Loving the Sexually Mature Christian Man

By Waymon Geans

When talking about sexual maturity you have to keep an open
mind and realize we are talking more than just sexual intercourse.
Sexual intercourse can be a part of your sexual maturity growth
but also understand you dont have to have intercourse to sexually
grow. The main objective for the author of this book is to make the
readers aware of the difference in their sexual maturity and to
open doors for discussion about matters that someone may not
have known how to bring up. If so, the author has accomplished
his intention of getting couples to understand their sexual
maturity and how to grow together.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Mar 18, 2013
• ISBN: 9781483609430

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Copyright © 2013 by Waymon Geans.

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CONTENTS

Maturity Chart Test Your Sexual Maturity

Selfishness And Shyness

Stubbornness And Conceitedness

Religion, Sex And The Sexually Mature Man

Size Can Make A Difference

Love And Tragedy

Satisfying Your Sexually Mature Man

Why Men Love Oral Sex

Being His Lover And Best Friend

Marriage And The Sexually Mature Man

When Love Alone Is Not Enough Reason To Get Married

Being A Great Kisser

Fighting

Make Up Sex

To Feel Loved

Wanted And Needed

Male And Female Menopause

Sex For The Soul

Speaking The Unspoken Racial Profiling For Sex

Love Thy Spirit

The Four Loves Every Sexually Mature Man Should Experience

Why And When

Knowing The Man

Knowing Your Man Sexually

When To Let Go

Maturity Chart

Test Your Sexual Maturity

1.   If it’s really love, and the two of you attend church together—10%

2.   If you are married to your mate—10%

[many people are not mature enough to be married]

3.   Only time one is not submissive is because of a physical condition—10%

   [If it feels good when you want to, it should feel good when don’t want to especially if your partner teases and arouses you it should put you in the want mode.

4.   If you are anxious to make love 50% of the time—10%

5.   If you are kissing and being very passionate with your mate—10%

   [especially while making love, good sex without passion is not making love.

   Just good sex.

6.   If you can talk with your mate about sex or their sexual experience with others before they met you and not get angry.—10%

   [They may be with you because they love you which is good, but not because

   You’re the best sexually they have had. You should want to find out where you are sexually in your mate’s life.

7.   If you can be satisfied with a one-on-one relationship—10%

8.   If you can realize that no matter how much you love someone

   You can’t make them love you—10%

   [You may be loving someone too much, which means that you expect more than they are willing to give or know how to give.

9.   If you’re not afraid of marriage and can be;

l.   Spontaneous in making love.

2.   Initiate making love

3.   Don’t just receive satisfaction and contentment, also give it.—10%

10. No one makes a hundred, no one’s perfect.

The author decided on writing this book from notes of life experiences of people and friends who sometimes wanted to express their feelings and seek advice about things that was happening in their life that were sexually motivated. After working with people over thirty years on several jobs, you sometimes get into strange private conversations with friends who come seeking advice and wisdom in certain situations.

It also was a good chance to learn more about people and the many different personalities that clash after becoming involved in a relationship with someone. Everyone has certain characteristics that they look for in a person with whom they are interested in building a serious relationship. The wishful thinking of some people is that besides a marriage license there also should be a relationship license available. One woman’s conclusion is that sometimes but not always, you will know how many there were before you and it would be nice if you met someone, you could see how many relationship licenses there were on this person.

Sometimes because of vanity, financial status and sex, we forget about those personal characteristics that meant so much to us and farther down the road when it’s too late we realize the very things we compromised where the main ingredients that were needed to stay contented it the relationship. Because people are continually growing to their sexual maturity potential, it’s good if the communication in the relationship is good and strong. Each person has to be able to express themselves without the thought of negative criticism in retaliation to them expressing their feeling.

When talking about sexual maturity you have to keep an open mind and realize we are talking more than just sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse can be a part of your sexual maturity growth but also understand you don’t have to have intercourse to sexually grow. The main objective for the author of this book is to make the readers aware of the difference in their sexual maturity and to open doors for discussion about matters that someone may not have known how to bring up. If so, the author has accomplished his intention of getting couples to understand their sexual maturity and how to grow together.

Also keep in mind that just because you might be a little more sexually mature than your partner, does not mean that you’re better. Your partner may not have grown sexually to the point where you think they should be but it does not diminished their sexual maturity because people have to mature at their own rate. There are things that you experience now sexually, that you would not have considered earlier in life.

Unlike physical maturity of the body or maturity that comes with experiencing life, sexual maturity may vary from person to person. Also the age of a person sometimes has nothing to do with them being sexually mature or establishing the level of their sexual maturity. A person fifty or sixty may not be as sexually mature as a twenty year old. A person’s educational status may not define the level of his or her sexual maturity and that’s why in our society it’s not rare that we find or hear about highly publicized smart professionals who lost their mates to someone of a nonprofessional status because a need was not being filled so their mate found someone who was more sexually mature and compatible for them.

Even the professional who knows more about our physical being or sexual organs, such as urologist and gynecologist may be lacking when it come to sexual maturity because the sexual organs has nothing to do with a person’s sexual maturity especially in today’s society where the rules has changed and almost any part of your body may be used for sexual satisfaction.

Sexual satisfaction can be physical or psychological and once we learn more about our sexual partner and which of the two they are experiencing, we’re also raising the level of our own sexual maturity. There are people with years of marriage and have kids but the woman now in her thirties or forties has just begun to experience orgasms. Fortunately, when this happens too couples who have maintained a one-on-one relationship it increases their feelings for each other because they realize the growth of their sexual maturity together.

A one-on-one relationship between two people is the strong foundation needed for them to sexually mature together and be of the same state of mind. When they are in the same state of mind they become as one, anticipating each other’s thoughts and desires sexually. The sexually mature man even though he may have been in many relationships in the past is most comfortable in one relationship at a time. He will express all his sexuality not by telling someone, but showing it in the way he makes love and anticipating getting the same in return. The only problem that may arise is when his mate for some reason goes outside the relationship.

Now imagine a scenario of the same couple where their is an outside relationship and the person has this same experience with someone other than their mate for the first time. A situation like this could end a long term good relationship after just a good sexual feeling which most people realize later when it’s too late, that a good feeling is not enough to build a good relationship on. A good feeling has nothing to do with love. Love is what good relationships are built on and when the good feeling is not there it doesn’t mean that the love is gone. It’s no guarantee that someone will make you feel good and be sexually satisfying every single time.

Love will mandate any physical feeling and make it psychologically satisfying. Being with someone physically has caused many people to misunderstand a relationship and take it for more than the physical encounter that it was. That’s why today among men and women we see more of the fatal attraction syndrome in relationships where one person wants more from the relationship than what is there. Some people may let their body be controlled for a short period of time because they have a physical need but they don’t let their true feeling be known to the other person. It’s sometimes easy to control someone’s body if they have a sexual weakness but if you can’t communicate with them psychologically, the relationship won’t last. For people to become sexually mature partners there has to be good communication and no selfishness. Getting to know a person and their lifestyle will sometimes help to understand the level of their sexual maturity. Although age has nothing to do primarily with sexually maturing and we find some people more mature at sixteen than sixty, there should be some psychological growth along with the sexual experiences we have in life. As in life when we become stuck in the same old mode or the way of doing things, we sometimes are the same way about sex and regardless of age we refuse to grow sexually. No sexual growth does not necessarily have to be a problem if the two people involve are on the same level of growth. The problem only arises if two people become involved and their sexual maturity level is different.

Here are just a few things that may affect some people in there sexual maturity growth. Selfishness, shyness, stubbornness, conceitedness, pride, and religion. It is possible but unlikely that a person would have all of