Matters of the Heart

By Ezekiel Fatomilola

Getting a grasp of how the human mind works could be a complex situation to deal with.

In rare situations when you think you understand why people behave the way they do, why two lovers move in opposite directions; why one is clingy and the other is just fine even when there's a break in communication, will your understanding help you deal with these different persons respectfully? Will you be able to "help" them because you simply understand what they feel and why they do what they do?

Depending on where you're coming from, this book may or may not be the panacea to unrequited relationships, heartbreaks and fruitless relationship, but it sure provides a carefully woven insight into "Matters of the heart."

The book has been in production since October 2017. It implores well researched information and experiences to present a good read.

It tells you why people should be left alone when need be. Why love is not to be forced, and why one does not have to seek to ressurrect a love they have no need for.

Unlike other love stories, this is one couched from an African context with relatable content for people from all walks of life.

Love is not a straight jacket affair, and it can be figured out using some trusted methods in their proper ways.

This book provides these ways to a fault. You will understand why you don't like the good guys and what you can do to get the bad guys off your back and make sense of your love life.

I hope you enjoy this piece of work, and find it worthy of recommendation.

Matters of the heart are not predictable and can ruin lives if not handled with great caution.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ezekiel Fatomilola
• Release date: Jul 4, 2020
• ISBN: 9780463916940

Ezekiel Fatomilola

Ezekiel Adewale Fatomilola is the author of "The Marriage Journey", a weekly article published on Maritalpsychologist.wordpress.com.He is a Project Manager, Business Developer, Content Creator, Relationship Blogger, Playwright, and a Relationship Counselor.His work cut across multiple disciplines.As a Journalist, Adewale served as Editor-In-Chief at the Faculty of Social Sciences Press Organisation. He was also a member of the Union of Campus Journalists' Editorial Board at the University of Ibadan.As a Content Creator and Business Developer, he has worked with brands like Emerald Green, Seun Odutayo Foundation, and now Swift Rental Cars Limited.Adewale has provided counseling services to over 23 relationships, eight of which have led to conjugal bliss. His first book, "The Handicapped Hero" was published in 2015.His work has featured on notable sites including Kobo.com, Valour Digest, and Oneafricanchild.com.He is a YALI alumnus, an MBA candidate at the School of Business, Manchester University.

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Matters of The Heart

Copyright 2020 Ezekiel Adewale Fatomilola

Published by ADM at Smashwords

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DEDICATION

To an incredibly beautiful woman and very attractive, the love of my life, Queen Bolutife Grace Fuwape.

Thank you for allowing a story of this nature to see the light of the day.

Life has taught me that not all beautiful women are attractive, from our sweet love experiences, however, I can confirm you are one of the few beautiful and attractive.

I respect you and look forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

Special thanks to the giver of life and the provider of all life’s good gifts, the Almighty God!

A lot of people contributed to the success of this piece, naming them all will even amount to a book in itself. Kindly permit me to say a very big thank you to everyone who gave their time, money, and other resources in seeing this project a huge success.

A special thanks to the crew, starting with Dr. Olugbemi Olukolade who has not met me in person but threw his weight behind this work by writing us a foreword.

Followed by, Oluwaseyi Osatuyi for cushioning the effect of putting these thoughts into words.

Will not forget to extend an immense appreciation to Irene Fafali Amesimeku for editing this work without placing a cost to it and doing it even with her tight schedules.

My childhood friend, go to man any day for all graphic works, CEO Smartech tech Media, Badmus Yusuf, thank you for all you do and the beautiful befitting Cover design.

Special thanks to my uncle, Olusoga Osifisan who had severally asked me when my next book was going to be produced after the Handicapped hero.

My brother, Moses Olufemi and My mum, Mrs. Esther, thank you for your immeasurable supports.

Finally, everlasting thanks to my heart robe, Queen Bolutife Grace Fuwape for allowing this piece work to see the light of the day.

FOREWORD

This book comes to you with a fresh dimension on the subject of love. It offers the often-unspoken truths into this generation’s trials and struggles in the area of love by presenting the truth with an uncanny twist and turns. Here is just one brief example of how our lives is constantly shaped by our feeling and our emotions.

When it is a matter of the heart, often we suspend our rational and logical thinking pattern which does not prevent danger when it looms or fear if it is real. When love and relationships sometimes get turbulent, suffer setback, or lead to pain, desolation sits with us at the fireside, fear and alarm are our natural responses but surprisingly, there can be another response of our heart.

This propitious form of response is what Ezekiel Adewale Fatomilola provided throughout the book - You need to cry if you feel like, but before removing people from your life, have a talk with them and if their answer is still NO, please do not offer them more than what they ask for.

Furthermore, the reality of the modern day makes relationships to be more open and not a guessing game which many a time ends in pain and disaster, the author, Ezekiel did the work of a love therapist by teaching us to enlist assertiveness as one of our core values, because whoever falls in love with you (us) would not need your consent when they want to fall out and move on.

Therefore, we should be open enough to know what we are going into and be clear from the outset of our own emotions and feelings so as not to be wounded in the matters of the heart!

My assurance is that, through this book, you will learn the core psychology relationship principles that have been proven to work in matters of the heart.

This book will capture your imagination with real life events, from the first chapter to the very last page. You will be laughing at some situations, tense in some, and relieved at some other but at the end, having a better understanding and a refreshing read.

Therefore, if you are seeking an honest – interesting read in matters of the heart, you will definitely find it on the pages of this book. Let the matter of the heart begin!

Dr Olugbemi Olukolade

Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist

DiamondMoor Psychological Consult &Services

Ibadan, Nigeria

INTRODUCTION

In rare situations when you think you understand why people behave the way they do, why two lovers move in opposite directions; why one is clingy and the other is just fine even when there's a break in communication, will your understanding help you deal with these different persons respectfully? Will you be able to help them because you simply understand what they feel and why they do what they do?

Depending on where you're coming from, this book may or may not be the panacea to unrequited relationships, heartbreaks and fruitless relationship, but it sure provides a carefully woven insight into Matters of the heart.

It tells you why people should be left alone when need be. Why love is not to be forced, and why one does