Feel Heal Love: Reflections On Finding Your True Self Through Loss

By Diline Abushaban

About the Book:

Loss is part of the human experience in this world, whether it's losing someone or something, or merely moments of loss, when we have no clue where we are going or who we are.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Diline Abushaban
• Release date: Mar 16, 2022
• ISBN: 9781913478919

Diline Abushaban

Diline is a Palestinian British author living in Scotland. After graduating from university, she started supporting refugee families and young people to overcome their traumas. She also works on supporting different causes including social justice and climate change. Diline found writing a great way to fulfil her passion of inspiring and helping others to heal themselves and live a grounded life. She loves painting, crafting and walking in nature.

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Introduction

This is a book for you, yes, you my fellow human. I appreciate that you decided to read it, because it was written for you and gifted to you.

This book might be small, but its meaning is deep. You can only understand it if you read it with your full heart, because it was written with my full heart to yours. Make this book your friend that you need when you can’t find someone who understands your pain.

This book was written amid mountains, between valleys, in the heart of forests, on the shores of rivers and seas. There were many witnesses to the writing of this book, including bugs, bees, wasps, snails, birds and many trees. They all had something to whisper to the pages of the book. So be aware of that. All those creatures are part of you and were sending you messages of love to help you through your loss, calling you to reconnect with them, with your mother nature.

This book is for those who experienced loss which I believe is part of the human experience. When I say loss, I don’t merely mean the loss of a loved one. It can be losing a dear thing in your life whether it’s a home, wealth or your health. It can also be betrayals or even moments of loss and uncertainty, when you lose a sense of who you really are.

The reflections and lessons in this book are an outcome of my experiences of loss, which I know at the time, broke my heart, but as the time passed I became more and more grateful for those experiences, as they actually opened my heart to regain wisdom, truth and light.

I believe that each one of you have this too. That is the reason I wrote this book, to help awaken all this within you.

To help you find the gains in your losses. To help you be brave to be fully, proudly and never apologetically YOU. To help you understand that all that you have been, or are going through is not a loss, but indeed, is the path that was made for you to regain your soul and get it back on track. To help you win yourself, and if you win yourself, you never really lost anything.

First steps in

dealing with your pain

Realise it. Accept it

One of the most common mistakes we make when dealing with loss, is falling into a state of denial. Or saying to yourself: I have got this. OK, even if you have, that is great. But you need to realise that it happened, something that you did not want to happen whatever it was; a loss of a loved one, loss of trust, loss of health or wealth whatever kind of ‘loss’ you went through, realise it. Realise it was not an easy thing to go through. It is difficult and you acknowledge this fully. Have no resistance to it at all, feel the pain. Realise that your heart broke because of this loss and that you have the right to feel deep pain.

Grieve as much as you need to, but never fall into the trap of denial.

The best part of realising it is to realise that it all happened for you, not against you and this realisation is the game changer! This will help you accept it; acceptance will help you heal in the best possible way. Yes, it is not easy to lose someone or something precious to us; it is not easy to accept it but you can train yourself. Acceptance will help in putting the pieces of your heart back together again.

Release it. Feel it fully

Let it all out.

Empty yourself.

Grieve as much as you need and as long as you need.

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