The Tit 4 Tat Solution

By Bengt Olov Danielsson

Life is not an easy thing to embrace. It is like trying to hug an elephant.

There are, in our society and in any other society throughout our world, rules, parameters, and etiquette that all of us must take into consideration before we make demands.

Where we happen to exist, we must, as independent human beings, adopt to clear the way to create for ourselves the opportunities needed to embrace life in the most positive and fullest way.

This book is focused on each of us, as individuals, and not the entire world. It shares the authors’ thinking on the four (4) important subjects that pretty much engross our personal lives each and every day. The book offers clarity of mind and reasons for understanding and benefitting from reminders on human relations, personal finance, personal health and invisible support. It will assist the reader, in a manner of speaking, to have a conversation with his/her future that can be both invigorating and challenging. Especially so when you realize that we can control what happens to us most of the time. Our future is ours to design, plan, build, and move into.

It is all about positive human relations and individual self-realization.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Oct 19, 2018
• ISBN: 9781982212117

Bengt Olov Danielsson

Bengt Olov Danielsson is a nondescript writer whose first attempt at influential authorship is this book. He felt inspired to write this book because of the apparent growing uncertainty that seems to be everywhere concerning our future wellbeing. He was born in Stockholm, Sweden, served in the U.S.M.C and became a US citizen 1958. Throughout his entire life he has worked with people from ‘all walks of life’ and has found that they have acted toward him and treated him always in the same way as he treated them. Bottom line, the author has had a good and productive life. This book is the authors’ way of wanting to remind us all of a lot of stuff that works well and is totally constructive in helping to build a better life.

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Copyright © 2018 Bengt Olov Danielsson.

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KJV: Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

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The intent of the author of this book is to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for living the best life possible for yourself.

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2018910903

Balboa Press rev. date: 10/17/2018

CONTENTS

PREAMBLE

HUMAN RELATIONS

PERSONAL FINANCE

PLANNING

PERSONAL HEALTH

INVISIBLE SUPPORT

TRUTHS OF INFINITE IMPORTANCE

SUMMARY

The

TIT 4 TAT

SOLUTION

< Beneficial Things to Remember >

and

DO

Bengt Olov Danielsson

IN LIFE, THERE IS TOO

MUCH TO GAIN TO LOSE!

Awaken your intellect, your reasoning power. This is a time of preparations for what is expected of ALL HUMAN BEINGS to enable a good life to be lived.

LEARNING is guided SELF-DEVELOPMENT.

Book Review

This stunning, remarkable, well-intended self-realization book – demands a wide audience.

Grandfather’s Own Thoughts

WARNING!!!

What you are about to be reminded of is non-controversial.

It may be non-offensive and non-disturbing to ALL audiences.

Reader attention can be highly beneficial.

KNOW THIS!

This book is FOR YOU and about you. It is about answering the one very important question that is COMMON to All Human Beings and which you NEED a helpful answer to.

This is the question!

What do I need to do for myself to live the best and most positive life I can?

WELCOME TO A DEGREE

OF ENLIGHTENMENT

Let me start out by saying – Learning how to be living a good life is not going to be all that easy. But it can be a very interesting and potentially very positive undertaking that is doable and well worth all our time on this earth.

All you will need are some good common sense directions and a clear realistic picture, in your mind, of all the good and meaningful things you would like for yourself and your family. Then start moving mountains.

Remember, as one human being you cannot be expected to, nor will you be able to, change the world and all its citizens. But you may be able to benefit greatly from looking at yourself and consider changing yourself in all ways that you would deem beneficial to you based on your personal goals for living a good life.

This book, TIT4TAT, will provide you with much good insight on how to do it for your considerations and benefit.

Look for Eye Openers

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Something that causes your mind’s eye to see an opening to enlightenment or startling disclosure or experience. It is always the mind that sees. The eyes are merely receptors that translate light rays into signals to the brain.

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You Are CAPABLE!

To PLAN your life’s direction is to believe in tomorrow.

Learning what to do and how to do it, AND accepting full responsibility for getting it done, - THIS is a good cause for success.

You should consider reading this book IF you are at all curious about and desirous of learning how the life you are currently living can be made better for you (by you). Is there any doubt in your mind that any current situation(s) of yours cannot be made better?

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AN INTRODUCTION TO

SELF-REALIZATION

GRANDFATHER’S LEGACY OF HOPE

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.

(Rumi, Persian Poet – 1207-1273)

"To be or not to be,

That is your decision."

(Your Teachers)

PERHAPS?

When you pick up a book that has peaked your interest, it is a pretty good bet that you had good reasons in mind. Anytime you decide to peruse the contents of a book, it is most likely because your curiosity and your desire to know more about a specific subject overruled other thoughts.

This book is formatted somewhat different than other books you have read. When you read a story, true story or fiction, you have the beginning, the middle, and the ending, and everything is correlated. When reading this book, you will find that just about every paragraph or page contains these three parts. Therefore, it is suggested that you read this book in a perhaps more meticulous fashion since, to the writer’s intent, each paragraph or page will or may contain both a question and answer in order to most clearly and timely make the point.

Slow, thoughtful reading while mindfully putting the pieces of this puzzle together will benefit you the most.

Your personal THINKING TIME when reading here should be on the side of generosity.

About This Book

It is suggested by the experts, the very knowledgeable book publishing gurus, that you present your book on the first few pages with some very mind-catching words to entice all potential readers to want to read the entire book immediately.

Well, I tried putting some very positive and important mind-catching words on a one page presentation, and believe me there are many. But when I completed my attempt, I realized I had completed this entire book.

Big point here – Everything in this book can be very mind catching and, I believe, will have the potential of being extremely helpful to all who undertake reading this book. After all, I cannot think of any human being who does not want to have a good life, and if they are already living a good life – to make it better. Better is better!

This book is an introduction to REMINDERS of knowledge that many of us already know, but do not necessarily use or practice as much as we should to earn, for ourselves, the most benefits available.

When you want or need to do something, it has already been decided, in your mind, what it is. What you now have to do is also learn and decide what you have to do, what steps or moves you need to take in order to get done what is on your mind.

Your mind does not automatically fill itself with ideas of pleasant and profitable opportunities for you to pursue and complete. You have to WANT something first, and that something, I trust, will always be things that will add to and continue to build a good life for you and your family.

This book is full of common sense insight to the functioning of the human mind. It suggests how the human mind can respond when it is fed certain input. The content of this book is not intended to tell you what you should do; that is your decision to make. But it does suggest what your results can or will be if you use this knowledge in a positive way.

Remember this, and please always keep it in the forefront of the THINKING part of your mind. Your present will be determined by your past. Therefore, in the future you should be very careful what you do in your past. (Ziggy cartoon)

When planning for the rest of your life, THINK ABOUT IT this way. Your life will always consist of the PAST, the PRESENT, and the FUTURE.

The past is the past. You can THINK about it, you can LEARN from it, and, hopefully, be happy about what you accomplish. Other than that, you cannot go back and do things differently or undo things you did.

The present is now, TODAY. What have you planned for today that can and will make you feel good and proud at the end of TODAY? Remember, once TODAY is over, it becomes the past. Do not let TODAY go by in vain.

The Future – ah! The future. This is where everything will happen for you that has not yet happened. Are you prepared? Your future is all yours to do with whatever you want. The only thing you FIRST have to do is decide What do you want?

Question! Why would you not want to make your every future move count toward something, anything that could be to your personal benefit?

I am hoping that you are a person who wants good and pleasant things to happen to you and be forever a part of a good life for you. Listen! We all have opportunities to make things better for ourselves; it will just depend on how much we want to make things better.

This book is intended to be educational, informational, and inspirational.

Always keep this in mind – Tomorrow’s comforts require today’s preparations. Don’t sell yourself short. Live for today, but also prepare yourself for tomorrow.

The ‘MO’ you know should be part of your daily thinking about yourself.

This book is not written as the traditional story where the plot evolves and ends up with a big bang.

However, each section of this book will remind you of many different things, all positive. And each section will demonstrate the point that the writer wants to share with you. So each section can stand on its own validity. But when you complete your reading of this book and you put all the sections together, it will, hopefully, represent to you a very usable eye opener and positive guide to how best you can live and foster a good life for yourself.

You will notice, when reading, that many thoughts are being repeated several times in the various sections. The reason for this, in the author’s mind, is the importance to you of getting it!

What Else is This Book All About?

It is about figuring out for ourselves the potential value we can create for ourselves, personally, with each step we take as we walk through our respective lives. Because of all the circumstances that we are constantly surrounded by, and the indisputable fact that we have an absolute limit of 24 hours each day to make the most of everything positive, each positive step we take can add to our coffer, and each negative step we take can reduce what is already in our coffer.

Well, you may question, Does that mean every minute we are awake and walking around we have to be tip toeing around, carefully, so we don’t ‘trip’ and hurt ourselves? Metaphorically speaking, Yes!

It is, to my way of thinking, humanly impossible to be your most productive self if you try to walk around each and every day without being able to tell yourself, with reasonable accuracy, which direction your feet should be facing as you walk. Telling yourself which direction your feet should be facing as you walk through each day, week, and month of your lifetime is not going to be all that difficult. It is not going to be difficult because you are already doing it, to an extent. You are essentially giving your feet direction each time you make a decision to do something, i.e., driving to work, driving to go shopping, perhaps picking the children up from school, going with your family to church, etc. These are simple examples. But the effort to create a direction for your feet to take you wherever you decide you need and want to go with your life will involve a little more thinking on your part. Thinking about positive things into your future is usually filled with much pleasure and anticipation, thereby making it a lot easier to accomplish. And, of course, the only basic human resource you will need to start the ball rolling, as it were, is you. Yes, you are and will be the producer and director of your own life. Perhaps a good motto could be, Life is a do-it-yourself job, which I will nurture into a good life.

The intent of this writing is to help you with some good reasons and reminders of how we can accomplish creating the most beneficial directives for ourselves.

The potential values that can be created for ourselves, that I alluded to in the first sentence above, can be about nurturing our health, adding to our knowledge base, adding to our group of friends, adding to and protecting our personal finances, etc.

Please keep the intent of this writing on the front burner as you read and think about what is being suggested.

About the Author

You may wonder who is this Grandfather who is writing this book, Tit4Tat?

Well, I would love to be in a position to outline here all my writing accomplishments by noting all of the various awards that I have collected in my lifetime, but Alas! I cannot. Besides an occasional very long letter, a short speech, a subjective short lecture, this book is my very first attempt at influential authorship. However, in my humble opinion, one does not need to be a well-known, highly accomplished writer to share helpful knowledge gained from 80 years of living a good and productive life.

Having learned and acquired the knowledge, the ideas of how you can produce for yourself a good and productive life should be of interest to all. It is knowing how to develop an accurate answer to the proverbial question whenever anything happens in your life, good or bad, Why did this happen?

Remember that there are always reasons that back up everything that happens in our lives. It is commonly referred to as the Cause and Effect phenomenon.

That is what this book is all about. And my personal experiences that I have enjoyed up until now (and it does continue) is based on REMEMBERING and exercising what, in a highly positive sense, is total common sense moves on my human brothers and sisters.

When you are in a position, as a human being, and you realize that you can only progress your life with the help and assistance of other human beings, you cannot function effectively if you do not, at least, have a good basic knowledge of what makes you and what makes all others Tick.

This book, Tit4Tat has many good basic REMINDERS of how to deal with Human Relations, Personal Health, and Personal Finance, and what I believe are valuable ideas of how we should consider thinking about just about everything meaningful.

Author’s Objective!

To remind us ALL of an END toward which our efforts should be directed, should be aimed at.

This END will represent the attainment of our purpose on this earth, the fulfillment of living a good life, and being able to shout with sincerity;

EUREKA!

(An exclamation of triumph at having discovered early in our lives God’s intent for living our life when creating humanity in His own image.)

Just think of the author as the MESSENGER.

My thought is – Helping one human being will not change the world. But surely for that one human being the world will change forever. I will attempt to help someone in need to be reminded of and recognize advantageous tools to use to enable the best possible life to be lived.

My Opening Suggestion

I suggest to all of us with all my sincere affections for Humanity

NO EXCUSES

Making excuses for yourself for not doing right

by yourself is MOST NEGATIVE.

To all of us who may feel that we did not get the breaks as we were growing up, for those who feel they were short changed by their upbringing – LISTEN!

Are you looking back on your past to try to figure out why you are not doing now what you now know you should be doing for yourself?

Other human beings do not owe us (individually) anything unless and until we have first given them a reason to feel indebted. However, we owe ourselves a lot. How? By learning how to get along, in a positive way, with others, and by learning what is required from each of us to live a good life for ourselves. Know that there are reasons for everything that ever happened or will happen to each of us in our lives. Learn what works well and what does not work well. And then choose which directions you want to proceed with your life.

It is a Do-It-Yourself Life!

If you have any doubts about this heading, Don’t! It is definitely a Do-It-Yourself-Life, so whatever you do TO yourself and FOR yourself, you have to live with it. Therefore, make doubly certain that you only do good things for yourself and let some of the good stuff you do flow over to others who may always be able to use a helping hand.

That is what the Tit4Tat concept has always meant (except for the original usage, which involved WARS).

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IS IT RELEVANT?

What we think should be relevant. What we say should be relevant. What we do should be relevant.

BUT, relevant to what?

RELEVANT to our acknowledged PURPOSE for living our lives.

RELEVANCE is important to each of us in TODAY’S WORLD. Living a good life demands a continuing process of matching our positive thoughts with our positive actions.

From the initial stage of visualizing how we want our life to play out, relevance will be a major factor in allowing us to adjust our available time to perform the essentials for living a good life.

This book has many pages, and to many readers of today who are looking for ways to learn in smaller slices of time, do consider this:

•In addition to the opening Salvo and the Summary sections, this writing has six (6) distinctly separate sections of reminders of good stuff. It is almost like six (6) separate smaller books that can be read separately at any time.

•When you complete your reading of the six (6) separate sections, these reminders will no doubt flow together in your mind and give you a clear and pleasant picture of how a human being’s life can be arranged (by you) in the most pleasant and fruitful manner.

This book is intended to help us better understand how to BUILD a good life for ourselves and what we need to do to SUSTAIN a good life.

Remember that all the building blocks that you will need for a good life emanate from human beings.

Salute

Here is to ALL of us who live and work for satisfaction and security.

Knowing how Life is meant to work will give us an advantage that can help ALL of us.

Knowing the existence of the cause and effect phenomenon can move us ALL a little closer to perfection.

May we ALL do, for ourselves, what we know we should do, without delay.

May we never, ever have an opportunity to think to ourselves, I wish I had done that!

Knowledge is what gives human beings abilities. Abilities are what gives a human being value. Remember, a human being without knowledge has no abilities and, therefore, it would suggest has no value.

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Your Ability inventory, the larger the better, is what will allow you to become more successful.

Does this Formula give you some food for thought?

I am hoping it will.

Focus on the Following as You Keep on Reading

Continuous effort, not strength or intelligence, is key to unlocking our potential (Winston Churchill).

Meaning: You can possess all the knowledge in the world, but if you put NO EFFORT into applying it to gain results for yourself – it is of little or no value.

Creating a spending plan and envisioning what you want down the line actually stimulates the same part of the brain that the Lottery does. It is emotions, it is that vision, that is what motivates people, not lectures (Brad Klontz, Financial Psychologist).

Meaning: A spending plan, in this quote, means a Plan, by you, as to how you want to spend your TIME and your MONEY to create and live a good life for yourself and your family.

THINK ABOUT IT!

If I have used this saying, Think About It, once, I must have used it a million times in this book.

I want to explain why. To my way of thinking, the expressions Think About It means the same as the warning shout, WATCH IT. It is meant for your benefit.

You understand when someone hollers WATCH IT. It is usually to prevent another person from being injured by a potential dangerous happening. Writing or saying THINK ABOUT IT is intended to entice people to STOP and consider the pros and cons of what is being said or read, and evaluate how it could or may affect you personally. The saying is meant for you to give the subject matter enough thinking time to fully understand it, and gain from it everything that could be beneficial for you.

Let’s Have a Good Talk

This is grandfather’s unsolicited, prudent advice for living a good life, for his off-springs and all human brothers and sisters who would like self-sustaining good counsel.

To my own family, I realized some time ago that it would be both mentally and physically impossible for all of you to lend me your ears long enough to allow me sufficient time to tell you, to REMIND you of the many proper, good, an simple ways to live a good life. Things that us old timers learned years ago and which are still in vogue today, and will be tomorrow and forever.

Over the years as you all grew and matured, there were times when I put on your table some food for thought, which at the time I felt would be good for you to be aware of. I realized that as young little humans you only ate what you wanted to eat and your vegetables always seemed to be the losers.

Well, hopefully at this point in your life your mind’s appetite will be more wanting for nourishment and that you will be willing to try to rationalize and more easily and clearly understand, in your own way, what can be good for you. Not only good for your physical health, but that your maturity and more clear understanding of all things, in general, will allow you to digest more of the same kind of food for thought.

Although this time it will serve you even better since now you are, and some of you will soon be, on your own. When it comes to guiding your own life, it will be advantageous to have learned how to rationalize what will be truly most beneficial for you and your present and future families.

This menu of REMINDERS, and they really are reminders of very meaningful thoughts and human behaviors that has always been an integral part of what is still today a very sensitive and extremely important subject called Human Relations. To your grandfather’s way of thinking, a good dose of knowledge and understanding of how effective positive human relations works is paramount to giving everyone the opportunity to living a good and successful life.

Why not consider this book as another pocket dictionary that you can use over and over again, at your convenience, to refresh your memory on what human beings need to always be keenly aware of when trying to get along and work together for mutual benefits.

A great ending begins with you. Your rewards from living your life is and will always be a direct consequence of what you do. Without knowledge, a human being is not worth much. THINK ABOUT IT!

Greetings

You will now be REMINDED to REMEMBER!

You will never reach an age beyond which you can no longer do good for yourself and for others. Use your every living moment to your advantage. Time is a most valuable resource, BUT only if you do something VALUABLE with it.

The use of common sense, of being practical, judicious, sensible, and of having an instinct of self-preservation should prevail in all our activities to move our lives forward.

It will be clear in your mind, as you read on, that all the challenges you will face will always, and ONLY, involve other human beings as well as Mother Nature.

When you learn and you act on what you have learned, you will come to realize that the WORDS you use when communicating with others and the ACTIONS you display (your attitude/behavior) with others will give you specific results that will define how effective living your life can be. In other words, how you decide to deal with other human beings will help define the quality of your own life.

The content of this book will help you to have a conversation with your future and it will begin now. Since the author has not had any formal introduction to the techniques of writing, what you see is what you get. However, will it really matter how useful knowledge is being conveyed as long as it is in a clear and reasonably complete manner? The knowledge the author wishes to share with you is as important to our overall well-being Today and Tomorrow as it was centuries ago.

Your journey through life will benefit by your basic knowledge and adherence to four essential subjects:

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Having good basic knowledge and understanding of these subjects will definitely facilitate living your life in the most positive and best way possible. This book will attempt to give you that good basic understanding.

If a picture is worth 1,000 words, can you imagine what an UNDERSTANDING can be worth, to you, as it concerns knowing how life will treat you in return for how you treat life? Living a good life has to do (all the time) with communicating with, working with, and accomplishing positive things with other people. Nothing will affect our lives more than our mode of action toward each other.

REMINDERS

Are you looking favorably on REMINDERS?

If not, do remember that a reminder is just as valuable as remembering, especially if you have temporarily forgotten. WOW! That is a pretty catchy statement.

The word REMINDER is on the cover of this book. It is there to remind us that REMINDERS can be healthy happenings for everyone. Except, of course, for those human beings who will never forget anything.

You may be a person with many TALENTS and that can be very good for you. But! Make certain that you become the MASTER of the things that will be most helpful and productive for you.

THINK ABOUT THIS ONE!

When we need or want to really accomplish something good, beneficial, and productive for ourselves, we need to FIRST have a good, firm understanding of what that should be. We need to really get to know ourselves. Not that we don’t know who we are, but rather what we need, what we would like to do for ourselves to help us exist in a reasonably comfortable setting. And what we as a human being can offer to others that will prompt others to help us, to assist us to succeed.

To be able to provide a good life for yourself and your family, you will need KNOWLEDGE