Healing And Acceptance: The Path To Self-Love And Improvement

By Amber A

I hope you will find yourself enlightened, informed and inspired on your path to healing and acceptance.



This book will explain what healing is, why we all need it, what the benefits are, how to approach it, why acceptance is important and how to practice it. Writing this book has helped me enormously on my own journey, allowing me to let go of negative past events and lead a mindfully aware and fulfilling life.


To help you with your HEALING AND ACCEPTANCE JOURNEY, you will learn about the following and much more:

What Is Healing?
What To Expect During Healing?
How To Heal?
What Is Acceptance?
How To Accept Yourself And Improve Your Self-Confidence.


It is important to understand you are not broken and do not need repairing. What you need is self-acceptance and self-love to heal your fractured parts and make them whole again. It is a process combining patience, faith and determination. In reality, you are shedding your old self to make way for the true you to emerge. Your true essence will emerge once you let go of your former self.



When you learn to love yourself unconditionally, damaging thought and behaviour patterns will naturally begin to fade away. Your past heartbreak, pain and disappointment have served a purpose to awaken you to your greatest self. Life is leaving the door ajar to lead the way for your transformation.



You can start this process of renewal with positive thoughts and resolve. Don’t be put off by the entire picture, life may appear broken, like a jigsaw where the pieces are jumbled and confused and you feel you are struggling to piece them together. Trust yourself and take the next step on your Healing And Acceptance Journey.

Are you ready?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Amber Publishing Ltd
• Release date: Jun 26, 2022
• ISBN: 9786277505585

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INTRODUCTION

As adults, many of us sustain soul wounds on our journey through life. It is in our human nature, during times of emotional upset, stress or loss to wound others especially those we love. Unkind words or actions, traumatic or upsetting incidences this can all cause us to be fearful, withdraw from life and lead to discontentment and depression. It is inevitable, at some point in our lives we will be wounded.

Many wounds, however, begin in childhood and while we may not remember the incident, we do have sensory or physical memories. When confronted with a specific situation, we instinctively react in a certain way. We may have been paralysed by fear at times because of something that happened to us years ago. Some people even dream about their fears or past events.

Wounds do not heal or disappear by themselves. The adage time heals all wounds is not true unless and until there is healing. We have a tendency to bury and ‘forget’ painful memories. However, when a situation triggers the memory, our old habit of thought and action takes over and we react from a place of hurt and fear rather than the current situation. Any form of trauma, as well as any form of abuse, is a wound. These wounds are much deeper and more difficult to reach, but not necessarily harder to heal. Our old patterns or templates of behaviour can change once we practice the art of healing.

What we fail to fix, we repeat.

This is the main reason why healing is so important. These deep-rooted emotions do not go away if those painful experiences are not resolved. They remain hidden, waiting for the right moment to reveal themselves.

But here’s the thing, we don’t need to ‘dig’ for wounds or look for them, they will appear naturally, without prompting and more often than not when we least expect it or wish for it! However, it is essential we address wounds that have surfaced or have been revealed because they influence our actions now and in the worst-case scenario, they will rot and become infected with the fuel of hatred, anger, bitterness and unforgiveness.

When we hear the word healing, we often assume it refers to the healing of an injury or the relief of pain of some kind. But what if the affliction doesn’t go away? What happens when doctors run out of solutions to the problem? What happens when the issue isn’t so much pain but constant confusion, unhappiness, anger or fear?

When we think of healing from an injury, we think of bed rest and taking it easy. Resting provides nutrients to help sustain us and aid in the body’s natural ability to repair itself. Occasionally, the trauma is so severe that surgery is required, as well as an active outside force to heal the wound. Friends and family play an intrinsic role in recuperation.

I am frequently asked if I must ‘believe in’ healing for it to occur. My response is straightforward. Have you ever felt as if someone is watching you? Are you always self-conscious in public? Do you often feel insecure or inadequate? All of these are indications of a natural sensitivity to our surroundings. We are more influenced by our environment than we realise, particularly by the people in it, who have the ability to change a situation, to their own advantage, through their thoughts and intentions.

We cannot heal in the same environment that has made us sick in the first place. Out of habit we take comfort in familiarity, we put all our effort into making the best out of our situation instead of moving on to new, unfamiliar and exciting possibilities. Sadly, the longer we stay in this toxic environment and we continue to inhale our toxic life the worse we feel. I am very familiar with these feelings, during the most troubling times in my life, I remind myself to look forward. I am aware that to live a truly harmonious, contented life I have to be resolute in my desire to leave behind the life that causes pain and anguish.

For years I thought I was doing the right thing but I continued to worsen. Then it dawned, when one hits rock bottom, you can find way out. You have to accept and acknowledge that you cannot heal in the same place where you have been hurt or around the same people who have hurt you. You can waste years fighting and trying to improve things but the fact is to heal you need a healthy new environment to start the healing process.

During our daily activities, our brains operate at a beta brainwave frequency. This is best for logical, time-sequential thinking, such as meeting deadlines, calculating income and expenses and managing our daily routine. When we are mentally and physically healthy, we can comfortably maintain this frequency throughout the day.

When we sleep, our brains shift to an alpha brainwave state, which is characterised by deep physical and mental relaxation.  Theta is intermediate between waking and sleeping and finally delta when we are asleep. The brain controls the rest of the body, when we are sick, when there is trauma or when we are in mental or physical pain, healing can only take place when the brain is in these resting phases.

While the alpha, beta, theta and delta states allow for healing, I have learned that it can be much more effective if the person has an open, optimistic mind and they can set aside their preconceived notions about how the mind, body and environment interact. With various forms of healing from spiritual using faith, to reiki healing or meditation, having an open mind means letting go. Keep in mind that this does not imply leaving your brain at home! You remain aware and sensitive. You still have the ability to think logically and the instinct to feel when something is wrong.

This book will explain what healing is, why you need it, what the benefits are, how to approach it, why acceptance is important, and how to practice it.

I want you to relax, sit back and enjoy this book. I hope you will find yourself enlightened, informed and inspired on your path to healing and acceptance. 

WHAT IS HEALING?

WHAT IS HEALING?

What exactly do we mean when we say we want to be healed?

The term to heal refers to the following, according to the Collins English online dictionary:

In terms of emotional healing, I would dismiss the possibility of returning to one’s original state. This is not going to happen and is avoidable. By changing our thoughts and behaviours, we can overcome a multitude of disorders and painful childhood experiences.

As a result, the idea of being made whole or sound and restored to health persists. These appear to be reasonable and attainable objectives. The question now is how this will play out. Healing, in my opinion, can be viewed as something that happens to us or as something that we actively seek. We not only heal ourselves, we cure ourselves. Your actions will determine how long it will take and how swiftly you progress.

For me, healing involves coming to terms with incidences from my past. From family disharmony, heartbreak, despair, trauma, addictions, self-doubt and hopelessness. Alongside this suffering was the inability to connect genuinely with others because of their lack of compassion and understanding. I felt no one understood my torment, loss and desperate need for answers. While I cannot change what has already happened, I can begin to connect with myself and take the time necessary to discover what lies ahead.

Healing can take place only in the present moment, we cannot alter the past. We can, however, heal from past experiences by changing our thoughts, feelings and behaviour in the present. For example, on your road to recovery you could find a new partner thus distancing