Lost: Diary of an Eating Disorder
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May Betancourt Jr.
May Betancourt Jr. lives with her husband and children in a quant home in West Miami, Florida. She is a National Board Certified Teacher and has been honored as Teacher of the year at her school. She teaches Fourth grade in a bi-lingual program and is an advocate for St Jude Children’s Hospital & UNICEF. She has had numerous poems published and co-wrote “Two Feathers and One Book” with her mother May Betancourt. She is a humanitarian by nature and is active in bringing public awareness to animal cruelty. This is her second book. In this book she has decided to share her personal struggles with you, in hopes that it will perhaps help others, and that it will lead to a path of hope and renewal. Kathleen A. Betancourt
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Lost - May Betancourt Jr.
Copyright © 2010 by May Betancourt, Jr.
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Contents
Introduction
Prologue
Introduction
Twenty-one Random Things I Thought about Today
Personal Goals
Deceived
The Night
Lost
War
What the World Sees
Invisible
Heaven Knows
Fitting In
A View of the World
Numbers
Rules
Anger
Routine
Torment
Beached
Forever Gone
A Stranger
Buried
The Closet
The Ritual
Merry-Go-Round
Unblessed
The Game
The Great Wall of Eating Disorders
Poison
The Wrath of Me
Dancing with Death
Tomorrow
Listen
The Drawers
Introduction
Personal Goals
Nineteen Random Thoughts I Had Today
Broken Silence
Help Hurts
Little Girl
Ask
Divine Grace
Again
Maybe
My Best Friend My Worst Enemy
Lighthouse
The Wind
The Spy
Power
Clocks
Mutiny
Disordered Alliteration
Lies
The Sea
The Tree
The Search
ABC’s of Disordered Eating
Mercy
Game Night
Broken Compass
Courage
Renfrew
Seduction
If Only . . .
Damaged
The Storm
The Aftermath
Normal
Torn and Tattered
Looking through a Window
Letting Go
Addiction
Three Keys
Cry
Choices
Simply Imperfect
Derailed
I Am
Stop
Love Me
Surrender
No More
Casualty
Food as My Weapon
Unclaimed Treasure
Through an Angel’s Eyes
This House
Tell Someone
Coping
Call
The Question
Warped
In the Ring
Introduction
Personal Goals
Some Random Thoughts I had today
Clarity
Candy Store
Try
Moments
Time
Allow Yourself to Feel
No Matter
Never Going Back
Empowered
End of a Journey
Working Out
Found
Sorry
The Cemetery
Recovering Woman
The Colors
The Forest
Be
Forgive
A Prayer
Gratitude
Silent Partner
Gone
Even
Shed a Tear
Angel
The Testament
Sanctuary
Sailboat
Heroes
Angel Got It’s Wings
Rejoice
Going Home
A Perfect World
Life Won’t Wait
Perfectly Imperfect
Lost with the Wind
Until Never
Free
Survival Alliteration
Tribute to St. Jude
The End of the Road
Good-bye Ed
Epilogue
References
Credits:
Painting by Paul Delaroche 1797-1856 The Martyr
Angel wings by Marielena De La Heria
Sketches by Kathleen Gomez
Introduction
For years I have known people who deal with weight and food in some very unique ways. One friend would take her plate of food and eat while she stood over the trash can; never swallowing, but just chewing and then spitting out the food. Another would take laxatives after every meal and then exercise until she was exhausted or nauseated to the point of vomiting. I on the other hand, went on destructive diets until I began to binge and purge. Then I would purge after eating a normal
amount of food or after having a small piece of chocolate. Finally, I found myself purging just to release stress, anxiety, loneliness, or sadness. When I eventually went to The Renfrew Center for eating disorders, I realized that all of these relationships with food were a disorder, and not simply a way of life.
I can’t really pin point the moment or day in which I entered the world of eating disorders. I think it was a gradual process which escalated and got out of control as I got older. The seed might have been planted by the subtle messages which society gives out on a daily basis or it might have begun in the blatant way in which the media glamorizes certain sizes and shuns others, I’m not really sure. What I am sure of though is that I began seeing myself as fat the moment I entered puberty. Once I entered through this door, I never went back out; and the seed turned into a tree and the tree turned into a forest.
Part of my treatment was to keep a diary of my thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Being the pleaser that I am, I quickly obliged. This process was simplified by the fact that I have always kept a diary. Looking back at my old ones, I realized how my disorder was enmeshed in my daily life throughout most of my years. As I began to write again, all that I put into print were poems and brief entries. I soon discovered that I found it much easier to express and analyze my experiences in small, bite size portions rather than long chapters of narrative text. The poems and entries I wrote are my experiences mixed with others who confided in me. Not all of the entries are in chronological order because I placed them according to the progression of the disorder. At the end of each poem, I have written a quote to leave you with something positive to think about. I divided the book into three parts in order to maintain cohesiveness and to show the phases of my disordered eating. This is a book which can be read right through or it can be read in parts. You can focus on the part that you feel you are similarly experiencing at the moment; you can read a poem and entry a day, or several a day. The choice is yours, but just remember, there is help out there. Please seek it . . .
Prologue
A silent plague is consuming many girls and women and a growing number of boys and men; disordered eating is this culprit. This book began as a diary of my feelings and experiences as I walked through the difficult path of disordered eating. The poems and entries in this book will insightfully take you through the many phases of disordered eating. Each poem poignantly reveals the depths of the disorder and the quotes under each, assures the reader that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Some poems in Part I may seem too drastic and even disturbing. Understand that these were written when I was in the midst of my disorder; that is why I went back and wrote a quote under each in order to shed a glimmer of hope to the reader. In no way do I want to glamorize disordered eating and as you read Parts II and III, you will realize this. Some days I only wrote poetry, others I simply wrote an entry, yet other days I wrote in both genres. As I brought my diary to a conclusion, I did go back and added my quotes after each poem. The more contact I had with eating disorders and people who also suffer, the more I wrote. I realized that publishing my words would help me in my healing and it might serve as a small contribution in breaking this silent taboo.
I have been blessed with many angels in my life; both earthly and heavenly. I need to especially thank my husband who continued to support me and tell me to write, write, and write. Recovery would have been impossible without him being there to hold my hand and help me up when I fell. To my mother, for forever believing in me, even when I didn’t; to my sister, for being a great listener and problem solver; to Abigail for the countless hours of research; to The Renfrew Center, for showing me that an eating disorder is not shameful and not a death sentence. And finally, to my family and friends, who unknowingly saved me.
To all those who suffer in silence,
may you one day find your voice.
Part I
Daily Life
and
Denial
missing image fileTurn your wounds into wisdom.
—Oprah Winfrey
Introduction
How or when it all got started, I don’t quite remember. What I do remember is that my eating disorder began when my struggle with food escalated. Living in this day and age where being curvy means being fat is very difficult to handle, especially when genetics dictate that you are not naturally a society-accepting small size. Off and on again, diets and gym memberships began to take a toll not only on my body, but also on my mind. It seemed that whenever I got off a diet, I would gain everything right back and that would also lead to stop exercising. I figured that if I wasn’t eating well, the exercise would be in vain. To make matters worse, every time I ate something that wasn’t a diet
food, I figured I had blown it for the day, so I would splurge some more. The next day, I would practically starve or start a new crazy diet, which was doomed to fail. An overwhelming feeling of hopelessness came over me, like a soldier of one, in enemy territory. The vicious cycle went on for a while.
I remember the very first time I purged. I thought I had been doing really well on a diet. I was losing weight and was feeling pretty confident that this time I was going to reach my goal. One day, I was home alone and ate what I considered to be a prohibited food. I felt so guilty and felt that I was surely going to gain, then without thinking, I ran to the bathroom and purged. When the cycle first began, it was simply to get rid of food, which I thought was going to make me gain weight. Then I figured I might as well eat something fattening and then get rid of it. It then led to secret binges followed by purging. Without realizing it, I