The Cards You’re Dealt: A Compassionate Grief Recovery Guide and Meditations for Healing after Loss
By Erin West
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How to process and embrace your grief when it threatens to overwhelm you...
In life, there are times when you experience the highest of highs, moments of sheer joy and bliss, where all feels right with the world.
But like two sides of the same coin, there are also inevitable times of despair and grief.
Love and loss. One cannot exist without the other.
When you love something, you open up your heart to the risk of being hurt -- but the risk is worth the reward.
Losing what's important to you is a devastating blow. Whether you're grieving a person, pet, relationship, or something else entirely, your feelings are human and completely valid.
It can feel like nobody understands what you're going through, and it's true that each person's grief is a totally unique experience.
But you're not alone.
Although it may feel like your world has ended, there is still a life ahead of you. Even when you feel you can't go on, you'll surprise yourself with your inner strength.
Processing your emotions in the aftermath of a loss is a process that has no timeline. It can feel as though you're left totally adrift, with no guidance on where to begin the healing process.
So what can you do?
Opening yourself up to the possibility of healing and taking those first small steps forward marks the beginning of your journey.
In The Cards You're Dealt, here is just a fraction of what you will discover:
52 guidelines for dealing with grief and processing your emotions
The important role of friendship in the grieving process -- and specific ways you can ask for support and support others in their times of need
6 unique meditations for dealing with grief and loss
The best practices for taking care of yourself in a time when that's the last thing on your mind
The most commonly believed myths about grieving -- and how they can actually negatively impact emotional processing after a loss
Why humor can be one of the most mature defense mechanisms against complicated thoughts and emotions
How taking a "window weather" day can help keep you grounded when your emotions threaten to become overwhelming
How to approach financial matters when your life feels like it's falling apart
What isn't self-care -- and why it's so important to know the difference
How to overcome feelings of despair and emptiness, even if you feel like you'll never get through it
And much more.
Even in the darkest of times, you can keep moving forward. There is no one path to follow as you begin living your life again, but with the right guidance, you can be sure that you're moving in the right direction.
Discover the guidelines and practices that will guide you through this difficult time and help you cope with the most complex emotions.
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The Cards You’re Dealt - Erin West
The Cards You’re Dealt
A Compassionate Grief Recovery Guide and Meditations for Healing After Loss
ERIN WEST
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Dedication
For Gar Finn and Mia. My family sandwich.
Elva, my Earth Angel.
Thank you for being a constant reminder to live my life to the full every day. That love has no boundaries.
May you be at peace now.
Table of Contents
Introduction
About the Author
Chapter 1: The First Step
Addressing Myths Before Proceeding
Different Forms of Grief
Acute Grief
Integrated or Abiding Grief
Complicated Grief
Uncomplicated Grief
Stages of Grief
Five Stages of Grief
Common Symptoms of Grief
How to Deal with Grief?
Chapter 2: Window Weather
Allow Yourself to Daydream
Hot Water Bottle - A Quick Fix
A Cup of Your Favorite Drink
Put Your Feet Up
Use Your Favorite Cushion or Blanket
Music Relaxes the Soul
Connect With Nature - Just Live!
Thank Your Feet For Carrying You
Give Yourself a Hug - Self-Compassion
Deep Breathing
Chapter 3: Let’s Chat a Little
- Friendship
Erin’s Memories Box
Send a Message to Your Friend
Give Them a Call
Write to Them
One Call Goes a Long Way
Meet Up With Your Friends
Connecting in the Time of Grief
Plan Something Nice Together
Laugh, Cry, Heal Together
Light a Candle, Be Grateful for Friends
Return the Kindness
Chapter 4: This is For You
Watch What You Eat
Cook Something
Develop a Routine
Give Peace to Your Mind
Show Gratitude
Keep a Journal
Benefits of Keeping a Journal
Move Your Body
Exercise to Deal with Grief
Get Help from a Grief Counselor
or Therapist
Grief Workshops & Art Therapy
Get Enough Sleep and Drink Water
Write a Note Dedicated to Your Loss
Chapter 5: When All You Can Do
Is Laugh
Watch a Comedy Flick
Read Funny Books
Laugh At Yourself
Sign up for Funny Quotes
Tune Into Uplifting Podcasts
Paint Your Toenails
Float in the Air
Bring in a Pet
Do What Makes You Happy
Wave at People
Chapter 6: Self-Care is Self-Love
Why Self-Care?
What’s Not Self-Care?
It’s Okay to Say No Today
Take a Long Shower
Wear Comfortable Clothes
Flowers Can Bring You Joy
Let the Music Play
Go the Extra Mile
High-Five Yourself Every Now and Then
Be Your Own Best Friend
Plan a Long Drive
Do What Brings You Closer to Your
Loved Ones
Plan Ahead
Chapter 7: Taking Care of Business
Check Your Balance Daily
Cancel Your Credit Cards
Sleep on a Purchasing Decision
- Reduces Impulse Buying
Discuss Financial Matters with Your
Financial Planner
Get Up to Speed on Any
Insurance Policy
Plan a Budget
Declutter Your House
Check Up on Yourself
Chapter 8: Effective Meditations for
Coping with Grief and Loss
Meditation 101
Focus & Concentration Meditation
Mindfulness Meditation
Compassion Meditation
Sleeping Meditation
Meditation for Different Emotions
Contemplative Meditation
Chapter 9: My Wish For You
Conclusion
References
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Introduction
This life will be good but not without heartbreaks. In death comes peace, but the pain is the cost of living, like love. That’s how we know we’re alive. Elena Gilbert – The Vampire Diaries
‘Loss’ is a term that we all are familiar with. No matter what part of the world we belong to or what religion, race, or ethnicity defines us, ‘loss’ is a common denominator. We all have stories that broke us, shaped us, and helped us to become stronger. We are survivors, and we deserve to know that there is a life waiting for us, wanting to be lived and cherished.
Grieving is a process that an individual goes through alone. Before I speak further, I want to highlight that there are no right or wrong ways to mourn or grieve. How one chooses to mourn can depend on various factors, including an individual’s personality, faith, life experiences, and coping style.
Every hurting heart should know that healing happens slowly and gradually. You cannot expect the change to happen overnight. Before you listen to anyone’s advice about how you are wasting your life grieving and mourning, you must know that no timetable is labeled normal for grieving. In some cases, people feel like themselves after months or even after some weeks, and in some cases, it can take several years for people to recover and learn how to deal with grief and sadness. Patience plays a role here, and healing demands going easy on one’s self. It would be best if you let this process unfold naturally.
I am writing this book to communicate with all you survivors and brave souls who kept on going after your hearts were shattered and you lost strength. Through this book, I have tried to find a way to connect with you and let you know that we are all in this together.
Everyone told us that life would be tough, but no one told us how to deal with it when it hits us hard in the face or when we fall and end up more broken than ever. One thing that I learned over the course of time is that people use different coping mechanisms to deal with their grief, and sometimes, how they choose to cope with their pain and loss is not the ideal way. They develop a habit of returning to that behavior whenever they encounter a situation that triggers their anger and pain. Such bad habits can only cause further damage.
I have seen people who harmed themselves in the struggle to silence their chaotic thoughts and divert their minds so they don’t think about the matter that needs to be addressed. I am no scholar or teacher; I am just a human who has gone through similar circumstances and learned to live with the cards I was dealt. I have been through hell. I fell, got back up, fell again, but still found the strength and courage to fight back and rise again.
I read this online:
Life and death have been in love for longer than we have words to describe. Life sends countless gifts to death, and death keeps them forever.
It gave me chills. How can someone come up with such a creative way to describe the relationship between life and death? But it is what it is, and none of us can deny this fact. We can look at it as a love story, how one keeps on giving the other everything it has held dear. We humans are just the same, aren’t we?
Before I move on, I would like to tell you that it is okay to hurt and feel extreme pain. We are capable of loving so much that it begins to hurt some days. You might have already heard these words from hundreds of people before me, but I will still say it anyway. Because the more you repeat it, the more it makes sense. It is okay to hurt and feel pain. It is completely fine not to feel like yourself for a while. It is okay to take a break and lie in your bed all day. It is okay not to smile or find the strength to interact with anybody.
No matter how big or small people call your loss, you must never feel embarrassed or ashamed about how you are dealing with it and how you feel about it. But you can adopt healthy ways to cope with your loss, no matter what it is that you're grieving for. It can be a human, an animal, a job, a relationship, anything. You can