The Emotional Kamikaze: How to Turn Your Sensitivity into Warm "Communicative Energy" to Excel in Relationships

By Emanuele M. Barboni Dalla Costa

If until now you have believed that your sensitivity, shyness and impulsiveness have interfered negatively in the development of your relationships, well, it is time to change your perspective.

What you have in your holster is the most powerful weapon of seduction, attraction and communication in the world. The bad news is that you have never learned how to properly manage all the power that runs through your veins and is called “emotion”. In short, you have been an ‘emotional kamikaze’ until now.

Think for a moment: how many opportunities have you wasted because of your shyness? How many toads have you swallowed because you were unable to respond in kind? How many times have you felt blocked and unable to handle a dialogue properly? How much more time are you going to waste in the limbo of the “unspoken”, of inner suffering, of regret with no possibility of appeal?

We are all in search of the ‘Lost Emotion’ and you, as a sensitive being, have a stratospheric advantage over the rest of the world. This will allow you to achieve personal satisfaction, higher self-esteem and more satisfying and lasting relationships. The point is that you don’t know this yet.

The good news is that thanks to this manual you will be able to see with new eyes the enormous potential that lies within you. A potential you didn’t even think you had.

Thanks to the “mechanism” explained in this book, you will learn how to channel your impulses and emotions in the correct way, transforming what you thought was your “factory defect” into a skill capable of radically changing, immediately and without any effort, the way you communicate in sentimental, friendship, work and family relationships.

Because remember that every relationship failure is a communication failure.

If, up to now, your sensitivity has created more disasters than opportunities, if your relationships are poor because you struggle to communicate your inner self in the right way, if you want to know the secret to transform what you thought was your worst flaw into an irresistible tool for seduction and attraction, don’t hesitate.

Continue reading this book.

CONTENTS
THE EMOTIONAL KAMIKAZE
About the Author
In Search of Lost Emotion
Breaking the Schema
The Primordial Need to Give and Receive Emotions
Doesn’t “I Love You” Mean Anything?
Just One Word: Transformation
The Power of the Word
You Have Never Communicated Truly Emotionally
You Think and You Say
Subconscious Penetration
Communication and Targets
Only if You Can Manage Emotions Can You Convey Them
Forgetting Impulsivity to Embrace Reflection
Sparking Emotional Memories Through Stories
The Mechanism. What You Say is not What You Think
The Misconceptions of the Sensitive and Emotional Man
Why We All Fear Approach
Shyness is Often an Excuse Not to Act
Shame: An Emotion Difficult to Control
Mental Approach, Fear and Benefits of Communicating with Emotions
Zero to One Hundred (with Handbrake Pulled)
Using Sensitivity to Stand Out
Being Sensitive is a ‘Plus’ (which has to be properly managed)
Logical and Metaphorical Language
Re-Learning to Communicate
Orienting the Emotional Spyglass
Emotional Discussion Topics
Deep Talk
How to Develop a Quality Dialogue
A Few Final Tips
Conclusions

• Language: English
• Publisher: Publishdrive
• Release date: Nov 14, 2021

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Emanuele M. Barboni Dalla Costa

The Emotional Kamikaze

How to Turn Your Sensitivity into Warm Communicative Energy to Excel in Relationships

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Contents

1. THE EMOTIONAL KAMIKAZE

2. About the Author

3. In Search of Lost Emotion

4. Breaking the Schema

5. The Primordial Need to Give and Receive Emotions

6. Doesn’t I Love You Mean Anything?

7. Just One Word: Transformation

8. The Power of the Word

9. You Have Never Communicated Truly Emotionally

10. You Think and You Say

11. Subconscious Penetration

12. Communication and Targets

13. Only if You Can Manage Emotions Can You Convey Them

14. Forgetting Impulsivity to Embrace Reflection

15. Sparking Emotional Memories Through Stories

16. The Mechanism. What You Say is not What You Think

17. The Misconceptions of the Sensitive and Emotional Man

18. Why We All Fear Approach

19. Shyness is Often an Excuse Not to Act

20. Shame: An Emotion Difficult to Control

21. Mental Approach, Fear and Benefits of Communicating with Emotions

22. Zero to One Hundred (with Handbrake Pulled)

23. Using Sensitivity to Stand Out

24. Being Sensitive is a ‘Plus’ (which has to be properly managed)

25. Logical and Metaphorical Language

26. Re-Learning to Communicate

27. Orienting the Emotional Spyglass

28. Emotional Discussion Topics

29. Deep Talk

30. How to Develop a Quality Dialogue

31. A Few Final Tips

32. Conclusions

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THE EMOTIONAL KAMIKAZE

If until now you have believed that your sensitivity, shyness and impulsiveness have interfered negatively in the development of your relationships, well, it is time to change your perspective.

What you have in your holster is the most powerful weapon of seduction, attraction and communication in the world. The bad news is that you have never learned how to properly manage all the power that runs through your veins and is called emotion. In short, you have been an ‘emotional kamikaze’ until now.

Think for a moment: how many opportunities have you wasted because of your shyness? How many toads have you swallowed because you were unable to respond in kind? How many times have you felt blocked and unable to handle a dialogue properly? How much more time are you going to waste in the limbo of the unspoken, of inner suffering, of regret with no possibility of appeal?

We are all in search of the ‘Lost Emotion’ and you, as a sensitive being, have a stratospheric advantage over the rest of the world. This will allow you to achieve personal satisfaction, higher self-esteem and more satisfying and lasting relationships. The point is that you don’t know this yet.

The good news is that thanks to this manual you will be able to see with new eyes the enormous potential that lies within you. A potential you didn’t even think you had.

Thanks to the mechanism explained in this book, you will learn how to channel your impulses and emotions in the correct way, transforming what you thought was your factory defect into a skill capable of radically changing, immediately and without any effort, the way you communicate in sentimental, friendship, work and family relationships.

Because remember that every relationship failure is a communication failure.

If, up to now, your sensitivity has created more disasters than opportunities, if your relationships are poor because you struggle to communicate your inner self in the right way, if you want to know the secret to transform what you thought was your worst flaw into an irresistible tool for seduction and attraction, don’t hesitate.

Continue reading this book.

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About the Author

Emanuele M. Barboni Dalla Costa (Milan, 1981) is an Italian trainer and coach specialising in improving interpersonal relationships through communication.

He is the author of numerous books on personal, emotional and work improvement.

His mantra is Every failure in a relationship derives from a failure in communication.

Website: https://bit.ly/emozionare

Email: [e-mail]

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In Search of Lost Emotion

It is quite natural to look for emotion in our daily lives. Think about when you watch a film, have a dialogue or read a book.

If the communication is flat, it literally leaves us with nothing: it is like having wasted time, having lost words, having missed an opportunity. The same applies to relationships.

How many books have you abandoned after just twenty or so pages precisely because they did not ‘grab’ you? Precisely because there was no emotional upheaval?

Because, in short, it added nothing to your daily life?

This is the point: we normally live most of our time in an a-emotional condition. Without pathos, without movement. We are overwhelmed by commitments, deadlines and daily rhythms which, however healthy and accommodating, do not move anything within our emotional sphere.

In a word: habit.

Habit is precisely the reason why we seek emotion. In other words, its exact opposite, its nemesis, the exception. Emotion is something new, different, electrifying. And this is also and above all true in relationships.

Think about it: how many times has the initial spark, the fuse of attraction that made everything exciting at the beginning of a relationship been extinguished within a few weeks?

Have you ever asked yourself why this happens?

I will tell you: because it is a natural process.

But I don’t think anyone here can disagree with the fact that that relationship spark should, or rather must, be rekindled from time to time. And I am not talking exclusively