Town & Country The Art of Gratitude: Thank-You Notes for Every Occasion
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We all have something to give thanks for, but we’re not always sure of the best way to convey our appreciation. This elegant volume in Town & Country’s popular etiquette line will help. It gathers the magazine’s time-tested wisdom on the subject, and offers the last, best word on the how and why of thank-you notes—when to write them and what to say, including examples readers can adapt for personal use.
The Art of Gratitude explains why the hand-written note is still relevant in today’s electronic society, discusses the basic stationery suite, and answers the pressing question: is it ever acceptable to send a thank-you note via e-mail? Find out about the correct language and structure to use; appropriate forms of address; ways of varying the tone for different occasions; and how to create wedding-related notes, including advice on designing your monogram as a couple. All situations receive careful attention, from the personal to the professional: letters for gifts, social occasions, in response to a kindness, condolences, and to follow up on a job interview. And, because no one is ever too young to learn good manners, the book includes guidelines for thank-you notes from children and teenagers, too.
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Town & Country The Art of Gratitude - Caroline Tiger
INTRODUCTION
Ireceive all kinds of inventive e-cards and e-vites; some as sophisticated as high-budget movies, complete with soundtracks, animated penguins, and rolling credits at the end. My e-mail inbox serves as storage for these and for the dozens of thank-you e-mails that dribble in after I throw a party or sent out a just-because gift. While I salute the creators of these mesmerizing confections and the thoughtfulness behind the thank-you e-mails, I lament that we are chipping away at civilized discourse.
Here’s why: When a note is written by hand, more than words are imparted. Consider that each person’s handwriting is different; like a hand-hooked rug or a needlepoint sampler, each note bears the mark of its maker. Now, compared to an e-mail where a sender chooses Helvetica or some other font used by millions around the world, you can see, feel, and even smell the difference. By selecting the paper, taking a pen in hand, thinking about what she’s going to write, and then connecting pen with paper, a person sends a piece of herself as she was at the moment of the writing. This type of communication forges stronger and more meaningful relationships than those attempted via ephemeral modes such as e-mail or texting.
When you write a thank-you note, you communicate that you have taken time out of a busy day—and our days are only growing busier—to stop and think about why you are grateful. Correspondence transmitted via screens—cell phone, PDA, or computer—is instantaneous and impersonal, with no guarantee that the sender is even who she says she is. The exchange feels more like a transaction—and that’s why, when I receive an e-card, I daydream about beautiful stationery and fountain pens forging a firm, unwavering line.
It’s only natural that the democratization of technology would lead to what alarmists have termed a thank-you note crisis. One hears horror stories of grade-school children who don’t even know how to address an envelope. It’s certainly up to the older generations to impart the importance of writing thank-you notes by hand, but there’s really no need for an alarm. Once someone has her own supply of stationery—and once she sends a letter and receives one in return—she’ll be hooked.
There’s no denying the selfish aspects of sending a handwritten note—it’s as pleasing for the sender as it is for the recipient. The extravagant paper use might also come into play, but there’s no reason to label yourself a tree-killer when there are so many eco-friendly papers in the marketplace. The number of choices continues to grow as consumers become more environmentally aware. Consider limiting your stationery suite to just notecards and letter paper, a perfectly respectable—and even admirable—collection in this technology-centered age.
Let the guidelines set forth in the pages ahead act as your handbook and inspiration. Chapters will discuss your writing tools, the writing basics, and then into your thank-you occasions—weddings, gifts and social occasions, for condolences, from children and teenagers, and business correspondence. Sample letters are provided for you to copy or from which to borrow phrases and ideas.
Thank-you notes aren’t only for official occasions, such as wedding gifts or after being hosted at someone’s beach house for the weekend. The best thank-you notes come from those impromptu bursts of gratitude—don’t keep these to yourself. Pull out a fresh sheet of creamy paper crowned by an elegant monogram, and steal a contemplative moment to think about and appreciate what the recipient of the note means to you.
When you set those thoughts down on paper and drop the note in the post, you will have the chance to revel in the delicious secret that someone out there is going to get her mail in a few days and rifle through the bills and catalogs to find this handmade gift—this instant day-brightener. Who could resist?
CHAPTER 1
Your Tools
YOUR CHOICE OF PAPER, FONT, and language (formal or informal) projects a certain image. Before you select a tool, pause and think about the kind of impression you want to make. Especially because handwritten notes are brief, every detail you offer is a clue to be interpreted. Your thank-you note is expressive on several levels—through its tactile and aesthetic qualities and also through the language you use. Think about what you want to say when you choose your tools: your paper, your printing process, your stationery design, and even your pen.
The Stationery Suite
In this book, we only concern ourselves with the thank-you letter, which is traditionally written on a simple, monogrammed piece that appears as a staple in one’s stationery suite or wardrobe.
To a modern-day reader, that old-fashioned phrase might sound odd. Judith Martin aka Ms. Manners quips in her own witty way that when she first heard the words stationery wardrobe,
she thought it meant dresses that didn’t play the trick of looking too short one year and too long the next and that didn’t capriciously change their fit throughout the years.
Of course, that would be a stationary wardrobe.
A stationery