, along with financial, political, and emotional distress. Despite those difficulties, certain issues pertaining to humans in all societies need to be addressed. One of these issues is marriage.

In all societies since the beginning of time, people have married and are still marrying, divorcing, and remarrying. Since we are not angels or spiritual beings, there is not and will never be such a thing as a perfect marriage. Certain marriages come with peace, joy, love, and happiness, while others come with pain and suffering for the spouses, the kids, the religions, the traditions, and the societies, causing separations, divorces, and sometimes remarriages.

This issue of marriage is so alarming, fragile, sensitive, and potentially disastrous that many people exclaim, "If I knew what I now know now, my marriage could be better, resulting in a better life!" However, that saying is very old and always comes too late.

I have been married for forty-two years to one wife, and as a social observer and pastor of a small church for about thirty years, I deal with many people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. By experiencing their victimizations and sufferings, I want to socially help, to the best of my ability, to bring some light, truth, and knowledge to all people: those who are already married and suffering, those who plan to marry in the future, and those who are about to marry now.

Here are seventeen things you must know before you say I do. By knowing them, you will be able to avoid saying in the future, If I knew what I know now …

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What Is Marriage?

S urely this is not the first time you’ve heard this question. Depending on the society in which you live, many people have different interpretations and meanings for the word marr iage .

A painter blends two different colors to create a new one. For example, I used to marry blue and yellow paints, and the result was always green. This is marriage, and that is what I used to do. Thus, the term marriage is very controversial, and many philosophers have varying views on this extraordinary topic. As a social observer, I want to address this issue in many ways as we move along to bring certain biblical truths to light and denounce abuses and lies that have victimized many people.

When God created Eve for Adam, he did not specify that the two humans would be married for life, because everything was fine in the garden. There was no sin yet, and there was a perfect relationship among God and Adam and Eve.

Genesis 1:27–28 says:

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

This verse shows that God intended for Adam and Eve to have a lot of kids. So we can justify that, at least according to the Bible, marriage should be between a man and a woman, as God the Creator intended and wants up to today. But one important point is that Genesis 2:24 says, Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.