The Pieces Within

By Precious Rutlin

Abandonment. Rejection.
Bitterness. Identity Crisis.

By age 30, Precious Rutlin was grappling with all of the makings of a nervous breakdown, but few knew the inner workings of a life that looked fine on the surface. Hiding behind career success and numbing the pain with food and spending, she held together the broken pieces of a strained mother-daughter relationship and a troubled childhood. It took high blood pressure, pre-diabetes and a nervous breakdownall by the age of 30for Precious to understand how badly her childhood brokenness had broken her.
The Pieces Within is born of Precious desire to help women understand and address the pain of living through childhood trauma. Through this book, she provides women with a starting point to heal inner wounds, repair mother-daughter relationships, and encourages women to seek the Counselor (Jesus Christ) as well as traditional or spiritual counseling. The Pieces Within is a guide for women to begin to put those pieces together and to start walking on a path toward wholeness and healing.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Jul 21, 2017
• ISBN: 9781546200925

Precious Rutlin

Precious is dedicated to serving God and humanity. Precious is a Non-Surgical Hair Loss Specialist, Trichologist, Cosmetologist, Makeup Artist, Permanent Makeup Technician, Beauty Educator, and Best Selling Co-Author of Perfectly Imperfect: Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of God and Transition: Create the Life You Desire. She is passionate about helping women love live and transform from the inside out. She volunteers for the Look Good Feel Better program offered through the American Cancer Society. Precious is also the CEO of H3 Hair Health Happiness Hair Loss Replacement & Trichology Clinic & Founder of Perfected for Purpose Ministries. When she is not working or volunteering, she reads and spends time with her husband, kids, and family pets.

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Published by AuthorHouse 07/21/2017

ISBN: 978-1-5462-0093-2 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-5462-0092-5 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2017911353

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Contents

Introduction

Chapter One Identity Crisis

Chapter Two Loving Yourself

Chapter Three Forgiveness

Chapter Four Controlling Emotions

Chapter Five Something Bigger

Introduction

I didn’t really want more kids.

I didn’t want to have a bunch of babies.

If it were not for my family telling me to have another baby for my new husband, I wouldn’t have had another child.

I just had to give your father a kid. I didn’t want any more.

Imagine growing up and overhearing your mother say these words to her girlfriends. Imagine, even worse, that she would occasionally turn and direct these words toward you.

I don’t have to imagine. My mother would speak these words now and then to and about me while I was growing up. Her words hurt. They stuck in my head and my heart and I have carried them with me ever since, even now that I am grown. The words that were spoken over me, day in and day out, were more negative than positive.

These words buried themselves deep inside of me and took root. Over time, the idea that I was unwanted grew, fueled and nurtured by my mother’s words and actions, and manifested itself as my own reality. Her voice became my own as I navigated the road to adulthood, stunting my emotional growth and making it near impossible for me to speak to myself in a loving way. It took until well into adulthood for me to have the awakening that I needed to be able to see and love myself and others in a healthy way, which I detail more in my book, Perfectly Imperfect: Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of God-A Rise To Victory.

I felt like my mom blessed me and cursed me all at the same time. Her words were rooted in her own pain and history, but that didn’t cause them to hurt any less.

I am the child of