Summary of Justin J. Lehmiller's Tell Me What You Want

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#1 The American id is made up of our sexual desires, which we are afraid to share or act upon. I surveyed thousands of Americans about their biggest sexual fantasies, which revealed the nature of the American id.

#2 A sexual fantasy is a mental picture that comes to mind while you’re awake that ultimately turns you on. It can be difficult to stop thinking about fantasies, because suppression isn’t a very effective way to take your mind off of them.

#3 We don’t seem to be very good at suppressing unwanted thoughts, whether they be about white bears or sex with white bears. If you weren’t already thinking about having sex with white bears, you probably are now.

#4 We know very little about what people today are actually fantasizing about. I conducted a survey to find out, and asked participants to write out their favorite sexual fantasy in narrative form and then sum up the main idea of that fantasy in a single word.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 14, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669388302

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Insights on Justin J. Lehmiller's Tell Me What You Want

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The American id is made up of our sexual desires, which we are afraid to share or act upon. I surveyed thousands of Americans about their biggest sexual fantasies, which revealed the nature of the American id.

#2

A sexual fantasy is a mental picture that comes to mind while you’re awake that ultimately turns you on. It can be difficult to stop thinking about fantasies, because suppression isn’t a very effective way to take your mind off of them.

#3

We don’t seem to be very good at suppressing unwanted thoughts, whether they be about white bears or sex with white bears. If you weren’t already thinking about having sex with white bears, you probably are now.

#4

We know very little about what people today are actually fantasizing about. I conducted a survey to find out, and asked participants to write out their favorite sexual fantasy in narrative form and then sum up the main idea of that fantasy in a single word.

#5

My survey was composed of 4,175 adults age eighteen or older who were current citizens or residents of the United States. The median age of my participants was thirty-two, and they were more highly educated and more affluent than the average American.

#6

The demographics of my survey are not strictly representative of the US population, but this is the largest and most diverse group of Americans that has ever been asked to report on their sexual fantasies.

#7

I found the single-word descriptions participants provided to be utterly fascinating. The most popular words are shown in the word cloud below.

Insights from Chapter 2

#1

The term normal is used to describe something that is common. Normal sexual fantasies are those that are common among other people. If you’ve fantasized about these things before, chances