Squeeze More Life out of Time: Manage Your Mind, Energy & Minutes to Live an Extraordinary Life

By Diane Cashin

YOU DESERVE TO LIVE AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE!

It’s not always about fame, fortune or glory. It’s about living a life designed by you, uniquely for you, because there is no one like you! You are one-of-a-kind. Only you get to determine what it means to live an Extraordinary Life.

Squeeze More Life Out of Time shares the secrets and techniques the most successful, happy, impactful people in the world use to live extraordinary lives and you can too! Going far beyond life hacks and tips to be more productive, Squeeze More Life Out of Time reconnects you to why

— YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY —

WHO YOU ARE | WHAT YOU REALLY WANT | HOW TO GET IT

The reasons you aren’t living the life you want is filled with stories, excuses and fear. It’s time to let go of those limiting thoughts and begin to live an Extraordinary Life from this moment forward!

Squeeze More Life Out of Time shares how to change your predictable, automatic behaviors that are holding you back to breakthrough and fearlessly create more love, peace, joy, health and financial stability in your life.

Squeeze More Life Out of Time provides a framework and steps for you to follow with lots of exercises to explore what lies ahead by listening to the answers that are within you!

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Apr 29, 2019
• ISBN: 9781546276364

Diane Cashin

Diane is the author of “Why You Didn’t Get the Job ~ Ten Steps for Success in Business. A Woman’s Guide to Navigating Her way to the Top. Diane partners with individuals and business leaders globally to create the “Extraordinary” in business and in life.

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Published by AuthorHouse  08/15/2019

ISBN: 978-1-5462-7638-8 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-5462-7637-1 (hc)

ISBN: 978-1-5462-7636-4 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2019900451

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Time to Look Within

Diane’s Story Becoming Who I Am

Sisterly Inspiration

Daddy’s Little Girl

Life’s Defining Moment

Being Everywhere

Keep Going

The Secret Formula

Becoming Who You Are Meant To Be

Soul, Mind and Body

The Secret Formula

Awareness

Ideal Choice

Time to Let Go and Move Forward

Letting Go of Your Sad Story

What Successful People Know

Time is of the Essence

Time to Become Who I Am

It’s All About You ~ Becoming Who I Am

Who Are You?

180º Degree View: Who Are You?

Being Who I Am

360º Degrees of Reciprocity

Time to Create an Extraordinary Life

What Do I Want?

7 Steps To Squeeze More Life Out of Time

Step 1: My Vision For An Extraordinary Life.

Step 2: What Is Missing Or In The Way Of Having What I Want?

Step 3: What If There Were No Obstacles?

Step 4: What Will Life Be Like When I Have It?

Step 5: What Price Am I Paying By Not Having What I Want?

Step 6: What I Am Committed To Creating?

Step 7: What I Will Do To Be Unstoppable?

My Extraordinary Life Goals

My Extraordinary Life Plan

Time to Make the Most of Every Minute

Squeeze More Life Out of Every Minute

What is Your Minute Rate?

Obvious Time Vampires

Time Multipliers

Disrupt Your Patterns

It’s Okay to Say No

15 Extraordinary Minutes

Time to Excite Your Mind & Love Your Body

Excite Your Mind

Protect Yourself From Negative Thoughts.

Creating Positive Thoughts

Guard Your Most Productive Hours

Create More of What You Want

Love Your Body

The Miracle You Are

Health and Wellness

Food and Nutrition

Hydration

Smoking and Addictive Substances

Annual Physicals

Empowered Recovery

Time to Squeeze More Life Out of Each Day

Squeeze More Life Out Of Each Day

Mornings: Life Awaits ~ No Time to Snooze

Early Birds

Morning Hour of Power

Evening Hour of Power

Any Time of Day Reset: Fulfill My Destiny Each Day

Time to Focus

Time to Let Go of Fear and Choose to Live

Where are You Choosing From?

Fear. It’s Everywhere and It’s Holding You Back

Where do I Get Stuck or Stop?

Discipline

Course Correction

Self-Saboteur

Carbohydrates

What is Your Go-To Escape?

Time for Extraordinary Relationships

Extraordinary Relationships

Be Love

Creating Joy and Happiness

Integrity, Pride & Respect

Judgment, Criticism & Gossip

Words Matter

Powerful Acknowledgements

Coach ~ Don’t Give Feedback

Extraordinary Communications

Time for An Extraordinary Career

Extraordinary Career

Being Your Best at Work

Amplify Your Career & Life

Managing Time at Work

Manage Your Meetings to Get Minutes Back

Time For Extraordinary Wealth

Extraordinary Wealth

How Do You Relate To Wealth?

Scarcity or Abundance

Money

Financial Freedom, Independence & Peace of Mind

Simplify Your Life

Less Is More

Automation & Outsourcing

Stacking

Time to Celebrate You

Celebrating You

Gratitude

Appendix

Appendix

SELF-

End Notes

End Notes

Dedication

Patty: Your infinite love and belief in me made Squeeze More Life Out of Time possible.

Ron: For being so humble you don’t realize you have superpowers.

Kathy: Everyone’s protector and for giving more love than anyone can absorb.

Mom: For always loving me more and instilling in me that even the impossible is possible when I believe in myself.

Adonna: Your life’s journey inspired every step of my life’s journey.

Acknowledgments:

Family Heroes:

Marge Owens, my Mother. For her wisdom, strength and grace and always loving me more. You will find her messages and stories throughout the book as only a mother’s love can shape and mold a child’s heart and mind.

Adonna Schultz, my Sister. For exemplifying how to live an Extraordinary Life. For showing everyone how to make memories to last a lifetime of lifetimes. You are my inspiration every day.

Thomas Cashin, My Father. Your journey gave me the wisdom and strength for my journey.

Kathy Johnson-Friendly, my Sister. For the phone call every day reminding me that I can make the impossible, possible.

Paul Onslager and Samantha Wilensky, My Children. Live big, loving, joyful Extraordinary Lives. Who I am is because of you!

Success Heroes:

Thank you for creating a space for me to feel safe and be a vulnerable mess, for cheering me on and holding me accountable. You knew exactly what I needed, would never let me fail, and always believed in me.

Patty Trimbath, Judy Delaney, Denise Donahue, Jeanette Heacock, Jennifer Washburn, Diane Benson, Andrea Bennick.

Inspirational Heroes:

Your tremendous wisdom, insights, collaboration, love and patience are the ingredients that make this book come to life.

George Nicholson, Liz Wilensky, Zalena Khan, Katy Gettinger-Egan, Jesse Robinson, Patrice D’Eramo-Flack, Don Neault, Amy Wilen-Buckman, Samantha Wilensky, David Rubal, Siana Johnson, Beth Donnelly, Joel and Kathy Johnson-Friendly, Thomas Cashin, Elaine Cashin, Peggy Cashin, Nancy Cashin.

INTRODUCTION

Today, I want to be unhappy.

Today, I want to be sick and limited by my body’s health.

Today, I want to suffer at work and be disconnected from those I love.

Today, I want to feel depressed, frustrated, angry, stressed or anxious.

Today, I want to struggle financially and not be paid what I am worth.

Today, I don’t want to live my dreams or fulfill my purpose.

— SAID NO ONE EVER

Yet, think about how many minutes, hours and days of your life disappear feeling this way. That life is hard. You have so many demands placed upon you that you are tired, sad, frustrated and unfulfilled. You feel like you are simply going through the motions, checking off the boxes. There isn’t enough time. You have no control over what is happening to you. Those around you create negativity in your life and bring you down. You just can’t seem to catch a break.

You go to bed each evening thankful to have survived another day and grateful for the good things that happened. Each moment of your day is now a part of your past and are now etched in time. While your body miraculously re-charges as you sleep, you awaken to a brand-new day, where everything is possible.

What your heart and soul really want is to experience is peace, love, happiness, health and financial stability.

Every day can be extraordinary, even when life’s difficult moments challenge you.

Today, I want to live My Extraordinary Life!

— Deserves Every Heart and Soul Always!

Only I Can Change My Life.

No One Can Do It For Me. — Carol Burnett

Squeeze More Life Out of Time pulls together secrets that are used by the most successful, happy, impactful people in the world who live Extraordinary Lives. I realize this is a big claim, so let me define more precisely what I mean by Extraordinary Life. Living an Extraordinary Life is not about fame, fortune or glory—even though it might bring one or all of these. Those who live an Extraordinary Life, live and lead their lives from a place of self-realization. This deep understanding of one’s own soul — or essential self — allows a person to live life from a place of peace, joy, kindness, calm, compassion, and levity, while also having the strength and power to be bold, disruptive, innovative, prosperous and also stand for what he or she believes, wants or needs.

Going far beyond time management, life hacks or tips for how be more productive, Squeeze More Life Out of Time takes you deep within — to look inside yourself and explore: (1) who you truly are, (2) what you really want, and (3) why you are not living your life to its fullest.

Do you want more out of your life? Are you experiencing what you truly want, need, desire and deserve? For the vast majority of us, the reason we avoid, procrastinate or deflect from creating the life we want is because we are trapped by the personal stories, excuses, worries, doubts, and fears we have accepted as unchangeable. This is what steals our precious time.

Squeeze More Life Out of Time offers a framework—a step-by-step manual—for how to realize your true self, your priorities, your needs, and your purpose so you, too, can live an Extraordinary Life!

The framework is designed to empower you to become more aware of what is working for you, and not working for you in your own life. Once this self-awareness is more realized, the book will provide you with techniques for how to envision and then make empowered choices, create breakthroughs and spark transformations, moving every aspect of your life forward towards greater success, happiness and self-fulfillment.

The Squeeze More Life Out of Time framework I developed — and present to you here in this book — is based on more than 25 years as a business leader and eight years as an ontological life and leadership coach, listening to what people regret in their lives (could’ve, should’ve, would’ve excuses) only to see the opportunities standing before them disappear. Squeeze More Life Out of Time provides you with everything you need to fearlessly create more life, more experiences, more memories, more love, more peace, more joy, more wealth, more health, more happiness.

This book is your trip planner and compass: It invites you to be an explorer, to discover your True North and to have an extraordinary journey. Each chapter invites you to explore what you want to create in your life, and notice what is missing. In time, you will also uncover the forces blocking you, and develop an action plan for how to have it all.

This Is Your One-Of-A-Kind,

Unique Life Journey — Designed By You

While it is important to spend time thinking about how to have what you want, this is only one of the ingredients needed to create the life you want. It is not where you begin. To Squeeze More Life Out of Time, you first need to become more fully aware of: (1) who you are, (2) what you want and (3) why you want it, separate and apart from all the stories you’ve told yourself and the limitations and fears you and your past experiences may have imposed on you day-in and day-out. Only then will you be truly ready to develop plans for (4) how to create your Extraordinary Life.

Everyone experiences defeatist feelings like I don’t deserve or I can’t have — an amazing life, more health, abundant wealth, unconditional love and joy. It’s okay, you are not alone. The great news is you don’t have to remain stuck there. Regardless of your life’s circumstances, income level or title, there is so much more life for you to live!

Squeeze More Life Out of Time shares insights from my many clients, from many different and diverse backgrounds, who were seeking help and clearly unhappy, but who each came to me utterly convinced that their life is what it is and they must accept the everyday routines cannot change. Many had even stopped dreaming. They told me they felt tired and uninspired yet had firmly accepted that this is all there is. Over time, however, the vast majority of these clients were wise enough to realize that more life awaited them. Working together, in coaching sessions, and using the framework and techniques provided to you in this book, my clients became committed to doing what is necessary to become self-aware and get unstuck!

Once people experience the power that comes from letting go of living life from a negative, limited way of being and thinking, they can create big things in their lives. The change is remarkable to witness. Realizing they actually have what they need to create what they desire in life; they reach for it and then get it. Once people experience living life at this bigger more expansive level, trust me they don’t ever want to go back to playing a small-life game.

I wrote Squeeze More Life Out of Time so everyone can tap into their own personal power to live an Extraordinary Life faster. When you apply the practice areas and exercises in this book, you will achieve your dreams and goals.

The Realm of New Possibilities In Your Life

Are Created Outside Your Comfort Zone

Squeeze More Life Out of Time’s framework and tools are unique. I developed this method over eight years as a life and leadership coach to business executives, politicians, entrepreneurs, change makers, and other hard-working people who live in the fast-paced Washington DC, Virginia, Maryland metro-area region. This method is also deeply informed by my own personal life transformation, the principles of ontological coaching, as well as Eastern Philosophy, which I became exposed to through extensive international travel in Nepal, India and other countries. Squeeze More Life Out of Time isn’t intended to give advice. After all, it’s your journey, so how could anyone, especially me, know what is best for you? Only you have the answers about what is best for you.

It is because of this imperative to dive deep into your-self and the personal experiences and stories that have shaped who you are, that I have chosen to share a lot of my own personal stories in this book, to offer perspectives around my own journey of self-transformation, which also deeply informs the framework I am offering to you.

I will confess, there are a few important topics where I do offer more explicit guidance, direction, advice or suggestions, from a place of love and in service to you. I hope you appreciate the spirit and intent in which this is offered. You get to decide if you want to ponder it, discard it or keep it. It’s entirely your choice and your journey.

Along your journey, I will share difficult stories from my own childhood, growing up very poor in the Kensington neighborhood of Philadelphia. My father, an ex-Marine who was my true hero, was also an alcoholic. His personal suffering and regret produced immense trauma for my mother, my siblings and me. My three aunts—whom I loved very deeply—all died in close succession. My brother died from complications from medication interaction at the age of 38 and my sister died too young from cancer. These experiences of disrupted love, trauma and profound loss shaped me indelibly. Yet it was not until I uncovered how they shaped me, and the distorted stories they imprinted in my mind, that I could find my own way forward towards personal healing, self-awareness, and empowered choices which led me to the Extraordinary Life that I describe in this book.

Squeeze More Life Out of Time is about becoming aware of who you are being when you make choices. Are you creating an amazing life by making empowered choices, or are your choices automatic, rote, born out of past pain and the stories you’ve always told yourself which no longer serve you?

You get one lifetime of experiences while you are here on earth. How will you Squeeze More Life Out of Time?

• Is there something your soul is yearning to do?

• Are you ready to be happy?

• Are you ready to dispel of your past stories and create your Extraordinary Life from this moment forward?

• Are you ready to explore what you would like more of and what you need less of to Squeeze More Life Out of Time?

• Are you ready to create a life that brings you joy, love, friendship, companionship, fun, laughter, adventure, travel, wealth, creativity, abundance and so much more?

• Are you ready to live life from a place of peace, joy, kindness, calm, compassion, and levity, which will also allow you to be bold, disruptive, innovative, prosperous, and stand firmly for what you believe?

If you are, I invite you to join me…. and begin your own Extraordinary Life journey.

Your Extraordinary Life

Designed By You,

Uniquely For You,

Because There Is No One Like You!

TIME TO LOOK WITHIN

DIANE’S STORY BECOMING WHO I AM

To achieve my definition of greatness, fulfill my destiny and Squeeze More Life Out of Time, I had to let go of my sad story — growing up in poverty with plenty of dysfunction, chaos, fear, lack, and trauma from being exposed to numerous inappropriate sexual encounters. It was my life. It was all I knew. My sad story was how I related to myself. For most of my life, my sad story was Who I Am. It kept me trapped, living life with small thoughts. I fought off sadness and depression.

I was conflicted because my soul wanted to be happy. My soul was fighting to be heard as my mind kept replaying past memories and the my sad story recording. In order to live the life of my dreams, I would need to look deeply within myself to discover the gifts I received along my sad journey.

When I changed how I related to my past, and embraced it as my boot camp, that it made me stronger, and prepared me for my life’s unique journey, I could let go of my sad story. It had no more power over my thoughts and my soul began feeling happy again. I could embrace the wisdom I received during life’s most difficult moments, creating a shift that empowered me to live an Extraordinary Life filled with peace, love, and joy every day.

SISTERLY INSPIRATION

I was inspired to write this book after my sister Adonna passed away. She knew how to Squeeze More Life Out of Time! She had clarity of purpose, she knew who she was in the world and she made a massive difference in everyone’s life. Adonna was creative, wise, loving, beautiful, playful, and she created extreme life memories! Adonna shared so many of her divine talents as