Summary of Dr. Carol Queen & Shar Rednour's The Sex & Pleasure Book

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 Good Vibrations has always been a sex-positive, women-friendly store. Our founder, Joani Blank, had a master’s degree in public health, and knew that selling sex toys to women required an aesthetically pleasing and comfortable environment.

#2 Sex-positive means having a sex life that is right for you, with all the elements you need for it to be truly sex-positive: appropriate information and health services, understanding of and adherence to consent, healing from shame, and compatible partners.

#3 Gender and gender identity are important, but they are not the only ways we identify or experience certain elements of sexuality. We’ve tried to strike a balance between these two concepts throughout the book.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Feb 19, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669349662

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Insights on Carol Queen PhD and Shar Rednour's The Sex Pleasure Book

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 13

Insights from Chapter 14

Insights from Chapter 15

Insights from Chapter 16

Insights from Chapter 17

Insights from Chapter 18

Insights from Chapter 19

Insights from Chapter 20

Insights from Chapter 21

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Good Vibrations has always been a sex-positive, women-friendly store. Our founder, Joani Blank, had a master’s degree in public health, and knew that selling sex toys to women required an aesthetically pleasing and comfortable environment.

#2

Sex-positive means having a sex life that is right for you, with all the elements you need for it to be truly sex-positive: appropriate information and health services, understanding of and adherence to consent, healing from shame, and compatible partners.

#3

Gender and gender identity are important, but they are not the only ways we identify or experience certain elements of sexuality. We’ve tried to strike a balance between these two concepts throughout the book.

Insights from Chapter 2

#1

There are many ways to learn about your sexuality. You can study up on sexual options, pay attention to your fantasies, and explore your body and its responses through masturbation.

#2

If you’re afraid to be sexual, you need to overcome that fear and shame and be the sexual person you want to be. We’re here to help you do that.

#3

There are many markers along the gender spectrum. Some would even argue that these markers are not straight lines but more like the many beams of light making up the variegated colors of a wide and curved rainbow.

Insights from Chapter 3

#1

There are many different types of sex, and people have different desires and responses when it comes to them. Some people enjoy kissing for hours on end, while others hate it. Some people are into BDSM, while others are not.

#2

There are many ways to be a sexual person, with a multitude of choices at various points. Some preferences and elements are seemingly set for life, but others may change or develop over time.

#3

Some people want their sex parts surgically or hormonally altered, while others don’t. And within the transgender community, there is a wide spectrum of sexuality and desires.

#4

The human body is capable of many kinds of erotic response and pathways to orgasm. When we think about normal sex, we are actually thinking of a small fraction of what’s possible. In our variety and sexual individuality, we are actually giving each other a lot of room to find the kind of pleasure that’s best for us.

#5

The media is a huge influence on how people view sex and sexuality. When media messages are anti-sex, homophobic, and/or overly gendered, it is usually because they are reflecting underlying cultural biases.

Insights from Chapter 4

#1

To overcome or resist fear and shame, we must first recognize that they are the cause of most sexual dysfunction in our society. Then we must learn about sex, and how to have good sex, not just sex that’s adequate-enough-to-continue-the-species-but-not-to-rock-my-world.

#2

Lovemaking opens up carefully guarded vulnerabilities. Indeed, the very joy of lovemaking comes from allowing frozen feelings and sensations to melt into volcanic bubblings.

#3

It’s possible to overcome fear and shame and their toxic effects, and you can do so by seeking out the community of others who have similar experiences or who have overcome similar problems.

Insights from Chapter 5

#1

Some people masturbate or have partnered sex to relieve stress, feel connected to their partner, or because they owe it to their partner.

#2

Remember that you are not alone in your struggle to have good sex. People who’ve had negative sexual experiences are still able to have positive ones.

Insights from Chapter 6

#1

It’s important to understand that you are a sexual individual, as you are an individual in all other ways. You may be like some other people, but you are not just like anyone else. This is the bottom line of erotic diversity, and it’s one of the reasons why communication is crucial when it comes to sex.

#2

When people who are bisexual first feel desire towards same-sex partners, they might think they’re gay or lesbian, and deal with coming out as such. They may adopt a gay identity and become active in the gay rights movement, but still feel sexual desire towards the opposite sex and act on those desires.

#3

The idea of opposites tends to reinforce social roles and suggest that some people can’t or shouldn’t do certain things because of their gender. This leads to restricted opportunities, shame, and bullying.

#4

When you’re too focused on belonging to a general group, like our misunderstood bisexual above, it’s easy to devalue or even ignore the many elements that make you who you are, and that make you happy.

#5

The sexual version of Know thyself is to fantasize about different types of people and situations, and to masturbate to understand your body’s reaction to those sensations. This is how many people discover their sexuality, and it means that when they meet another person, they can’t assume the same things float their boat.

#6

When you’re having sex with someone, you need to communicate your needs and