Is Life Fair?

By Habiba Umate

This book is comprised of a real-life story that each and every person living in this world has come across. This story focuses on how life puts us through several tests and how badly life can affect a person and his or her surroundings. It emphasizes that we should keep fighting, regardless of the complications that come into our lives, until we are successful. The essential message is that people can adopt or possibly disregard the complexity of life to be optimists, encouraging themselves instead of adopting excuses and blame and converting their beautiful lives into a hell. Therefore, this book will teach us to take a stand and fight for ourselves so we can change and rule our own worlds.

The core message that this book will pass on to readers is that life challenges us for our own benefit and we need to overcome these tests in an optimistic way. This book will give people the strength to start asking questions rather than follow the crowd; this way, they will learn to observe their surroundings to understand the message of life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Nov 13, 2014
• ISBN: 9781496995919

Habiba Umate

Habiba Umate was born in 1988. She has lived in the United Arab Emirates for the past twenty-six years, where she works as a financier, and she is enthusiastic about motivating others. She got a first-class bachelor of business administration degree from the University of Bedfordshire and plans to work toward her MBA at the University of Wollongong. With seven years of experience, she is working in a strong local bank. Habiba speaks six different languages, and she is very passionate about her life. She believes in being hardworking and optimistic, since these qualities are the two major sources of her professional and personal successes. Presently, she is locally involved in motivational speaking and has participated in and received certificates from local Toastmasters International. She speaks her mind and believes in fulfilling her own wishes and doing whatever makes her happy by leaving no room for regret, thus encouraging those around her to do the same. This is her first book; in writing it, her aim is to address a real-life tragedy, which she believes can be converted into successful outcomes for others.

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Life

Life is the only word that has been described differently but appropriately by each one of us. Hope, inspiration, excitement, happiness, love, success, sadness, pain, separation, war, and many more beautiful and tough words combine together to complete the word life. Life is considered incomplete without these words. We find life equally lovely and ugly; however, we still want to live it delightfully. Life gives us amazing moments to remember. Life is the only source that teaches and develops us without asking for anything in return, except the ability to bear with it. Throughout our journeys, life puts us through several intolerable tests because life knows we never learn, accept, or move a step ahead unless we are forced to change, or maybe life doesn’t want to treat us equally to prove the statement Life is not fair is an accurate saying.

We never discover the importance of things or people until we lose them. And then we feel regret; we don’t feel regret because we lost something very precious, although we do regret because getting those things back is next to impossible. Life is similar to these things that we don’t give enough importance to. Do you think that life gives us importance? By putting us into all these circumstances where we never wanted to be, life intends to give us time to practice how to survive in this unmerciful world and be able to depend on ourselves. Or maybe life is targeting us to make our survival more difficult in this unmerciful life and to force us to face it as well.

What exactly is life trying to do with us? Is life helping us by proving that it is fair or trying to destroy us by proving that life isn’t fair? If life is trying to support us, then why is it forcing us to do something we hate?

Life puts us into circumstances where standing is no less than a punishment for any human being. Most of us observe that few people are blessed by life, but we never count ourselves as some of them. Does life want us to do all the things that we never wanted? Or will life force us to change ourselves so much that we’ll fail to identify ourselves in it? And if we don’t implement the conditions set by life, we will be stuck with problems and unhappiness, which spread faster than a sickness.

Or life knows that we, as human beings, never like change, so it forces us to change in order to survive. Life knows we will change only if we are provided with no solutions or way to escape, yet we still blame life for that. If life is trying to test us, then why are we not preparing ourselves to pass the test, rather than blame life in the first place? Life puts us in unbearable situations. What is life’s aim? Is life trying to convey a message that we aren’t understanding? Maybe we are simply trying to prove that life is innocent, although life isn’t!

While defending life, I wonder,

• If life is really with us and wants what’s best for us, then why does it keep testing us? v

• Why does life keep torturing us?

• Why does life hurt us the most?

• How can we get help from life, when life is the core reason for our constant aches?

• Why are tests set by life that force us to face them, and why do we fail them?

• Why don’t the tests of life end?

• Why are so few of us being examined by life while others are enthusiastically enjoying it?

• Are life tests only for weak and poor human beings?

All these questions are roaming in your mind, aren’t they? Let’s discuss them together to find an answer, know the reason behind it, and discover whether life is fair or not.

This is your life

Life stands for beautiful and awful experiments. The results depend on how we face life. They depend on how we take it, and again, they depend on whether we pass or fail life’s challenges. Choosing a joyful or hostile life isn’t optional for any of us; in fact, if we want to live in this world, then we have to follow the conditions set by life itself. Life isn’t what you experience; existence is all about you and the way you want to present it for yourself without being totally aware of it. We introduce life. Life doesn’t present us. If we are optimistic, we find life to be a heaven on earth, but if we are pessimistic, we will find heaven as a hell. I believe we all agree with this statement. If not, let’s elaborate more to figure it out.

We believe life isn’t fair, but a few of us believe life is fair! Does this mean that life is testing only some of us? No, life tests each and every person in this world. Life will test us whether we are rich, poor, beautiful, unappealing, healthy, or handicapped. If this is the case, then why do some of us pass the test and some of us fizzle? Why are some of us optimistic toward life while some of us end our lives because of life’s challenges?

Let’s observe life in another perspective—a positive one that debates that life is fair.

• What’s so unique about optimistic people?

• Why do we say that all people are very different from each other?

Although God has made us look comparable to each other, life depends on the way we look at other people. It’s all about how we evaluate ourselves. Why do so few of us bear the tests and others end their lives? Is life an inexpensive thing to finish easily? The first thing life teaches each and every one of us is to love ourselves. Is life really fair with us, or does it pretend to be fair?

In the same way, life shows us the true, fake, and helpless people in this world. We are surrounded by different types of people, and everyone is encircled by different weird problems. It seems that life is testing us, whether we deserve to live in this world or not. Few of us are in the process of learning, and fewer still are trying to figure out what exactly is wrong. And where is the actual problem? Few of us have given up. Once we know what is wrong, we will face challenges and inequality in our lives before the real game starts.

Optimist and pessimist, these two types of people are available around you in any part of the world. And living closely with pessimists people with no way to escape puts us in a very complex situation. Shall we keep trying until we find a path to run away down, or shall we stay with these people, pretending as if we are invisible? Thinking about both situations and spending our time selecting the best option is difficult, since the options were wrong in the first place. We cannot keep escaping, since God hasn’t created a place where all identical people can live together, and there might be a reason behind that reason as well. We all know that whatever happens in our lives or in this world has a reason behind it. Be sure that nothing happens without any reason.

Yes, life has taught us to love ourselves, then our family, and then friends. Also, life has taught us to love and treat each and every person equally. Why not help those people who are struggling with life’s obstacles who are evaluating themselves poorly, who are unable to get life’s message? We can help them or leave them; the choice is yours. Still, life might not encourage people to help us because it’s time we should help ourselves. There are times when we need to take a stand to live and be free. Is that how we get over life challenges?

We all need to know and understand the message that life is delivering to us; we need to understand why life tests us. We need to find the weak areas in which life wants us to improve.

We have observed life in a negative way and blamed it enough because nothing seems to prove that life is fair. We need to try to observe life in an alternate way, an optimistic way, and take it as our teacher who is guiding us to drive the ship of our life smoothly and independently, rather than depending on others’ mercy. If our life tests are complex and unbearable, we need to know that a lot of weak areas exist in our life, which we