Life on Your Terms: How to Get What You Really Want

By Tanya Russell

What a shame it would be to come to the end of your life and look back and say, "That was it?"

Life on Your Terms is a practical blueprint for how to feel fulfilled while creating the life you imagine. No matter what situation you find yourself in today, there is a bright future waiting for you. Applying the skills and practices in this book will launch you to that place and beyond, faster than you ever imagined possible.

In this practical guidebook, the author compresses decades of lessons learned from her wins and failures as a businesswoman and single mother into actionable steps to achieve the life you truly desire. Once bankrupt but now financially free, her courage, faith and strong desire for something more for herself and her children have driven her to seek out ways to create exactly that.

Don't live the same day every day and call it a life. Apply these foundational principles and rewrite your future today.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tellwell Talent
• Release date: May 31, 2021
• ISBN: 9780228850717

Tanya Russell

Tanya Russell is a successful multi-business owner and life coach. Her passions are her family, continued personal growth, and empowering others to live their very best lives. Tanya enjoys fast cars, motorcycles and travelling. She is currently enjoying the Okanagan lifestyle in Kelowna, BC, Canada.

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Life

on Your

Terms

How to Get What You Really Want

Tanya Russell

Life on Your Terms

Copyright © 2021 by Tanya Russell

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the author, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other non-commercial uses permitted by copyright law.

Tellwell Talent

www.tellwell.ca

ISBN

978-0-2288-5070-0 (Hardcover)

978-0-2288-5069-4 (Paperback)

978-0-2288-5071-7 (eBook)

This book is dedicated to my brother

Tyler Robert Russell

My person.

Gone but never forgotten

January 1, 1978 to July 3, 2011

Table of Contents

Acknowledgements

Introduction

1.Cultivate a Healthy Mind

2.Rise and Shine

3.Understand Money

4.Know What You Want

5.Discover Your WHY

6.Manage Your Most Valuable Asset

7.Pay It Forward

Acknowledgements

First and foremost, I want to thank God. He has been beside me through it all and has carried me through the hard times. He has answered my prayers and guided my steps when I could not see my path.

Next, I want to thank my children (Avery, Jordyn and Jesse) who have, without knowing it, pushed me to be a better person. Raising them mostly on my own forced me to work hard, grow, stretch and learn way beyond my comfort zone. Many of the lessons you will read here were learned through the trying times of working parenthood. My children put up with the ups and downs, the good, the bad and the sometimes ugly. I wouldn’t be who I am today if it weren’t for them. I am so, so proud of all three of you.

I would also like to thank Abe, who encourages me daily, especially throughout this whole writing process, and convinced me that I did have something important to share. Your insight and wisdom never cease to amaze me, and I am so blessed to have you in my life.

My Mom, who didn’t always agree with my life choices, but has always been there for me.

My baby brother, Tim, who has been the rock in our family since we lost our stepdad. Your strength and love for your family are second to none.

My late stepfather who always told me to hold my head high and be proud of who God made me to be. Without his encouraging words in my formative years, I don’t know what path I would have headed down. Your passing changed me, but I always treasure the things you instilled in my life during those ten short years I had you for a father.

My dear friend Lee, who took me dirt biking on that fateful day in July 2020. If it wasn’t for that crash this book may have stayed as an idea in my mind for many more years. Your ability to challenge me, stretch me and support me is a true gift. I am truly grateful for your friendship, business mentorship and willingness to escape life on the tough days with me on our iron horses!

Oh, Tamara … it’s hard to put into words how much I love and appreciate you. God truly brought us together at that perfect time when we both needed each other, but I can honestly say you give me way more than I can ever repay. I have never met such a genuine, caring soul. Thank you for always being that listening ear, for your unwavering support and for our endless hours of laughter at RR. You are a gift.

No one in life believed in me more than my dear brother Tyler. We always planned to write a book together, but we never got it started before he headed to heaven. My world turned completely upside down the day I lost you, but through God’s grace, I recovered. I hope and pray that I have made you proud. You are missed.

Introduction

There are many definitions of success, happiness and fulfillment. What they mean to you is likely very different than how I would define them for myself. The common denominator for anyone who achieves these seemingly elusive states is the foundation upon which their entire life is built. No matter which career or path you take, if you build your life on the foundation of the seven solid principles in this book, you are bound to attain the life you desire. You may be thinking that you don’t even know what that life would look like to you. I am sure that as you read through these chapters, what you truly desire will become very c lear.

Each chapter in this book outlines a key area that I believe you need to master in order to jump-start a journey to an amazing life. You may think you can skip one or more, but ultimately you will have to take the time to learn and apply them all. The seven chapters and the concepts in each work together to establish the solid foundation you need to create an amazing life, on your terms.

No concept or chapter in this book plays a more important role than any other. Each concept and chapter is deserving of your equal attention, your equal effort. Your journey will take shape quickly once you’ve built your solid foundation. The greatest architectural wonders of the world, like St. Peter’s Basilica, depend on the strength of their foundation. Life is the same way. If your foundation is weak, aspects of your life will eventually collapse. Don’t overlook the essentials. When the basics are prioritized, the rewards will follow.

So join me as we explore how to create a healthy mindset and then implement key daily success habits. We will chat a bit about the dreaded M word, the lack of which is the cause of many people’s problems today. When was the last time you talked about money and didn’t get a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach? This chapter provides ideas on how to get control of your finances and build more financial stability.

In later chapters, we will figure out what it is that you truly desire and then discover what will drive you to achieve those desires. Once you know this, we will work through an action plan on how to accomplish it all. Last, but definitely not least, the discussion will focus on how to ensure that you feel fulfilled in your daily life.

Be advised: this is an action book. Throughout some of the chapters you will be asked to jot some things down, so grab a pen. This is a critical part of the foundation-building process. Please don’t let this be a book that you just read through but do not apply. I have read hundreds of books, but the ones that proved most valuable to me were those whose wisdom and advice I actually applied.

At the end of each chapter, you will find action steps to assist you in applying what you are learning. I didn’t write this book to have you read it, put it on a shelf, and never consider it again. I hope that you take these simple lessons, put them to work in your life right now, and then educate others. Don’t do what most people do, wishing they had started years earlier, realizing how much progress they could have made. Start today; tomorrow never comes!

Foundation Builder #1

Cultivate a Healthy Mind

If you can change your mind, you can change your life.

—William James

Are you searching for more from life? Maybe you look at life today and think you should be happy, but you aren’t. Perhaps you are just getting started in life or you are starting over after a loss of a marriage/relationship/income and want to be sure you get off on the right foot this time.

The good news is that today is a new day and success can be learned. If you think about it, what does it take to be successful? A belief that it is possible, plus focus, determination, persistence and getting really good at just one thing! These are all simply habits or skills that any one of us can develop if we truly