From Narcissism to Nirvana: Becoming a Healthy Leader Through Spiritual Awareness

By Esther Hunter

Narcissism has gained popularity as people scramble to try and understand the strange behavior of so-called toxic individuals. A mountain of information exists to help identify red flags, often with the intention of ascertaining whom to avoid.

In Narcissism to Nirvana, author Esther Hunter explains how narcissism is not a dirty word and shouldn’t be feared. It’s simply a form of arrested development. She tells how the purpose of narcissism is to trigger us toward spiritual awakening. Conquering a narcissistic situation has extreme transformative power and can awaken the dormant leadership qualities inside of us.

We no longer need to be confused, hurt, or in a state of fear about encountering narcissists in our lives. By shining a light on the different ways we can use our own experiences with narcissism to achieve enlightenment, Narcissism to Nirvana provides the ultimate guide to alchemizing our struggles.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press AU
• Release date: Nov 22, 2021
• ISBN: 9781982292522

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CONTENTS

Preface

Introduction

Chapter 1     Life after Nirvana…

Chapter 2     Repression is unnatural surrender

Chapter 3     Bad Boy

Chapter 4     Feel the difference

Chapter 5     Getting involved with a Narcissist leads to no way out

Chapter 6     Low self-esteem is selfish

Chapter 7     How did we all get this way?

Chapter 8     Saviour complex

Chapter 9     Other ways to get there

Chapter 10   Passive resentment

Chapter 11   Learning to Create Again

Chapter 12   The Individuation Process

Chapter 13   Self-sufficiency is strange at first

Chapter 14   You need people with high self-esteem

Chapter 15   How to Be someone with high self-esteem

Chapter 16   Why the ‘Goldilocks’ metaphor works

Chapter 17   Language with children

Chapter 18   The Yang-only Club

Chapter 19   Addiction to not feeling

Chapter 20   Head and Heart

Chapter 21   Depression

Chapter 22   Punishment

Chapter 23   Opening the Box

Chapter 24   The leader you were born to be

PREFACE

I accidentally achieved Nirvana!

Narcissistic encounters are often a catalyst for spiritual awakening. We meet a narcissist or experience the result of being one and eventually start to wake up to the fact that there must be a better way to live. The purpose of twin flame unions is to trigger each other towards achieving the ultimate freedom from trauma, not label each other and repeat the cycle again elsewhere. Learning the lessons held within these difficult relationships allows us to become capable of consciously creating our lives thereafter. Conquering a narcissistic situation has extreme transformative power and can awaken the dormant leadership qualities inside of us.

You are a leader!

INTRODUCTION

Disclaimer - this book is not for or about healthy, well-raised, loved-up individuals. It will neither be needed, nor make sense, if you are a developmentally-sound and content adult. This book is for people who want to transcend their limited functioning. It’s for people who have never had a stable identity and deep down know that they are the reason they feel stuck or unhappy in life.

Narcissism is not to be feared. There is currently much speculation about whether, and why, we seem to be having an epidemic of narcissistic proportions in modern society. It is simply a form of arrested development. We are all born necessarily selfish; relying totally on our external environment to stay alive. As we age we should gradually learn trust, sharing, forgiveness, understanding, and acceptance of the people around us. As more and more people who have retained their obsession with self start raising children, they force their children to grow up in a home and in a world which requires them to be anything other than themselves to receive positive attention.

This book lovingly shines a light on how much pain and suffering is being drowned out, self-medicated, externally managed, angrily compensated for, emotionally repressed, and subconsciously unresolved. The degree to which you’ve been raised to accept, understand, love, and forgive yourself is the degree to which you’re able to offer those things to others. While we self-criticise, self-loathe, abandon, deny, and hide things about ourselves which we are ashamed about, we will never be able to look eye-to-eye into another human’s soul and connect as two whole beings. Everything will be seen through the lens of, ‘what do they think of me? Am I good enough? Are they good enough?’

We subconsciously choose our actions, thoughts, appearances, and professions based on which ones we think are the most likely to extract conditional approval from our external environment. This does not allow for open and loving communication. There is a way to finally feel free to completely be yourself. Interacting with the world then becomes about connection and not expectations. Your need to impose your will on the world around you to feel secure will vanish.

Narcissism is a protective adaptation. Nobody can give or receive love with a guarded heart. Living in survival-mode means you cannot know who you really are or how to consider others, and this disconnection leads to