Summary of Janine Driver's You Can't Lie to Me

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#1 Lying is a major contributor to drama and heartache in relationships. But when you start to see the truth, you’ll instinctively surround yourself with more genuine, authentic, and honest people.

#2 Lying is a way to protect others’ feelings, but it can also be used to protect your own. People in power are able to lie without ever getting caught, because they enjoy the positive effects that come with power.

#3 Power appears to give its owners a physical and cognitive high that completely blunts and disguises any negative effects of lying. Lie, get away with it, get what you want, and don’t feel a thing.

#4 Lying, cheating, and manipulating are not the sole purview of the powerful. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and for many, these are quite desperate times.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 13, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822515512

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#1

Lying is a major contributor to drama and heartache in relationships. But when you start to see the truth, you’ll instinctively surround yourself with more genuine, authentic, and honest people.

#2

Lying is a way to protect others’ feelings, but it can also be used to protect your own. People in power are able to lie without ever getting caught, because they enjoy the positive effects that come with power.

#3

Power appears to give its owners a physical and cognitive high that completely blunts and disguises any negative effects of lying. Lie, get away with it, get what you want, and don’t feel a thing.

#4

Lying, cheating, and manipulating are not the sole purview of the powerful. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and for many, these are quite desperate times.

#5

When someone palm-down gestures at you, ask yourself why they don’t want you to investigate the situation. They may be hiding something.

#6

The Old Body Language is a set of stock definitions of specific body movements that certain experts believe telegraph people’s internal thoughts. However, these experts seem to think that spotting a wrist flick here and an eye blink there can turn you into a mind reader.

#7

There are many individual reasons why it is difficult to detect lies, but they all boil down to three essential needs: to protect ourselves, to avoid tension and conflict, and to minimize hurt feelings.

#8

The myth of the liar is that they tend to squirm and jiggle. However, this can be a sign of stress rather than deception. It can also be a common pastime for people to touch their noses.

#9

The myth is that liars over-prepare their lies, giving you too many details. The truth is that these details are simply indicative of a liar’s behavior, and you should be wary of any deviations from normal behavior.

#10

The myth that liars are not very definitive is false. Some are, but not all. And for those who are not very definitive, it’s because they are not lying.

#11

baseline information is crucial when dealing with a liar. If a person says something that isn’t part of his normal vernacular, pay attention. This is a sign that he is trying to convince you of his innocence.

#12

The myth that liars skip words is not true. Liars sometimes drop the pronouns in their speech because they realize they are being untruthful, and they try to verbally distance themselves from the action they are accused of.

#13

When you’re accused of something you didn’t do, respond with a joke. Don’t get defensive, and don’t tear up. Say something like, Why would I ever accuse you of that. or I was at Starbucks with our boss yesterday afternoon. We discussed the staff, but not you.

#14

You Can’t Lie to Me is a guide to spotting indicators of deception, and it will help