Your Life of Personal Power

By Anna M. Williams

Every one of us is born with innate personal power, the sovereignty and right to live our lives

as we please. And yet so many of us give that power away, whether it be to people in our

lives or the influence and rules of society.

But what if you could reclaim that power?

What if you c

• Language: English
• Publisher: That Guys House
• Release date: Jul 4, 2021
• ISBN: 9781914447037

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Made to Feel Unworthy

We are taught at a young age how society determines what social class you are in and what is expected of you because of where they have placed each of us. Family and friends also try to tell us our worth in many different ways. Gender roles are another way society and families create feelings of unworthiness in others.

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Society has become a hierarchy that people have let determine who they are and what they are able to archive. I will cover this more in a later chapter on success.

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Family – this might be a touchy subject for many, and for others, it may be an eye-opener. In some cultures, people are taught to honor their family or traditions and deny who they are or what they want in life. Many cultures bind people to others by promising to do or not to do something. An example of this would be if a parent who is very ill and is not expected to live asked a child to honor them by taking care of other family members, instead of living the life the child truly desire. To not keep the promise would be to dishonor oneself, which is meant to make the child feel unworthy if they do not honor their parents’ wishes.

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I have witnessed this many times in movies and in real life. In some movies, it is depicted that if someone dishonors their family, it brings shame among the family as a whole. It is often used as a control tactic. In real life, it is often the oldest or youngest who is made to believe they are responsible for other family members and are often criticized for wanting more or something different. 

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I have also observed family members degrade others in the family for something as simple as arriving at a family reunion with new shoes by saying, Who do you think you are showing up here with those new, bright white shoes? Really?! What does having new shoes have to do with enjoying the time spent with other family members who you have not seen in a while? Does it really matter that I have new shoes? And how does a new pair of shoes make me better than you? I have come to realize that this person was trying to undermine my worthiness by trying to make me feel bad for having something new because they felt they could not afford to purchase something as basic as new shoes. The odd part was the shoes I had bought cost only about $5. It was not like I was wearing an expense pair of shoes that had cost me hundreds of dollars. I have witnessed many people demean others as a way to pick away at their self-confidence and to make them feel unworthy, essentially saying, How dare you be more successful or have more than me?

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Worthiness is defined by a person’s perception and what we are taught while growing up. We are often taught that whether or not we are worthy of love, success, happiness, jobs, homes, vehicles and health depends how good of a person we are. We are considered good if we follow all the rules and do everything that we are told. If we deviate from those rules, we are often considered unworthy of things.

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 Gaslighting is another way another someone may try to make you doubt yourself, which eats away at your confidence. Gaslighting is typically done by someone telling you something and then later saying they did not say it. It can make you feel like you are crazy and really can make you question yourself. I had an ex-husband who would do this to me. He would tell me little things and then later say he never said it. I would get really pissed off because I knew he had said it. After a little while, I would notice that he would get a smirk on his face when I would get upset. After a while, I stopped confronting him because I realized that is what he wanted. He wanted me to question what I was being told so it would throw me off balance to what I knew to be true. By keeping me off balance, he was trying to gain control over my confidence and make me feel unworthy by way of second-guessing my