Stop Pitching!: The Role of Conversations in the World of Sales
By Dean Harder
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Have you ever thought to yourself how conversations are the connector between people? When relationships matter so too do conversations. This book will show you how to attract & engage others into meaningful dialogue so that the other person compels themself to take action that helps them get what they want. Personal experiences ranging from a simple 45-minute conversation with an uncle about 40 years ago to over 20,000 person to person sales conversations since 1998 bring to life the clear and powerful principals of these conversational selling techniques. Do you want your conversations to become even more meaningful to the people you serve? Then check out TITADS, P-PASS, WHaa, as well as other techniques developed by the author himself.
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Stop Pitching! - Dean Harder
Chapter 1
A Conversation,
not a Pitch!
Think back to an experience where you were sitting across the table from someone who clearly wanted to pitch you something. Perhaps it was the young woman you met waiting in line at the grocery story who’s now at your home trying to pitch a new vitamin that promises to give you unexplainable energy. Maybe it was a nice man, a friend of a friend, who was pitching you a product you didn’t really understand, so you weren’t feeling good about signing up. Or maybe you were sitting through a time-share pitch with a very polished woman who nearly had you convinced it was a no-brainer, yet you really didn’t know why. In the end, you passed on the vitamins, told the friend of a friend you’d think about it, or got up and walked out of the time-share pitch.
The point of this book is to suggest a better way—a much better way—for you and the people you serve to experience a favorable, even delightful, way to interact in the sales environment. This much better way is Conversational Selling.
For more than two decades I have been a thought leader in a field that found me. Over the years, I have come to realize that people want to be helped. Shoot, even I like to be helped when I don’t have a clue of what’s going on. You likely look to others for help, especially when it comes to something you struggle with or aren’t sure about. This is not a novel idea. You generally look to others to help you make decisions, like when buying a car, purchasing a home, shopping for clothes, searching for a gift, remodeling your kitchen or figuring out how to make financial decisions for your future.
I’m going to bet it’s equally obvious you don’t like to feel manipulated or taken advantage of along the way. My most successful interactions have not been about pitching. No, my most successful interactions have been about interacting with another person inside a conversation that matters to them. It’s about starting from the outside in.
When starting from the outside, you focus on the other person. Focusing on the other person is one of two key principles when it comes to influencing others. Starting from the outside and working in begins by attracting a person into a conversation that’s meaningful to them—a conversation that’s…well…about them.
I have been part of about 1,000 conversations a year since 1998. That means I have engaged in more than 21,000 conversations during that time, maybe more. Regardless of the actual number, the number of interactions is surely in the thousands.
In the early years, it would be a stretch to describe the interactions I had with others as conversations. In fact, it would be more than fair to describe those early interactions as all-out sales pitches.
Pitches are not evil, wrong or always misguided. More often than not, however, a pitch is not a pleasant experience. I’ve come to realize that conversational selling is a completely different mindset than giving sales pitches. In conversational selling the format, pacing, energy, tension and even word choices are quite different than the oft-scoffed, one-sided pitch many sales professionals are trained to give.
In the pages ahead you will learn the key differences between Pitching a Sale and Conversational Selling. You will read about conversational techniques you can use immediately in your own business, in your sales role or within your sales organization. You will feel more confident, more energized and even more motivated to move away from pitching your products and ideas to embracing conversational selling.
Are you ready to dive in?
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.
Wayne D. Dyer
Chapter 2
Attracting & Engaging
As a teenager one October Saturday in the early 1980s, I was helping my dad and my Uncle Glen harvest corn when one of the grain trucks broke down. Uncle Glen drove the grain truck to Lake Crystal where it could be repaired. I followed behind in a pickup truck so he would have a way of getting back to the farm.
When I pulled up to the front door of Crysteel Manufacturing, Uncle Glen was already walking out of the building toward me. I stopped the truck, jumped out the driver’s side and started walking around to the passenger side to hop in, assuming Uncle Glen was going to drive us back home.
Dean, jump back in and drive home!
he said with a smile before I reached the front of the truck.
I was sixteen, so those words made me feel like I was going to fly the Space Shuttle back to Earth from the heavens above! As we headed back down Minnesota Highway 60, Uncle Glen asked what I liked most about helping out on the farm that time of year. I told him the obvious, like being outside, driving tractors and grain trucks, chopping stalks and, especially, taking over the grain cart. I loved the smell of corn drying down at the bin site and the feeling of accomplishment when a field of corn disappeared and all that was left was the corn stock stubble. Uncle Glen asked me some questions about school and the various activities I was involved in. To say the conversation was about me is an understatement.
While I drove the pickup, my uncle drove the conversation. In a matter of just thirty minutes, I felt a new connection with my uncle.
What do you want to do after high school—you know, with your life?
he asked when we were about fifteen minutes from home.
I can recall all this like it was yesterday. The first half-hour was what the attraction phase of a conversation looks likes, feels like, sounds like. The final fifteen minutes were what the engagement phase is all about.
While I had taken the steering wheel literally, Uncle Glen took it figuratively. He went on to share some of his own experiences with me after someone had posed a similar question to him back in his youth. The wisdom and advice he imparted to me on that drive home to Mountain Lake sticks with me to this