After Narcissistic Nightmare, There Are Light, Life and Love How to disarm a narcissist, get out of emotional abuse and start a new healthy relationship

By John Range

People with a narcissistic personality structure represent 3% - 5% of the world population. They are more male than female.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. 

Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect. But narcissists aren't capable of true reciprocity in their relationships. It isn't just that they're not willing; they genuinely aren't able. They don't hear you. They don't recognize you as someone who exists outside of their own needs.

Moreover, they do so with an absolute sense of entitlement.

This book will deal with narcissistic personality disorder inside the relationship, trying to explain how to identify the signals, the behaviors implemented by the narcissist, and which behaviors and actions to take to defend oneself from the narcissist and recover one's life and freedom.

In this book, the reader will learn:

• recognize the narcissist

• narcissist mental patterns

• language and action of a narcissist

• the behavior to avoid and behavior to keep

• how to get out of this unhealthy relationship

• recovering one's life through trust, esteem, and self-love

Inside you will find many images and graphs that will explain more clearly all the processes around a relationship with a narcissistic personality.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: vincenzo nappi
• Release date: Aug 21, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201206024

Book preview

Cap. 1 - INTRODUCTION

"We never love anyone.

We just love the idea we make of someone.

What we love is our concept: in short, we love ourselves"

(F. Pessoa)

THE TERM NARCISSIST makes explicit reference to the Greek myth of Narcissus and indicates the tendency and the psychological attitude of those who make of themselves, of their own person, of their physical and intellectual qualities, the exclusive  center of interest and the object of a smug admiration, while he remains more or less indifferent to others, whose value and works he ignores or disregards. Narcissism can assume pathological dimensions and meaning that seriously interfere with the life of a relationship, as happens in certain psychoses, called narcissistic ones.

This book is meant to be a help for all those people who have problems in their relationship. In particular, it is focused on the relationship with a person who suffers from a narcissistic personality disorder.

We will analyze a wide variety of signals and behaviors that will allow us to clearly identify an abuse within the relationship, abuses that often become invisible in the eyes of a person who loves a narcissist.

We will see behaviors and actions to be avoided in a narcissistic relationship or to put boundaries beyond which we must not go in order not to sink into the abyss of anxiety and depression.

Typically in every normal couple, there are narcissistic components rather a well-integrated and sufficiently in love couple offers a healthy narcissistic supply to each of its members. Each partner thus provides for the other to provide both care and satisfaction but also a share of illusion and idealization.

when a narcissistic personality seeks more than a confirmation of himself by exploiting and using the other, we are faced with pathological narcissism.

It is not therefore that narcissistic personalities love only themselves, the fact is rather that they love both themselves and others. The narcissistic personality in the couple defends itself with a grandiose self and projects its devalued part onto the partner who will respond to confirmation of the grandiose self with constant admiration.

In psychiatry the term narcissism was first used by Havelock Ellis in 1892 in a psychological study of auto-erotism; he accurately described the mythological and literary roots of the Narcissus myth, and for the first time he overshadowed the extension of the term narcissism to non-manifestly sexual behavior.

Otto Rank in 1911, with the first paper dedicated specifically to narcissism, for the first time linked him not implicitly, but explicitly, to non-sexual phenomena, such as vanity and self-admiration.

But it was Freud's important work of 1914 Introduction to Narcissism that marked the official birth of this concept in psychoanalysis.

Many psychoanalysts later dealt with narcissism.

A particular form of narcissism is linked to new technologies, and to the web, it is defined digital narcissism similar in some aspects to egosurfing, which would be characterized by an inordinate cult of personality, of appearing and performing on the web with one's writings, photos, videos, and messages; accomplices web applications that allow any user to create self-produced content very easily.

Cap. 2 - Narcissism through the Mith

"Anyone who falls in love too much with himself

will have no contenders"

(B. Franklin)

ACCORDING TO THE MYTH, Narcissus was a young man of magnetic and irresistible beauty. He died drowned in a spring because he was bewitched by his own reflected image of which he had fallen in love.

Narcissus was the son of River God Cephisus and nymph Liriope. He was known for his beauty and he was loved by God Apollo due to his extraordinary physique.

The myth of Narcissus comes in two different versions, the Greek and the Greco-Roman version, as both Conon the Greek and Ovid, the Roman poet, wrote the story of Narcissus, enhancing it with different elements:

The Greek Version Of The Myth Of Narcissus

According to Conon, Aminias, a young man fell in love with Narcissus, who had already spurned his male suitors. Aminias was also spurned by Narcissus who gave the unfortunate young man a sword. Aminias killed himself at Narcissus’ doorstep praying to the Gods to give Narcissus a lesson for all the pain he had provoked.

Narcissus was once walking