Because You Keep Asking: Questions about SEXuality from America's College Students
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Because You Keep Asking - Ranee Alison Spina
Because you keep asking…
Questions
about Sexuality
from
America’s
College Students
Kimberly Chestnut, Ph.D.
Ranee Alison Spina, M.A.
© 2015 by Ranee Alison Spina & Kimberly Chestnut BECAUSE YOU KEEP ASKING is a trademark of Ranee Alison Spina & Kimberly Chestnut and may not be used without the prior permission of Ranee Alison Spina and Kimberly Chestnut.
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No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without permission in writing from Marketing, Publicity, & Distribution contact Ranee Alison Spina, except by a reviewer who may quote brief passages in a review.
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First e-Book: January 2015
In the United States of America
Disclaimer: This book was written and published to help educate young adults about the complexity of sexuality. The answers to students’ questions have been answered by the Authors to the best of their ability in a condensed format. Neither RAZ Productions nor the Authors shall be liable or responsible to any person or entity for any loss, damage, or injury or ailment caused, or alleged to be caused, directly or indirectly, by the information or lack of information presented in this book.
To the courageous students
who ask questions,
when they desire to know
how to best step forward
in love, sex, dating, relationships
... and good health!
Sexuality and
overall health
is a head-to-toe
affair.
SECTIONS:
HEAD
MOUTH
HEART
PELVIS
BUTT
TOES
Heart_StatueChapter_openerWow... good for you. You have questions about sexuality. We have answers. These answers represent how we have answered live Q&A with student audiences across the country.
Did you notice that we said questions about sexuality
rather than questions about sex?
The reason is that sexuality encompasses a whole lot more than just having sex. It includes:
Learning about love, desire, intimacy, and commitment
Enhancing self-esteem
Improving relationship skills
Examining gender roles and stereotypes
Recognizing and appreciating diversity
Developing skills in life planning
Building problem-solving skills
Supporting healthy living habits
Becoming a critical consumer of media messages
Exploring spiritual aspects of sexuality
Achieving personal success and happiness
And, clarifying one’s values...
Values play an important role when it comes to sexuality.
We hear the word values
thrown around a lot, but what are values? Values are the messages that we have been given since birth—messages from our families, communities, friends, and the larger culture. They are complex and sometimes we don’t even realize their impact until they are challenged.
Our values are the groundwork for every feeling we experience; they are an essential part of our decision making process.
We believe it’s important to mention values early on, for they will likely express themselves as you read these questions and answers. You may find yourself agreeing or disagreeing with what is written—which is great—it means that you are using your critical thinking skills. That critical review is helpful in better understanding your sexuality.
As you read this book, take note of the answers that differ from how you think or feel.
Do you have any idea where your current values came from?
Some values change over time as we are exposed to new information, while other values remain the same over a lifetime.
Ultimately, we want you to have a good sense about what is important to you and why it is important to you.
Are you simply following your family’s or friends’ beliefs?
Examine why you believe what you believe.
Make educated decisions; take in the information this book offers and change behaviors that are not aligned with good sexual health.
One more thing before you start reading the Q&A… though this book is divided into sections, we believe sexuality is wholistic,
meaning it involves the whole body. You will find some questions overlap and repetition exists due to the interconnectedness of sexuality and overall health.
HEAD
Questions dealing with our thoughts
Did you know that Confidence is considered one of the top characteristics to describe someone who is sexy?
Yep! Confidence is more appealing than great legs
or a nice butt.
If Confidence is so sexy, how come we see so little of it? Fear of rejection? Low self-worth? A bad past experience? No matter what the reason, it is time to rise to the occasion and understand that making healthier relationship choices leads to increased confidence.
Increased self-worth and self-respect leads to healthier sexual behavior, which leads to better overall health.
You have heard it before—respect really begins with how you feel about yourself. Do you see your strengths, as well as your weaknesses? Our ability to see
our full selves helps us to see the complexity of others.
When a relationship first begins, it is easy to see the good in someone with whom we are infatuated, for we tend to dismiss the less appealing aspects of the person. While this is natural and somewhat hardwired
into how we operate, we encourage you to listen to the inner voice that is telling you something about this other person. It may be positive, neutral, or negative; either way, keep listening.
If you give your time, attention, and honesty to a relationship, you deserve the same in return. If you give out a little bit of effort and commitment, you deserve back a little bit of effort and commitment from the other person.
If you are not being respected, look at how you have been treating others. Have you been respectful?
Also, take notice if someone does not value YOU. This person does not deserve to have you in their life. CHOOSE to spend time with people you enjoy and who make you feel good.
Q1
Can having sex make someone emotionally unstable?
Having planned, consensual sex is not likely to make someone emotionally unstable.