Go Find Yourself

By Melissa Concessio

Joining the The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, You Are a Badass, this refreshingly entertaining and easy to digest how-to guide offers an honest no bullsh*t approach to self empowerment.

The easy exercises and brutally honest advice in Go F(ind) Yourself will ensure you find out how it isn't other people that are getting in your way; it isn't even your circumstances. Ultimately you can do anything if you latch on to this one belief - “You can grow at any point in your life.”

Drawing down on vivid imperfect childhood memories, true life lessons, self-experimentation and academic research, Business Strategist and a Certified Personal Development Coach, Melissa Concessio shows you:

•How to get rid of the feeling of inadequacy, fear, perfectionism, and toxic energy
•How to build inner confidence and destroy fear once and for all
•How to know yourself, understand who you are and listen to yourself
•How to make peace with your past and develop intuitive wisdom
•How to prioritise yourself and let go of perspectives that do not serve you
•How to add more meaning, purpose and happiness to your life
•How to achieve true and lasting inner success and be a role model for others

• Language: English
• Publisher: Melissa Concessio
• Release date: Dec 14, 2020
• ISBN: 9781005046446

Melissa Concessio

Melissa Concessio (BBus) is a Business Strategist and a Certified Personal Development Expert. She is the founder of Strategy International and helps ambitious executives and entrepreneurs achieve their true vision.She loves sharing her wisdom and knowledge with the world. She writes and creates educational video and audio material to help ambitious people develop creative soft skills, sparking growth and productivity. She has been featured in international publications such as Thought Catalog, VoiceAmerica.com with thousands of readers and viewers. Her keynote speeches and consulting experience with Fortune 500 companies such as Coca Cola Amatil, Westpac Banking Corporation, General Electric and State Governments helped solve logical problems with effective persuasion, collaboration, and communication techniques.

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Go Find Yourself

Brutal Life Lessons to Stop Fighting Yourself and Start Loving Your Life

Go Find Yourself © Copyright 2020 Melissa Concessio

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"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching, Love like you'll never be hurt,

Sing like there's nobody listening,

And live like it's heaven on earth."― William W. Purkey

Table of Contents

Preface

Lesson 1: Accept Adversity Like a Champion

Lesson 2: Childhood Fears Can Become Adult Victories

Lesson 3: Let Others Play with Your Toys

Lesson 4: Respectfully Take Down Anyone That Disrespects You

Lesson 5: Wear Your Confidence to Combat Unkind Bullshit

Lesson 6: Don’t Let Someone Else’s Mood Ruin Your Day

Lesson 7: Don’t Ever Shut Up When You Must Talk

Lesson 8: You Can Write Your Own Future

Lesson 9: There’s Always Good in The Bad – Search for It!

Lesson 10: The Higher the Odds, The Better the Rewards

Lesson 11: Learn to Look Back and Laugh

Lesson 12: Be Thankful You Have A Glass Even If Its Half Full

Lesson 13: Don’t Become the Big Bad Wolf

Lesson 14: Never Give Up Even If Your Shorts Get Soaked

Lesson 15: Sometimes, It’s Okay Not to Listen to Your Parents

Lesson 16: If Someone Approaches You with A Needle in The Street, Say No

Lesson 17: When You Can’t Control Something – Meditate or Pray

Lesson 18: If You Mess Up, Don’t Worry – Life Gives You Many Second Chances

Lesson 19: Don’t Let Lies Defeat Your Truth

Lesson 20: Don’t Let Tumours Grow

Lesson 21: Life Skills Are Learned When the Fridge Is on Fire

Lesson 22: If You Find Yourself Eating Sand, It’s Time to Leave that Bad Friendship Behind

Lesson 23: Don’t Let Others Pull You Down

Lesson 24: Empathy for Others Teaches You More About Yourself

Lesson 25: When You Survive a Difficult Life Event – You’re Stronger

Lesson 26: Pay Attention to Your Body, You Only Have One

Lesson 27: If You Want to Be Super Popular, Just Be Yourself

Lesson 28: The Beauty of Life Is in The Eye of the Beholder

Acknowledgements

About the Author

Author’s Preface

This book you are holding is the result of a lifetime of journaling, self-improvement, and meticulous organisation of my thoughts. This book outlays extremely personal secrets that I share with you to guide you on your life’s journey.

Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions?

Why did this happen to me and how can I change it?

Am I good enough to do whatever I want?

Is it too late to be everything I want to be?

Why are people judging me? Are they right?

Why do people I love, hurt me? Am I unappreciated?

What is the meaning of my life? How can I create this meaning?

Will it ever get better for me and how do I follow my intuition?

Why can I not do that?

What could go wrong?

Why does my past affect me so much and how do I use it to liberate me?

These questions often agitate us, but they serve a deep purpose. The underlying problem isn't you. We have never been taught to study ourselves. This book is a guide and loving approach to stop fighting yourself and start loving your life. You’ll find out how it isn't other people that are getting in your way; it isn't even your circumstances. Ultimately you can do anything if you latch on to this belief.

You can grow at any point in your life.

WHAT THIS BOOK IS ABOUT

Every chapter in this book opens with a story from my childhood and closes with a learning. These are true stories to the best of my recollection and journal. Some of the stories may be considered as brutal but that’s when we learn the most. Pseudonyms have been used to protect the identity of individuals. This is by design to guide you to work on a particular area in your life. This book is about:

Finding your true self

Making peace with your past

Letting go of perspectives that do not serve you

Trying again

Backing yourself like a superhero

Overcoming and getting rid of fear

Finding your higher purpose

Becoming a role model for others

Inviting great opportunities into your life

Prioritising you in your life

Overcoming toxic energy

DEFAULT VS DESIGN

There are two pathways and one of them leads to Misery, the other leads to Greatness.

Many of us live in default mode – Passive as hell. Shifting responsibility. Hoping that the worst will automatically leave us.

But the truth is you can live life by design mode, also known as conscious living where you take control of your life, become so true to yourself that you start to love life automatically. That’s when all your problems truly melt away and you achieve more heights than you ever imagined.

With this book, you’ll be equipped with the most powerful tools and strategies to help you find your personal path to greatness. I have firsthand experienced these stories and life lessons. I offer you my ideas based on the latest cutting edge of what I now know and invite you to take your pick of the lessons that truly resonate with you.

I’ve found with everything in life the 80/20 pareto principle applies. This means 80% of your true success in life comes from the 20%. The most important 20% you need is to do ‘Go Find Yourself’. In fact, it reveals the highest infinite return you can possibly get.

If you wait, you’ll go through life being in the passive default mode. Don’t wait another second. Do it now. Are you willing to take the first step? Read the next page.

Lesson 1

ACCEPT ADVERSITY LIKE A CHAMPION

"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference." – Reinhold Niebuhr

The commotion in the living room had woken me from a deep sleep. Noisy disturbances were normal in our household, so much so that I would usually try to sleep through them. This night was different. An unexplained wailing was coming from the living room. Rubbing my eyes, I dragged myself out of bed. Hugging my stuffed toy racoon, I headed to the hallway where a dull tube light flickered. I could see my mother in a distance. She was wrapped in a blanket, shivering, and crying. She was in extreme pain.

BLUE BLOOD UPBRINGING

As I approached, I could see blood stains all through the carpet that led to Mom. My steps slowed. I saw Mom closely; she was conscious, opening and closing her eyes - a deep open wound on her forehead gushing blood. Frozen in shock, I stood there - frightened and powerless. I was only four years old.

I heard multiple loud sirens competing with Mom’s high-pitched crying. Paramedics rushed through our open front door, while the police quickly followed. The police questioned what had happened, and Mom responded with - ‘I slipped and fell.’ The paramedics bandaged her forehead, said she was stable and left.

The police stayed, debating amongst themselves in Arabic for what felt like forever. They kept glancing at the clothes iron in the living room. The police also quizzed my older brother and sisters who were all under the age of 14, and finally left.

IRON NIGHTMARES

Violence was not new or uncommon in our household. Untold stories reveal countless domestic attacks using bottles of ‘Johnny Walker,’ ice cold water, pots and pans, shards of glass, slippers, car tyres and any other household item imaginable. The devastation that a clothes iron could cause when used as a weapon is ruthless.

This was a scene of domestic violence, and my first ever childhood memory.

Yikes, that little child in the scene was me! Except, I am not that little child anymore. Years later I realised I had to embrace not what had happened, but what I chose to become.

FIND YOUR