38 Commandments for an Intimate Lasting Relationship
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38 Commandments for an Intimate Lasting Relationship - Xlibris US
Copyright © 2014 by Fe Pardilla Griffin.
ISBN: Softcover 978-1-4990-4888-9
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Rev. date: 12/20/2014
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Contents
Commandment I. Do Not Cheat
Commandment II. Do Not Lie
Commandment III. Do Not Steal
Commandment IV. Do Not Hide Anything
Commandment V. Do Not Control
Commandment VI. Do Not Decide By Yourself
Commandment VII. Always Ask Permission
Commandment VIII. Do Not Ignore or Leave Any Issue Unsettled
Commandment IX. Give Credit Where Credit Is Due
Commandment X. Do Not Hurt Your Partner Physically, Mentally or
Emotionally
Commandment XI. Do Your Share of Responsibilities in the Relationship
as a Partner in Life
Commandment XII. Practice Proper Hygiene
Commandment XIII. Always Look Your Best and Praise Your Partner for
Looking Good Also
Commandment XIV. Do Not Reject Your Partner in Many Ways
Especially Pertaining to Sex
Commandment XV. Do Not Say Anything Bad About Your Partner and
Family to Other People
Commandment XVI. Show Affection to Each Other by Hugging and
Kissing As Often As You Can, There Are Many
I Love You.
Where It Came From
Commandment XVII. Do Not Allow Conflict to Get In
Commandment XVIII. Have Sex Regularly So You Don’t Lose It
Commandment XIX. Do Not Compete
Commandment XX. Do Not Envy
Commandment XXI. Do Not Compare
Commandment XXII. Share
Commandment XXIII. Do Not Count
Commandment XXIV. Do Not Blame
Commandment XXV. Refrain From Digging to the Unpleasant Past
Commandment XXVI. Apologize Only Once for a Mistake and Mean It the
First Time, And Not Repeat the Same Mistake Again
Commandment XXVII. Understand Hereditary Illnesses and Diseases
That Affects Your Spouse’s Behavior
Commandment XXVIII. Avoid the Nag
Commandment XXIX. Get Off to a Never Ending Discussion or Argument
Commandment XXX. Swallow Your Pride, Forgive and Forget
Commandment XXXI. Be There When Needed
Commandment XXXII. Give Time, Find Time
Commandment XXXIII. Appreciate Everything Your Spouse Does to You
Commandment XXXIV. Be Lenient to Misunderstandings. It Happens
All the Time
Commandment XXXV. Be Conscientious
Commandment XXXVI. Clearly Identify and Discuss About Boundaries.
Do Not Cross Them.
Commandment XXXVII. Respect Each Other’s Culture or Religion
Commandment XXXVIII. Make Life Interesting and Fun Always Enjoy Life.
Acknowledgment
I would like to thank Gloria for the patience in helping me out, making this book possible
THE 38 COMMANDMENTS FOR A LASTING RELATIONSHIP
These Commandments are written especially if you don’t have the nerve to tell your partner about a mistake or something in mind that bothers you. You can use these commandments to point out to your spouse rules do exist.
Everybody is different, some couples may tolerate selective commandments that may be repulsive to others. Compatibility is significant.
Compatible with hobbies like sports can make a difference to a couple. If you both play tennis, you play together, whereas if only one plays the game, the other go somewhere gets you separated. In some ways, it’s okay, but it’s better if you go to places together with the same interests.
Two liars will understand each other, but with two incompatible personalities cannot mix.
Stealing is wrong, but with the two thieves, can be a teamwork.
Mormons and Muslims take other women as part of their relationship as acceptable.
It is a good idea to go through all of these commandments one by one and identify which ones are more significant to your partner.
It is easier if you follow these commandments. Discuss them together with your spouse and see which commandments are tolerable to both of you.
Any one of these commandments taken for granted to its extreme can break up ties with your spouse.
A truly happy couple has a strong bond. Both of them will always want to be together, around friends and family members.
There are factors that people are forced to put up a relationship or sacrifice till the end due to the following:
1. One of the couple has no control over a situation.
2. If a man imported a poor woman (from any one of those poor countries) who cannot communicate in English and has no relatives in the country.
3. If a partner is completely dependent on the other. He/She puts up with the other for as long as the person is needed. People hook up with movie directors, actors, business owners, managers in big companies for connections until they are on their own two feet to leave once established.
4. Marrying an older man for money, once married, unless there is a prenuptial contract, when she gets the money she wants, mission accomplished, then she leaves. If the person remains dependent, then he/she will stick around putting up with the stigma attached to the relationship until the end.
5. Sex can be only a means to an end. A quick fix to an ongoing problem, whether it is emotional, financial or social status. These people who attach to elevate their social or financial status are called social climbers. Many times this relationship is complex and messy, may wind up in dangerous ending. When a marriage is a sacrifice, it is human nature to search for happiness, then adultery is almost inevitable as a consequence.
6. A homosexual marrying an opposite sex individual to please the family and the public is not true happiness.
Although there are exceptions to this rule. Example of this, is a homosexual man/woman whose best friend is an opposite sex. They get along so well, they marry.
All these are sacrifices pleasing the ignorant public and families.
Many single people rationalize being happy as single. Married people are happier.
Seek that person you are compatible with, there is joy in having someone, it may take time but don’t stop looking. There is always someone for everyone.
The worse that can happen to you is when you give up looking.
Commandment I.
Do Not Cheat
Refuse to be blind.
Cheaters to marriages are spontaneous decisions due to uncontrollable attraction and desire to an irresistible sexy body for sex. It’s the animal instinct of sexual maturity, ready to mate. In the wilderness, the loud sound of the mating call. When they do meet they are unstoppable. This is the blind love. Thinking nothing but indulging and consummating the strength of strong magnetic bodily attraction. As civilized people we are bound by morality, shame, values, norms, etc. But when sexual desire strikes, all those traditions may be lost. Attraction can be very strong that nothing else matter.
Attraction to someone else other than a spouse happens to everybody. It is the shame and morality issues that get in the way of starting an affair plus the fear to the spouse. This is an aspect of being human. When two eyes met and has that chemistry quickly at a glance, that glance is not enough, it has to be followed by a