The Energetic Fertility Method™: Tools for a Healthy Conception and Beyond

By Nancy M. Mae

The Energetic Fertility Method: Tools for a Healthy Conception and Beyond synthesizes principles of energy medicine and applies them to fertility to help you conceive. Using the chakra system as a guide, it presents step-by-step advice on how to gain a deeper awareness of your body, mind and spirit in order to bring then into alignment for a healthy conception. Discussing everything from how your relationship to your body affects fertility, the impact of secrets, and much more, Nancy Mae offers a roadmap that can help you achieve the family youve always envisioned. This groundbreaking book will not only prepare you for the journey of fertility, it will provide you with tools that you can use for the rest of your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Aug 16, 2016
• ISBN: 9781504362450

Nancy M. Mae

Nancy Mae is a Life Transitions Coach and Energy Practitioner. She’s taken her experience with infertility and combined it with her formal education in the fields of psychology and energy medicine to create the Energetic Fertility Method™. She resides in the San Francisco Bay Area with her daughters. Visit her online at www.nancymae.com. The Energetic Fertility Method™: Tools for a Healthy Conception and Beyond synthesizes principles of energy medicine and applies them to fertility to help you conceive. Using the chakra system as a guide, it presents step-by-step advice on how to gain a deeper awareness of your body, mind and spirit in order to bring them into alignment for a healthy conception. Discussing everything from how your relationship to your body affects fertility, the impact of secrets, and much more, Nancy Mae offers a roadmap that can help you achieve the family you’ve always envisioned. This groundbreaking book will not only prepare you for the journey of fertility, it will provide you with tools that you can use for the rest of your life.

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Praise for The Energetic Fertility Method™

The Energetic Fertility Method is full of potent, simple exercises that provide Tools for a Healthy Conception. Nancy Mae presents connections between emotions and intuitions as a body-talk dialogue that induces reproductive health and stimulates fertile ground for conception.

—Francesca McCartney, Ph.D., founder of the Academy of Intuition Medicine® and Energy Medicine University and author of Body of Health: The New Science of Intuition Medicine®

The Energetic Fertility Method is a treasure of tools to assist you in your fertility journey and beyond. The holistic approach presented honors the importance of treating the body’s entire energy system as an essential ally to any reproductive plan. In an overall spirit of curiosity, Nancy Mae’s The Energetic Fertility Method offers gentle self-inquiry processes to help you discover your unique needs, while renewing your intentions and desire for having a child.

—Constance Hart, founder and author of Conscious Colors

Nancy Mae is a master of the art of connecting with energy. The Energetic Fertility Method contains fundamental practices that teach you to be sensitive to and present with yourself so that you can become familiar with your own energy body and the baby you wish to bring into your life.

—Minga Lily Fannin, yoga therapist and teacher

The Energetic Fertility Method offers a fresh and novel holistic approach to integrating the body, mind and spirit. The exercises in the book are applicable for anyone who is interested in improving their energetic hygiene and body, mind and spirit integration.

—Claudine Miller, L.P.C., L.C.P.C.

Nancy Mae writes straight from the heart with honesty and compassion. The Energetic Fertility Method offers a feast for the heart, soul, and mind, providing such a rich and varied menu that no one will leave the table hungry.

—Wendy E. Squire, L.Ac., C.M.T., M.I.M.

To my mom, my daughters and all women everywhere who bring life to this planet, I dedicate this book.

CONTENTS

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Chapter 1   It’s So Hard When It Doesn’t Come Easy: My Journey Towards Infertility

Chapter 2   Electric Boogie: How Energy Affects Fertility

Chapter 3   I Will Survive: Fertility and the First Chakra

Chapter 4   Let’s Get It On: The Second Chakra Is Where Fertility Happens

Chapter 5   I’m Coming Out: Fertility and the Third Chakra

Chapter 6   Love: Fertility and the Fourth Chakra

Chapter 7   Express Yourself: Fertility and the Fifth Chakra

Chapter 8   Intuition: Fertility, the Sixth Chakra and the Endocrine System

Chapter 9   I’m Beginning to See the Light: Fertility and the Seventh Chakra

Chapter 10   Shining Star: Wrap Up and Takeaways

Appendix A   List of Tools and Exercises by Chapter

Appendix B   List of Affirmations by Chapter

Appendix C   Additional Resources

Endnotes

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

This book was a labor of love. It’s the culmination of many years of personal growth and learning, with much help along the way.

I’d like to thank all of my teachers, past and present, for helping me gain knowledge and understanding of myself and the world. In particular, I’d like to offer a big thanks to Walter Makichen and Michael McCartney for encouraging me to bring my voice to the realm of fertility and future children.

I’d like to acknowledge my clients for their wisdom, insights and guidance. Without you, this work would not be what it is.

Two wonderful people were closely involved in the preparation of this manuscript. I’d like to express my gratitude to Holly Payne, my writing coach, and Rebecca Lotenero, my editor, for their invaluable feedback and support.

A heartfelt thanks to Tatiana Escalada for creating the seed of life graphic used on the book cover and to Paulina Silveira for the beautiful illustrations.

I’d also like to thank my daughters for their enthusiasm and flexibility around the writing of this book. They are two of my greatest cheerleaders and teachers.

Dear Reader,

My journey with infertility challenged me to my core. There were times when I wanted someone to magically fix things. There were times when I was in tremendous emotional pain and wanted to be understood and heard. There were times when I wanted to shake my fist and curse God—and I did. And there were times when I didn’t know if I wanted to live. I felt like I was walking around in a world that no one knew existed. Inflicting the worst heartache I’d ever felt, infertility ultimately led to my divorce.

A myriad of emotions surfaced during this time—feelings of anger and sadness, desperation and shame, feelings of being punished, left out and hollow, and, worst of all, of being betrayed by a higher power. It felt like I was battling a war and I was mourning the death of a dream; the dream of the family that I envisioned.

One thing I wish I had had when I went through infertility was someone who understood my process. It was hard to find others who could relate to my situation, who were able to offer some semblance of hope and support. This book is for you who feel desperate, alone, angry at a higher power, slighted by the world, or that life is unfair. I hope it is less of a ruthless road as you move forward. This book is also for women looking for a different, more conscious way to bring in a child.

I realize that this is probably one of the most sensitive subjects that you have ever personally dealt with. I would like to offer you companionship on your journey, a journey which I know is not easy. I want you to know that you are not alone.

No matter where the path of infertility takes you, in the strangest way, it’s always an invitation to extraordinary growth. I know that this was true for my own journey. Infertility was begging me to make some changes with how I was in the world. I needed to open some doors that I was desperately trying to keep shut, and my struggle is what ultimately gave me the tools to break through.

If you look at the word infertile with all of its letters – I N F E R T I L E – you’ll find many other words inside, including R E F I N E. Infertility is an invitation to an inner transformation, a journey of personal growth. It’s not about something being wrong or not working. It’s about refinement.

I invite you to this opportunity to refine what is.

With love,

Nancy Mae

INTRODUCTION

When I first set out to write this book, I had no idea how many people were struggling with fertility issues. In the United States alone, roughly 6.7 million women of reproductive age, or 11%, are affected. Three million women in the U.S., and 10.5% of women worldwide, struggle with secondary infertility—the inability to conceive or carry a pregnancy after the birth of one or more children. Globally, it’s estimated that 48.5 million couples were unable to have a child in 2010 alone. Infertility rates are roughly equal among women and men.

There are hundreds of books that promise to help couples become pregnant. But for all of these resources, there is almost nothing on the shelves that helps readers use the tools of energy medicine to bring their baby into the world.

So, what is energy medicine? And why is it so important on your journey to conceive?

We are in a new era of medicine. In 2007, Dr. Mehmet Oz proclaimed on The Oprah Show, The next big frontier in medicine is energy medicine. It’s a practice that has been around for thousands of years, but it has only recently gained the attention of the mainstream media. Energy medicine recognizes that everything is energy, from our physical bodies to our thoughts and emotions. It’s these energies that can be shifted for greater health and vitality. The Nobel prize-winning scientist, Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, M.D., said, In every culture and in every medical tradition before ours, healing was accomplished by moving energy.¹ And now the modern-day medical establishment is finally getting up to speed. Currently, around 85% of the 140-plus medical degree-granting schools in the U.S. offer courses in alternative medicine, including energy medicine. With Dr. Oz, Dr. C. Norman Shealy, Dr. Andrew Weil, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Larry Dossey, Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz, Caroline Myss, Ph.D., Francesca McCartney, Ph.D., Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., James Oschman, Ph.D., Donna Eden, Deborah King, Oprah, the Cancer Center of America and many others talking about the benefits of energy medicine, its role in the treatment of infertility will only continue to grow.

Recognizing how much energy medicine helped me on my own fertility journey, I knew I wanted to write a book so that more people could have access to this type of information. The Energetic Fertility Method: Tools for a Healthy Conception and Beyond grants you this access.

Through information, exercises and a positive approach, The Energetic Fertility Method can help you become aware of the areas in your life that need attention, such as your physical health, belief patterns, emotional state and connection with the spiritual, and it will help you understand how these factors need to be addressed in order to clear the way for a future child. Throughout the book I place an emphasis on treating the whole self, an approach that is missing from most fertility treatments available today.

This book is an outgrowth of my own unique background: my personal struggle with infertility, my extensive work with Walter Makichen, renowned clairvoyant and author of Spirit Babies: How to Communicate with the Child You’re Meant to Have, and my studies in energy medicine, including Intuition Medicine® (M.I.M). My training in Clinical Psychology (M.A.), Cognitive Psychology (M.S.), User Experience Research, and yoga and meditation also informed the creation of EFM.

Today, I’m a Life Transitions Coach and Energy Practitioner with specialties in intuitive fertility support, conscious parenting, and work-life flow, as well as an emphasis on programs for healers. Through one-on-one sessions, classes, workshops and speaking engagements, I empower others with tools and information so that they can align their bodies, minds and spirits for wholeness. The Energetic Fertility Method is the culmination of my experience and knowledge. Written for the patient and practitioner alike, it is a simple, economical and complementary approach to any reproductive plan. It’s intended to work in concert with natural and traditional methods of fertility enhancement and offers valuable tools to anyone who is looking to grow their family and bring their whole self into alignment, both for their own sake and for the sake of their future child.

How to Use This Book

This book is your guide to an inner refinement. It’s your opportunity to take action to refine your body, mind and spirit for wholeness and fertility. The book opens with an account of my personal journey with unexplained secondary infertility and offers an overview of energy, EFM and foundational energy medicine concepts and practices such as the aura, chakras, grounding and earth energy. Subsequent chapters delve into the different chakras and the fertility-related topics that are connected to each one. I discuss common blocks and fears associated with fertility, and offer tools, exercises and affirmations to help care for and heal each chakra for wholeness and fertility. The final chapter includes a summary of what I learned on my fertility journey and provides a list of the main lessons from EFM. For easy reference, I include appendices that offer a list of tools, exercises and affirmations by chapter and a list of books to inspire and educate.

The exercises in each chapter are critical to your ability to refine and grow. Some of the material might seem out there, but I encourage you to stick with it because the results can be miraculous. I invite you to be open even if something seems silly or you feel like you have worked on a certain topic a thousand times. Try it again. And if you really do not want to do a certain homework exercise, that is very useful information in and of itself. It often points to some resistance, offering a terrific opportunity for you to delve into the materials and address the block.

I invite you to journal as part of your homework. It can be amazingly cathartic to write about upsetting or traumatic happenings in your life. Research from James Pennebaker suggests that writing about events, including the emotional impact associated with them, can help increase your physical health and emotional well-being, all great things when you want to bring in a baby.²

Many of the exercises are designed to help you turn inward. The self-reflective time is important, as it allows you the opportunity to access potential energy blocks to optimum fertility. While it may seem that you are just writing or saying things, this is a powerful time to get into those places that we often don’t allow space for. Acknowledgment, allowing space, forgiving, and letting go are important steps in helping to align your energetic systems for optimum fertility. The energy tools presented throughout this book are a beautiful adjunct and will be paramount in helping to align your energy for you and your baby.

Positive affirmations are a vital aspect of this journey and you will find them in chapters three through nine. Research shows that self-affirmations can help you choose healthier options as well as assist you in problem-solving when under stress.³ You will want to say each affirmation out loud or in your mind at least three times, one or more times a day. Find the ones that resonate with you and continue saying them. Some people find it powerful to write them out or to speak them in front of a mirror. Consider using the word choose in each affirmation—it can help you own and embody the declaration. If at first you find affirmations strange or uncomfortable, keep trying. It will become more natural as you practice. If you find yourself saying negative things to yourself as you read or say a certain sentence (e.g., I don’t deserve that!), then it’s probably a good one to work on. To say the affirmation is one thing, but to really feel it will bring you to a whole new level, leading to even more powerful changes. If strong feelings come up, I invite you to write about them in your journal, as it’s an opportunity for you to get the energy moving up and out so you have more space for your baby.

When you’re on this journey to bring in a child, it’s going to push you to your edges. It will allow you to really look at things and consider ways of being, doing and believing that you have never been forced to confront before, and this is part of the process of refining and becoming whole. The journey will help you prepare for being a parent. Often, we think our child will be a certain way and are surprised when they are not. For me, being a parent has been a lesson in letting go. The gift of parenting can take you to the edges of personal growth every day, if you let it.

While going through this book, you may experience some physical discomfort or emotional distress. If you do, please stop and take care of yourself and come back when you are ready. This is a part of the refining: taking the time you need to listen to yourself and to fine-tune things. You’ll find that self-care is another wonderful tool that will help prepare you for parenthood.

I encourage you to pay attention to your intuition, your inner voice, as you go through this book. It’s going to be your greatest teacher. Regardless of whether it is strong or subtle, what matters most from an energetic perspective is that you listen to what your inner wisdom has to say. Your intuition has a lot of information and wants to help you, whether that is choosing which healthcare professionals to work with or which foods to eat. Many of the exercises in this book will help to strengthen your gut instinct.

If you want to stay where you are, or you want someone else to fix things, please do not read any further. It will be a waste of your time. Wholeness is not found on just one path. This might not be the right timing or the right modality for you to address potential blocks to fertility. The change you seek may need to come at a later time or in a different manner. Yet, if you are ready to delve in and see what might be blocking your ability to bring in a baby, and you are willing to put in the work needed for inner refinement, it’s time to get started.

CHAPTER 1

It’s So Hard When It Doesn’t Come Easy: