Finding the Man of Your Life

By Dra. Amanda

Choosing a partner is choosing someone that might be with you your entire life.
You know something? You can be free to choose your happiness.
Being in a relationship can be one of the most gratifying situations in life, use your abilities to widen your horizons.
Dare to pick. Dare to experiment.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Orieta Eloisa Maestro Andrés
• Release date: Mar 25, 2015
• ISBN: 9789974997400

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Finding the Man of Your Life

THE CHALLENGE OF CHANGE

DECIDING to be in a relationship is assuming an active attitude about your life. It is to say no more waiting. It is being able to leave the comfort zone of passivity accepting the CHALLENGE of UNDERTAKING. It is being ready to CHOOSE.

Challenge restraints and choose more freely

Remember when you chose to keep on studying or to take a job? You decided on your own life. You didn't wait for someone else to do it for you. Would it have been reasonable for you to wait for someone to look at you and say You have to pursue a career in teaching or nursing or run for an administrative career? See how little sense that makes? In this case, you chose and this is what this book aims at: make you capable of choosing that who you want to be with.

Remember when it was parents who chose who their daughter was to marry? Do you remember it? It seems an absurd custom, doesn't it? What would you say if I told you that nowadays that choice is made by society in a 70% and only 30% by yourself?

That's right. Social restraints have taken upon themselves to do the job that used to be done by parents. Step by step we will see which theses restraints are and we will help you increase your freedom to choose your life to a 100%.

CHOOSE YOUR LIFE

Choosing a partner is choosing someone that might be with you your entire life.

You know something? You can be free to choose your happiness.

Being in a relationship can be one of the most gratifying situations in life, use your abilities to widen your horizons.

Dare to pick. Dare to experiment.

Women who are passive in this matter are outwards passive. They await to be discovered. They groom themselves, dress up, spend money on the salon or cosmetics only to then sit at home watching TV or go to places where they know they won't be seen. Some of these women pose a statement that covers up as much as it deceives I groom myself for myself. It is a way to ease their internal demand to get out of their comfort zone and face the simultaneously complex and exhilarating challenge that is the adventure of being in a relationship and the sip of coffee of the first encounter.

Women who marry are always the same claim with disenchantment those who have not even started their first count. What happens then? Are they right? Do women who marry, truly, are always the same? It is very probable. I would say they are right. According to my years of experience treating women who crave a loving bond and cannot have one, it is very easy to discover their emotional impairments. Those impairments are not found in the attitudes of other women who often come to consultation because they feel harassed by men. Is one prettier than the other? NO. Straight up NO. What is it then? One is in fact more ATTRACTIVE than the other.

Being attractive is something of a different order, one step higher but different at the same time. It is using seduction to your own benefit. In this book I will teach you how to recognize your passive areas and help you activate them.

Being attractive is an attitude and like every attitude it can be learnt.

I remember one day a patient told me he knew two identical twins, but that one was handsome and the other wasn't. I asked her how that could be given that both of them were effectively identical genetically, he was hesitant but assured me that that's how things were. At last, he summarized Jimmy knew how to be surrounded by women, I don't know how he did it but Allen didn't.

I think it's a good example from the male point of view, which shows a difference beyond physical appearance. That's right. Being attractive is portraying yourself as such, being convinced that that is the case. The body is definitely a good shell case but it's sold on top of the expectations of content. Deciding to be attractive is to decide to adopt a behaviour that creates interesting expectations, do yo want to acquire it? Ask yourself that and if you do want to, I am here to help you.

Are you afraid? Bravo! No change can begin without fear

There's no real change that can take place without fear. Change means out with the old and in with the new. I'm not trying to convince you. You are the one who sought out to read this book, you know you need that change and you also know you can do it. If you understand that now is not the time, stop reading now. I wouldn't want this book to be another one to end up in the useless shelf. It wasn't born for that. This book is born with you, you give it meaning. You write it as I do, but better because your story is going to have the exclusive details of your life and no one in the whole world will know them like you do, no one will live them like you will, no one will feel your happiness, you gift of happiness. Want to start now?

EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT

What you have ahead of you is a before and after in your life. I suggest you do something special. A little opening ceremony.

Have a cup of your favourite tea. Change your clothes. Rearrange some furniture. Take a painting down, leave it out of place. Put it on the ground, or a shelf or simply flip it over. I want something around you to remind you, day after day, that your life is changing.

I remember a patient once bought a handful of little colorful beads, picked up a glass of water and the first day she decided to begin with her change, dropped a red bead inside; the second day, a blue one; the third, a green one. Each day she stirred the water so it would oxygenate itself, and that way it would remain vital. It was always the same water and always renewed. She was still the same but she was decided to renew herself. Each bead was a day of life willing to have a different colour. Her life was willing to have colour in it.

Today's undertaking is one that will push your life forward. Today is not just another day, it's a significantly different day. You know what I mean.

This is what I call emotional investment.

Have you seen how long it takes us to know what we invest our savings in? Well, today you are investing on something more important, you’re investing your emotional energy, your chance to be happy.

Welcome your bravery!

Shyness and even phobia towards men is the biggest cause for affective loneliness in women.

Are you a phobic woman? You probably wonder what I mean by that.

Are you a woman who passively awaits to be chosen?