When God Is Your Lawyer: NAVIGATING A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY COURT SYSTEM

By Dominique D. Louis

When Dominique's marriage ended because his wife filed for a divorce, he had not expected what would follow. When he thought he was a loving and present father who could easily enter into an easy, stress-free co-parenting arrangement with his estranged wife, he didn't know that this would be the beginning of years of stress, extortion, frustration and disappointment with the very systems he thought would help him have shared custody of his kids?
His is a story of how an ordinary guy who was ambitious and hard-working tending to his family would end up with an extraordinary loss of everything he held dear because of the desire for vengeance from his ex-wife.
From resigning from a career as an IT Executive to founding a school with over 10 years experience as a Credentialed Director with Florida's Department of Children and Family, Dominique's story is triumphant and exhilarating to see that the family court system even when abused by anyone who has the right connections, money, and power, is not enough to destroy one's spirit in being a great parent.
Follow his journey throughout his divorce (there is an appendix at the end showing the court proceedings), including how he ended up broke and unable to afford a lawyer, being forced to represent himself as a pro se litigant, to losing his school, commercial property, the kids and much more. In addition, as if that's not enough, follow how he has fought the system, uncovered illegalities, corruption, and unethical legal practices that would make you think again about being so confident that being an educated and informed pro se litigant is enough to get you a fair share of access to your kids and property during a divorce.
Learn how he has since rediscovered himself, tried new things and is on a recovery journey while having fun and enjoying every moment of it! His 7 spiritual lessons about recovery will undoubtedly prove helpful to anyone who has been in a similar situation and hasn't found an effective coping mechanism.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Apr 29, 2021
• ISBN: 9781098355654

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When Dominique’s marriage ended because his wife filed for a divorce, he had not expected what would follow. When he thought he was a loving and present father who could easily enter into an easy, stress-free co-parenting arrangement with his estranged wife, he didn’t know that this would be the beginning of years of stress, extortion, frustration and disappointment with the very systems he thought would help him have shared custody of his kids?

His is a story of how an ordinary guy who was ambitious and hard-working tending to his family would end up with an extraordinary loss of everything he held dear because of the desire for vengeance from his ex-wife.

From resigning from a career as an IT Executive to founding a school with over 10 years experience as a Credentialed Director with Florida’s Department of Children and Family, Dominique’s story is triumphant and exhilarating to see that the family court system even when abused by anyone who has the right connections, money, and gender, is not enough to destroy one’s spirit in being a great parent.

Follow his journey throughout his divorce (there is an appendix at the end showing the court proceedings), including how he ended up broke and unable to afford a lawyer, being forced to represent himself as a pro se litigant, to losing his school, commercial property, the kids and much more. In addition, as if that’s not enough, follow how he has fought the system, uncovered illegalities, corruption, and unethical legal practices that would make you think again about being so confident that being an educated and informed pro se litigant is enough to get you a fair share of access to your kids and property during a divorce.

Learn how he has since rediscovered himself, tried new things and is on a recovery journey while having fun and enjoying every moment of it! His 7 spiritual lessons about recovery will undoubtedly prove helpful to anyone who has been in a similar situation and hasn’t found an effective coping mechanism.

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Table of Contents

Dedication

The Titanic That Was Our Love

The Ship Sunk

What is a Pro Se Litigant?

Where Do The Children Stand?

Broward County, Florida Court

My case in Broward County

When all hope is gone

And then there is the corruption

Verdict Of A Flawed Judge

They Need A ‘Motivation’ Fee!

They Are All Connected!

The Green Children’s House Montessori School

Do Justice And Fairness Still Exist?

How Have I Learned To Cope?

The Law Of Detachment

Hope Lights Up The Dark Tunnel

My Family; My Pillar Of Strength

Changing My Lifestyle

The 6 Six Mile Lifestyle

Invite The White Bears In

Becoming Mr. Skateman

Making Lemon-Aid out of a Lemon Breakup

Places That I wouldFrequently Visit on Skateboard:

The Love Of My Kids

7 Spiritual Lessons Drawn From My Divorce

Culture Shock

Count Your Loss, Accept And Move On

Have A Support System

Let God Be Your Lawyer

Conclusion

Appendix

Table of Authorities

Appendix 2

Dedication

This book is dedicated:

To my mother, Liliane Nerette Louis, who never lost hope in me. I will forever be grateful for Dr. Cheryl Holder who has known me my entire life and testified as it pertained to my character and how important it was for my children to have their most important male role model in their life. Thank you to Suzie Stephane (Guardian Ad-Litem) who confirmed that there was a conflict of interest with the Guardian working on my case..

To my friend, Debora Penedo, for teaching me how to cry and being my rock when I was down. She showed me how to enjoy life despite my world as I knew it was falling down.

Thank you to Dr. Richard Henry for being able to bring laughter as medicine and being the world’s greatest Chiropractor. I will forever be grateful for Dr. Shannon Clemons who taught me that hard work will always beat smarts.

To my eldest son, Denzel, for always telling me whatever material things that I have lost, I would replace them with better things and make more money.

To my middle son, Davin Louis, for being so loving and wanting to help cook delicious foods.

Dusty for countless hugs and making me feel like his Superman, his Black Panther Dad, and his Superhero because every weekend together, he would say, Was the best weekend of my life, you are the best Dad ever!

To my best friend Simone Chin, a best friend is one who knows that you are completely insane but loves you anyway. I will always Love you! And to Roger Chang for bigging me up in Jamaica while I was down!

Many Thanks to my cousins Wesley and Farah Nerrette for the relationship with MICHAEL D. CIRULLO, JR. of Goren, Cherof, Doody & Ezrol, P.A. for fighting for me when I no longer had the energy or funds left to fight.

Thank you for the countless lawyers that helped me along the way especially David Korsunsky (California) who help be thwart the kidnapping charges and establish proper jurisdiction in Florida, Kaysia Earley, Heather Zardus, Ian Seitel, Yueh-Mei Kim Nutter, Loomis & Loomis, Michael Curullo, Jr, Diane Maglore and the entire legal team at Brinkley Morgan that worked tirelessly on my case in attempting to have the corrupted Guardian Ad-Litem (Bruce Warner) disqualified and impeached.

A heartfelt thank you to my long time, childhood friend, Wendi Weiner, The Writing Guru: Attorney and Executive Resume Writer for helping me embrace change (however difficult) and empowering me with important lessons. Wendi helped me with the transformational shift required to impact the world, using the correct strategy on how to get ahead. Wendi is the real MVP as featured on Forbes, CNN, HuffPost, TIME, Fortune and many more. Find her on: https://writingguru.net

Thank God for my cousins Lionel Nerette, Stephanie Nerette Garcia, Nadine Nerette, and Elika Nerette for always picking up my call when I needed a family to be at my side. To my Aunt Chef Mi-sol Chevallier for sharing her words of wisdom and love like no one else when I’d go to Haiti.

To my Godson, JJ Louis, who was patient with me encouraging him to eat veggies until all the greens on his plate were gone.

This book is dedicated to all parents who want to continue to be great co-parents despite a broken relationship with a spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend or partner. A special dedication to my cousin Dr. Richard Louis who tragically lost his son (Nnamdi Louis) in New Orleans on May 22, 2016. Nnambi! We love you and miss you! God will always be your guardian and your advocate. No one can escape God’s justice. This book is dedicated to everyone who has lost a loved one and is seeking justice. No matter how dysfunctional a system or broken a relationship is, nothing can separate the loving bond that your children have for you if you continue to be present for them.

And finally, I will always be sincerely grateful to my ex-wife, Danyiel A. Louis for giving birth to our three beautiful boys that we share.

Lamentations 3:58-66

You, Lord, took up my case;

You redeemed my life.

Lord, you have seen the wrong done to me.

Uphold my cause!

You have seen the depth of their vengeance,

All their plots against me.

Lord, you have heard their insults,

all their plots against me—

What my enemies whisper and mutter

Against me all day long.

Look at them! Sitting or standing,

they mock me in their songs.

Pay them back what they deserve, Lord,

For what their hands have done.

Put a veil over their hearts,

And may your curse be on them!

Pursue them in anger and destroy them

From under the heavens of the Lord.

My Love Before Everything

Broke Apart

The Titanic That Was Our Love

My life was a dream – No, really, it was. My friends would say, you were the Obamas before the Obamas. Both pursuing our dreams as Software Engineers and living in the San Francisco Bay area. We both were excelling and living our best life in Silicon Valley. We had a fairytale wedding for my Queen on her wedding day, with every detail carefully orchestrated. Years later people would still talk about our wedding and wonder how in the world does someone manage to charter a helicopter and land at the golf course with the Burlingame, CA Police Department as our security detail, all while our guest, family and friends gazed in awe. I had everything a man my age would have wanted; a stable career, a good marriage, a lovely spouse I adored, and three adorable kids whom I loved with all of my heart. It was perfect, everything, and I was grateful for I realized what I had was a life wish for most of me. I knew I was blessed, and I tried to live every day like I recognized that, trying never to take any of it for granted. Reflecting before going to bed at night and thinking to myself, this is as good as it gets.

In this world where divorces, ugly ones for that matter, are the order of the day, I know that most young people are hesitant about getting married – afraid that it may all go down the drain and end up in pain. I understand those who are hesitant given that divorce is not a nice place to be at, and it is not the way any love story should end.

It is painful and especially where there are kids involved. That experience of their parents going their separate ways, usually in a very uncivil manner, could cause them trauma that will last a lifetime.

When you fall in love with a person you think is the most adorable and amazing creature you have ever seen, you can never imagine that what feels like heaven may turn out to be hell one day. You cannot fathom that one day, the two will be standing in docks in court fighting against each other because it did not work out, tearing each other apart in front of Judges. You cannot see yourself one day fighting for the adorable kids you had together; the kids you hugged and kissed since they were in their mother’s belly and loved and adored every day of their lives. The kids you worked so hard, so they may never lack, so they may have the best of everything that perhaps you were not lucky to have.

No, when you are taking those vows, smiling from ear to ear, and accepting the gifts and congratulatory messages for the new union…

When you see the positive on the pregnancy test kit, when you see the first ultrasound shot, wear those headphones and hear their little heartbeat…

And when you take that baby home for the first time a proud father and husband, you can never think that any of it could go wrong.

I, unlike many young people, have always believed in marriage. Yes, I have always been team ‘marriage works!’ I fell in love with an adorable girl and looked forward to the day I would take her home as my wife. No, I did not play any games with her ever since the very beginning; I loved her wholly and truly. I was committed to her, and I wanted it to last forever.

I was a lucky man, for she loved me just as much, if not more. She was committed to our relationship and was looking forward to a forever with me, her soul mate, and the love of her life.

We had a dream that seemed extraordinary in our modern world; to have a marriage that stood the test of time and lasted ‘as long as we shall live’. With so many people being pro-divorce when things didn’t work out, we believed, no, we swore that we would do everything to make it work and that it would never get to that (an ugly divorce). We would not fail; we would never allow it to fail, we said. We could succeed at anything, together, if we put our minds and hearts to it, we promised. The world and what was popular in the marriage institution, the ugly divorces and separations would never be our portion, we prayed.

That was our pact before she ever wore that incredible dress and walked down the aisle looking like a goddess, an image I cannot seem to erase from my mind to this day. It was our promise before she hooked her hand on mine and I walked her down the aisle and to the altar to say our vows.

That day, I was the most blessed