Summary of Julie Sondra Decker's The Invisible Orientation

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#1 Asexuality is not a complex, a sickness, or a behavior. It is not the result of a decision, and it is not a chastity vow. We are not automatically religious. We are not anti-straight, anti-gay, or anti-any-sexual-orientation.

#2 Asexual people do not all look down on sex or people who have sex. We do not avoid romantic or emotionally close relationships, and we are not automatically socially inept. We are not defined by atypical biology or nonfunctional genitals.

#3 Asexuality is a rare orientation, and it’s important for people to understand it. Don’t assume we need therapy or treat us like we need to be cured or broken.

#4 Asexuality is when a person is not sexually attracted to others, and it is a sexual orientation. It is not the same as not having a sexual orientation yet, which is what some non-asexual people think.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 20, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669388616

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Insights on Julie Sondra Decker's The Invisible Orientation

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Asexuality is not a complex, a sickness, or a behavior. It is not the result of a decision, and it is not a chastity vow. We are not automatically religious. We are not anti-straight, anti-gay, or anti-any-sexual-orientation.

#2

Asexual people do not all look down on sex or people who have sex. We do not avoid romantic or emotionally close relationships, and we are not automatically socially inept. We are not defined by atypical biology or nonfunctional genitals.

#3

Asexuality is a rare orientation, and it’s important for people to understand it. Don’t assume we need therapy or treat us like we need to be cured or broken.

#4

Asexuality is when a person is not sexually attracted to others, and it is a sexual orientation. It is not the same as not having a sexual orientation yet, which is what some non-asexual people think.

#5

Asexual people can say they haven’t experienced sexual attraction, but they can be as sure as anyone else about who they are attracted to, even if it happens to be no one. People who are sexually attracted to cross-gender partners are still heterosexual.

#6

Asexuality is not a passing phase or a blank spot before real maturation. Asexuality describes a mature state, not a passing phase or a blank spot before real maturation.

#7

Maturity is subjective, and it is up to each individual to determine what constitutes maturity. Asexuality, which is the lack of interest in or desire for sex, challenges the idea that someone must be immature if they don’t have or desire sex.

#8

A sexual orientation is not a decision. It is how a person experiences attraction. It does not represent a vow or an intention regarding sex. Asexual people are often asked why they chose to be asexual, and they usually don’t choose to be asexual.

#9

Sex is commonly upheld as a normal and necessary part of everyone’s lives, especially if it’s heterosexual, procreative sex. But asexual people come along, and their lack of sexual attraction or interest in sex is suddenly unnatural.

#10

Asexuality is not a disease, and it is not caused by any physical issue. It is not a symptom of