Don't Let A Break-Up Break You Down

By Cassandra Mack

Breaking up sucks. Your ex dumped you. You cut him off. You both agreed to go your separate ways, even though you really didn't want to. When it's all said and done, it doesn't even matter. The feelings that follow are basically the same. You can't stop crying. You can't stop thinking about him. And you can't stop wondering: Where did we go wrong? One minute you hate him. The next minute you miss him desperately. The days drag on and the nights are absolutely torturous. You find yourself waiting by the phone hoping he calls. With the compulsion of a telemarketer, you check your email hoping he reaches out to say how sorry he is and that letting you go was all a big mistake.

Lately you don't know whether you're coming or going. You're angry, depressed and confused, all at the same time. And you're starting to wonder if you'll ever feel happy again. Every love song reminds you of him. Every romantic movie reinforces how lonely you feel. Your heart is aching. Your head is spinning. And every fiber of your being longs to be with him again. No matter how much you tell yourself that you need to move on, you just can't seem to pull yourself out of this slump.
Your friends are tired of hearing about him. Between your play-by-play relationship reruns and your never ending phone rants that begin and end with: Do you think he still cares? You are driving your friends completely nuts.

 

Deep down, you know you need to move on. But you just can't find the wherewithal to get on with your life. And nowadays with  social media, getting over a break up is increasingly hard to do. This is where, Don't Let A Break-Up, Break You Down, comes in. This book is a break-up survival guide designed to help you get through your break-up with your self-respect and dignity intact because as sad and as bad as you feel right now, you can get through this.

 

The hard cold truth is as sad as you feel right now surviving a break-up has more to do with your mindset and willingness to move forward than it has to do with your mood and emotions. In no way am I downplaying your break-up, because the pain that comes with the end of a relationship hurts like hell, no matter who ended it. Be that as it may, the longer you hold on to an ex who doesn't want to be with you or who is unwilling or unable to give you what you need, the more you prolong your heartbreak and keep yourself trapped in relationship purgatory. So why not get in the driver's seat of your break-up by turning your break-up into a break-over. After all, a smart girl like you doesn't want to waste a whole lot of time moping over a guy who has chosen to call it quits or who has treated you so poorly that he's left you with no alternative than to kick his sorry ass to the curb.

 

With that said here's what's going to happen in this book: you'll receive my break-up survival rules which are bite-sized strategies designed to help you do three things: put your situation into perspective, refuse to get trapped in relationship purgatory and take proactive steps to move forward. Also included are the Let It Rip Pages, which are blank pages specifically designed for you to put any rage you're feeling and your most intense emotions on paper so that you don't bring your crazy onto the job, out in cyberspace or on your ex's front lawn. Reading this book does not mean that you won't miss your ex, or that you won't feel sad and lonely sometimes. You will still go through the gamut of emotions that come with grieving the end of a relationship. The difference is you will go through with a guide that will help you get to the other side so that you can find the strength to move on and become hopeful about your future.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Cassandra Mack
• Release date: Sep 9, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201404741

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Disclaimer

The information contained in this book is strictly for educational and informational purposes only. Therefore, if you wish to apply ideas contained in this book, you take full responsibility for your actions. This book is solely the opinion of the author and should not take the place of therapy, professional advice, direction and/or diagnosis or treatment of any kind: medical, mental, emotional or other. This book is not intended to be a substitute for therapy or professional advice. If expert advice or counseling is needed, services of a licensed mental health professional should be sought.

Dedication

This book is dedicated to all of the women who refuse to let a break up break them down.

A heartfelt thanks to my entire family. And it goes without saying thank you mom.

Contents

Intro

Break-Up Survival Rule #1. Know That You Will Get Through This

Break-Up Survival Rule #2. Accept That You and Your Ex Have Really Broken Up

Break-Up Survival Rule #3. Brace Yourself for The 5 Stages of Grief

Break-Up Survival Rule #4. Ride It Out With A Friend

Break-Up Survival Rule #5. Recognize That It’s Over For A Reason

Break-up Survival Rule #6. Oh Hell No, You Cannot Be Friends

Break-Up Survival Rule #7. Get Rid of Everything That Reminds You of Your Ex

Break-up Survival Rule #8. Stop Searching for Reasons To Call Him

Break-Up Survival Rule #9. Cut Off All Contact

Break-Up Survival Rule #10. No Online Stalking

Break-Up Survival Rule #11.  No Post Break-Up Sex

Break-Up Survival Rule #12. Stop Coincidently Bumping Into Your Ex

Break-Up Survival Rule #13. Find Something Else To Talk About Besides Your Ex

Break-Up Survival Rule #14. If You Run Into Your Ex With His New Significant Other, Poise Is The Name of The Game

Break-up Survival Rule #15. Don’t Make It About Her

Break-up Survival Rule #16. Don’t Be That Girl Who Lets Herself Go

Break-Up Survival Rule #17. Remember All The Coldhearted Things He Did To Piss You Off and Make You Cry

Break-Up Survival Rule #18. Make A Top Ten Un-Favorite List

Break-Up Survival Rule #19. Engage Your Rage

Break-Up Survival Rule #20. Find The Warning Signs You Didn’t Want To See

Break-Up Survival Rule #21. Identify The Lessons Learned

Break-Up Survival Rule #22. No Rebounding

Break-Up Survival Rule #23. Stop Calling In Sick

Break-Up Survival Rule #24. No On The Job Meltdowns

Break-Up Survival Rule #25. Do Something Nice for Somebody Else

Break-Up Survival Rule #26. Get Back To Being The Woman You Used To Be

Break-Up Survival Rule #27. Choose To Be Happy

Break-Up Survival Rule #28. Upgrade Your Life

Break-Up Survival Rule #29. Name and Claim Your Strengths

Break-Up Survival Rule #30. Don’t Spend So Much Time Being Bitter That Life Passes You By

Break-Up Survival Rule #31. Flip Your Internal Script

Break-Up Survival Rule #32. Have A Vision for Your Future

Break-Up Survival Rule #33. Give Art Therapy A Try

Break-Up Survival Rule #34. Forgive Your Ex, But Do It for You

Break-up Survival Rule #35. Do One Thing That You’ve Always Wanted To Do Just for You

Break-up Survival Rule #36. Know That You’ve Come A Long Way Baby

Break-up Survival Rule #37. No One Is Going To Love You Better Than You Love Yourself,

Closing Words

Let It Rip Pages. Journaling Pages Where You Can Put Your Rage & Most Intense Emotions On Paper, Instead of Going Off On Your Ex

Intro

Breaking up sucks. Your ex dumped you. You cut him off. You both agreed to go your separate ways, even though you really didn’t want to. When it’s all said and done, it doesn’t even matter. The feelings that follow are basically the same. You can’t stop crying. You can’t stop thinking about him. And you can’t stop wondering: Where did we go wrong?

One minute you hate him. The next minute you miss him desperately. The days drag on and the nights are absolutely torturous. You find yourself waiting by the phone hoping he calls. With the compulsion of a telemarketer, you check your texts & voicemail hoping he reaches out to say how sorry he is and that letting you go was all a big mistake.

Lately you don’t know whether you’re coming or going. You’re angry, depressed and confused, all at the same time. And you’re starting to wonder if you’ll ever feel happy again.

Every love song reminds you of him. Every romantic movie reinforces how lonely you feel. Your heart is aching. Your head is spinning. And every fiber of your being longs to be with him again. No matter how much you tell yourself that you need to move on, you just can’t seem to pull yourself out of this slump.

Your friends are tired of hearing about him. Between your play-by-play relationship reruns and your never-ending phone rants that begin and end with: Do you think he still cares? You are driving your friends completely nuts.

Deep down, you know you need to move on. But you just can’t find the wherewithal to get on with your life. And nowadays with Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, getting over a break up is increasingly hard to do.

This is where, Don’t Let A Break-Up, Break You Down, comes in. It’s a break-up survival guide designed to help you get through your break-up with your self-respect and dignity intact because as sad and as bad as you feel right now, this break-up doesn’t have to break you down.

The hard-cold truth is as sad as you feel right now surviving a break-up has more to do with your mindset and willingness to move forward than it has to do with your mood and emotions. In no way am I downplaying your break-up, because the pain that comes with the end of a relationship hurts like hell, no matter who ended it. Be that as it may, the longer you hold on to an ex who doesn’t want to be with you or who is unwilling or unable to give you what you need, the more you prolong your heartbreak and keep yourself trapped in relationship purgatory.

So why not get in the driver’s seat of your break-up by turning your break-up into a break-over. After all, a smart girl like you doesn’t want to waste a whole lot of time moping over a guy who has chosen to call it quits or who has treated you so poorly that he’s left you with no alternative than to kick him to the curb.

With that said here’s what’s going to happen in this book: you’ll receive my break-up survival rules which are bite-sized strategies designed to help you do