How To Ask For Kink (And Make It Stick): A Very Short Guide

By Giles English

My name is Giles English and I have asked for kink...
Lots of times actually, with mixed results (cringes mentally).
My particularly kink is Femdom, and this was back before fifty shades of the internet. Even so, I managed to get more than three quarters of my partners to tie me up!
Clearly, I was doing something right!
However, the kink almost never stuck... it was always something I asked for, and what started as a fun adventure became a drag. Sure, this was dating in my 20s, and the relationships weren’t going to last anyway. However, looking back, I can see things my girlfriends did enjoy, things I should have expanded on, and also ways in which I sucked the pleasure out of kink for them.
Eventually, after leaving a trail of confused or irritated girlfriends, I started getting it right. Then I met my wife and got it mostly wrong, then finally right.
Now I have buckets of juicy kink, not everything I fantasised about, but more than I ever imagined — as I work on this new edition, I have just passed the 6 month mark for 24/7 chastity and this insane marathon was my wife’s idea! (That might not be your kink, but it is mine, so can we agree that that’s a success?)
On my journey to this happy state, I picked up a lot of experience the hard way, and compared notes with friends online and off.
As I said, my kink is Femdom. Yours could be almost anything consenting adults can safely get up to. I’m male and straight. You could be anywhere on the spectrum of gender and sexuality.
Even so, the painful lessons I learned with my fellow travellers still apply.
And that’s what this book is; a very short how-to guide so you can avoid the mistakes we made, and make kink sustainable in your relationship.
Make it stick.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Giles English
• Release date: Feb 18, 2019
• ISBN: 9780463290910

Giles English

What's it like when women are in charge FOR REAL?That's what I love to write; hot Femdom stories where the women have all the power. In my books there's no safeword, no way out... plenty of orgasms for the ladies, and domestic service, harsh discipline, and permanent chastity for the men.I like my dommes to feel like real women. The girl next door comes into her own with a whip... the sweet lesbian couple gain a chaste male slave, but don't really notice the way he's always watching and dripping as they make love... the angry ex turns the tables, painfully... the castrating bitch finds permanent chastity an amusing substitute.My books go to dark places with dark emotions, a million light years from "Have you been a naughty boy then?"And I write Femdom from experience. I've been my wife's slave for the last 8 years. She's kept me sealed in permanent chastity for over a year. She routinely disciplines me, makes me sleep in my cell, uses me for her pleasure, or forces me to kneel and watch impotently while she plays with her vibrator.I am a chaste slave. My heroes are permanently chaste slaves. Read my books and find out what it's like...

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How To Ask For Kink (And Make It Stick): A Very Short Guide

By Giles English

Smashwords Edition Copyright Giles English 2019.

Chapter 1: Introduction

My name is Giles English and I have asked for kink…

Lots of times actually, with mixed results (cringes mentally).

My particularly kink is Femdom, and this was back before fifty shades of the internet. Even so, I managed to get more than three quarters of my partners to tie me up!

Clearly, I was doing something right!

However, the kink almost never stuck... it was always something I asked for, and what started as a fun adventure became a drag. Sure, this was dating in my 20s, and the relationships weren’t going to last anyway. However, looking back, I can see things my girlfriends did enjoy, things I should have expanded on, and also ways in which I sucked the pleasure out of kink for them.

Eventually, after leaving a trail of confused or irritated girlfriends, I started getting it right. Then I met my wife and got it mostly wrong, then finally right.

Now I have buckets of juicy kink, not everything I fantasized about, but more than I ever imagined — as I work on this new edition, I have just passed the 6 month mark for 24/7 chastity and this insane marathon was my wife’s idea! (That might not be your kink, but it is mine, so can we agree that that’s a success?)

On my journey to this happy state, I picked up a lot of experience the hard way, and compared notes with friends online and off.

As I said, my kink is Femdom. Yours could be almost anything consenting adults can safely get up to. I’m male and straight. You could be anywhere on the spectrum of gender and sexuality.

Even so, the painful lessons I learned with my fellow travellers still apply.

And that’s what this book is; a very short how-to guide so you can avoid the mistakes we made,

Reviews for How To Ask For Kink (And Make It Stick)

[Heather Allen · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Yes, Americans say p's and Q's

A very easy and fast read... Quick to the point with easy to implement advice.