Summary of Aziz Gazipura's On My Own Side

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

#1 I was 14 years old when a friend said something that poisoned my mind for 10 years. I was insecure about my appearance, and the thought that someone might not find me attractive because of my bags under my eyes made me hate myself.

#2 I had a critical voice that constantly attacked me and my flaws. It was a constant war between me and my inner critic. I didn’t share my insecurities with others because I imagined they would find me unworthy.

#3 Everyone has an inner critic, even those who don’t appear to have a reason to because they are beautiful, smart, and successful. It is a constant presence looming above your head, terrorizing you with brutal jets of fire.

#4 We spend so much time worrying about how we come across to others, but we rarely worry about how we come across to ourselves. We neglect the relationship with ourselves, which we completely ignore or put low on the priority list.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 19, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669386926

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

I was 14 years old when a friend said something that poisoned my mind for 10 years. I was insecure about my appearance, and the thought that someone might not find me attractive because of my bags under my eyes made me hate myself.

#2

I had a critical voice that constantly attacked me and my flaws. It was a constant war between me and my inner critic. I didn’t share my insecurities with others because I imagined they would find me unworthy.

#3

Everyone has an inner critic, even those who don’t appear to have a reason to because they are beautiful, smart, and successful. It is a constant presence looming above your head, terrorizing you with brutal jets of fire.

#4

We spend so much time worrying about how we come across to others, but we rarely worry about how we come across to ourselves. We neglect the relationship with ourselves, which we completely ignore or put low on the priority list.

#5

You’ve habituated to the negative way you treat yourself. It’s normal for you to feel awful about making a mistake, because that’s what everyone else does. It seems strange to you, because your aunt is casually saying how much she hates her cheeks in the family photo, and your friend is worrying about his poor performance at work.

#6

The majority of people treat themselves with harsh indifference. They don’t treat themselves like they would a dear friend or a beloved partner, and they are completely oblivious to the ways they are not right with themselves.

#7

You will wake up to all the unfair, uncaring, and cruel ways you treat yourself, and see them as unhealthy and ultimately unacceptable. You will then find your inner courage, self-respect, and self-worth, and overthrow your own inner tyrant.

#8

O. M. S. stands for On My Own Side. It describes a way of being in which you treat yourself with the same kind of care, respect, and kindness that you would someone you love.

#9

The O. M. O. S. assessment is meant to be used as a tool rather than a hard science data point. It gives you a general sense of where you are in this moment. Depending on what’s happening in your life, your score may change.

#10

There will be several short activities and exercises throughout this book that will help you speed up your results. If you put in a bit more effort now, your results in the long term will be dramatically different.

#11

To be on your side, you must go above and beyond the common standards of relationships and treat yourself better than anyone else does. To support you in doing this, let’s take a look at the top ten ways you may be turning on yourself right now without even realizing it.

#12

The top ten ways we treat ourselves with coldness and cruelty are: we constantly compare ourselves to others, we dismiss our accomplishments, and we feel somewhat dissatisfied with who we are.

#13

The most common way to turn on yourself is to directly attack yourself, which can be done by criticizing your appearance, choices, actions, habits, personality traits, feelings, and even your thoughts.

#14

Direct self-attack is when your inner critic launches harsh criticisms at you, often triggered by events or situations outside your control. It can be a daily occurrence, and can be difficult to stop.

#15

The goal isn’t just to count the frequency of your self-criticisms, but to be moved by what you witness. You want to awaken a sense of aversion, revulsion, or indignation at the injustice of this kind of treatment. This is your heart awakening.

#16

The critic tries to stop you from taking risks, as it fears those risks will