How to Be a Lady: A Contemporary Guide to Common Courtesy
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A charming reminder of what it takes to be an exemplary woman—someone who is mindful of the effect she has on others and knows how to breeze through an awkward conversation with poise.
Of all the women you know, how many of them would you describe as “a lady”? Naturally, you know women who are kind and intelligent, witty and resourceful; but a lady is an altogether different variety of female. She’s mindful of the effect she has on those around her, and she’s careful not to let her words or appearance betray her true intentions.
How to Be a Lady is a charming reminder of what it takes to be an exemplary woman—someone who knows how to breeze through an awkward conversation with poise, or delicately sidestep the beauty salon gossip. Candace Simpson-Giles delivers a delightful refresher course on what it means to be a lady among women.
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How to Be a Lady - Candace Simpson-Giles
HOW TO
BE A
Lady
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HOW TO
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REVISED AND EXPANDED
9781401604592_INT_0003_001A CONTEMPORARY GUIDE
TO COMMON COURTESY
CANDACE SIMPSON-GILES
9781401604592_INT_0003_002© 2001, 2012 by Candace Simpson-Giles
All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, scanning, or other—except for brief quotations in critical reviews or articles, without the prior written permission of the publisher.
Published in Nashville, Tennessee, by Thomas Nelson. Thomas Nelson is a registered trademark of Thomas Nelson, Inc.
Thomas Nelson, Inc., titles may be purchased in bulk for educational, business, fund-raising, or sales promotional use. For information, please e-mail SpecialMarkets@ThomasNelson.com.
ISBN: 978-1-4016-0459-2
The Library of Congress has cataloged an earlier edition of this book as follows:
Simpson-Giles, Candace, 1953–
How to be a lady / by Candace Simpson-Giles.
p. cm.
ISBN: 978-1-5585-3939-6
1. Etiquette for women. I. Title.
BJ1856 .S56 2001
395.1'44—dc21
2001004337
Printed in the United States of America
12 13 14 15 16 WOR 6 5 4 3 2 1
To my mother, Margie Smith, who taught me that being a lady was one of the most important parts of being a woman
CONTENTS
Introduction
Chapter One
A Lady Experiences Real Life
Chapter Two
A Lady Gets Dressed
Chapter Three
A Lady Goes to Dinner
Chapter Four
A Lady Says the Right Thing
Chapter Five
A Lady Gives a Party
Chapter Six
A Lady Goes to a Party
Chapter Seven
A Lady and Her Friends
Chapter Eight
A Lady Goes to the Office
Chapter Nine
A Lady Takes Care of Herself
Chapter Ten
Extreme Etiquette
Index
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INTRODUCTION
When How to Be a Lady was first published in 2001, the world was a vastly different place. The emergence of the Internet as how we communicate, shop, and meet new people has definitely been a game changer in the world of etiquette as we know it. In today’s world we do most of our communicating on cell phones and computers. Going through security at the airport is much more complicated than it was ten years ago. But despite how different things are, the principles of good manners remain the same. Please
and Thank you
still work on almost every occasion. And treating others the way you want to be treated is still the way a lady should conduct her life. So despite the new pressures women today feel because of our changing world, it is important to maintain the patience and civility that every lady has.
Being a woman does not automatically make one a lady. The term lady has evolved to mean many new and different things over the past 100 years. Manners, attitudes, appropriate dress, and social mores have changed so dramatically that our grandmother’s definition of being a lady hardly resembles today’s expectations.
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The rapid evolution of the modern woman over the last century has brought with it both confusion and fulfillment. Women have stepped back and asked themselves just exactly how to properly handle their new status and situations that arise in their professional careers and active personal lives. White gloves and hats are not as much a part of our dress standard as they were for the women of earlier generations, nor does a woman find that she has to have a male escort to attend functions.
A lady by today’s definition knows that educating herself in every way possible, from higher education to common sense manners, empowers her to become a woman of accomplishment and poise. She knows that it is not the dress size she wears or the money she possesses that brings her satisfaction in life. A lady knows that beauty and wealth can be fleeting, but her inner character is the measure by which others will ultimately judge her as a person. Her courtesies, the high esteem in which she holds herself and others, and her sincere words of praise and thoughtfulness will reflect her strong values and place her ahead in the minds and hearts of those who know her. Being thought of as a lady
may be one of the highest compliments a woman can receive in life.
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Chapter One
A LADY EXPERIENCES REAL LIFE
A lady is always on her toes; she realizes that every encounter makes lasting impressions.
9781401604592_INT_0011_001A lady knows how to make others feel at ease.
9781401604592_INT_0011_002A lady is gracious and thankful for any gesture of common courtesy directed toward her.
9781401604592_INT_0011_003When a lady is asked to be a bridesmaid, she accepts the request as an honor. If she does not particularly like the dress, she keeps this to herself.
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A lady does not use her camera phone in ways that intrude upon the privacy of others.
9781401604592_INT_0012_001A lady understands that if the taking of photographs is prohibited at any concert or other performances or in an art gallery that also means camera-phone pictures or videos.
9781401604592_INT_0012_002A lady doesn’t ask dating couples when they are getting married. Likewise, she doesn’t ask married couples when or if they are planning to have children.
9781401604592_INT_0012_003A lady never compliments one person when she is in a group setting. She chooses a moment when the two of them are alone to offer her compliment.
3
A lady knows how to prioritize her life in order to make herself available to family, friends, career, and other important considerations in her life. She also knows when she is feeling stretched too thin and how to pull back and sort out her priorities.
9781401604592_INT_0013_001A lady respects other people’s time whether at the office or at home.
4
A LADY AND HER CELL PHONE
Although a cell phone is probably the most visible and commonplace tool for communication in today’s world, a lady does her best to use her cell phone in the most unobtrusive manner possible. She knows that, while a cell phone may be a necessity, there is no reason she should forget she is a lady when using one. A lady is very careful not to place greater importance