A Submissive’s Guide to Your Wants and Needs

By Luna Carruthers

Don’t Enter into a D/s Relationship Before You Know What You Need and Want

As a submissive, being unsure of what you want and need can lead to incompatibility, hesitation and less fulfilling relationships.

Get the tools you need to figure out what is important to you in a D/s relationship no matter your experience level!

A Submissive’s Guide to Wants and Needs will step you through how to distinguish wants and needs for a more fulfilling life and successful D/s relationships.
What do we cover in this eBook?

In this eBook, definitions of wants and needs are broken down into their basic parts so that you can really narrow down what is a priority to you, then explore ways to talk to your partner about your needs.

- Break down why it’s so hard to accept that getting what we need isn’t greedy, selfish or wrong.
- Use helpful prompts to uncover your needs.
- Pinpoint your essential needs and values that drive you.
- Organize and prioritize your wants and needs with the included worksheet.
- Explore need deficits and why we often go through life with unmet needs.
- Learn how to talk about your wants and needs within a D/s relationship while maintaining a submissive attitude.
- Build a working vocabulary for asking for what you want with respect and deference.
Understand what options there are if you still aren’t getting your needs met.

Are you ready to start living a more authentic submissive life by accepting and sharing your personal needs and desires?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Luna Carruthers
• Release date: Oct 11, 2019
• ISBN: 9780463092415

Luna Carruthers

Luna Carruthers has been a submissive since 2004. She is married to her Dominant partner, KnyghtMare. She has been in leadership of several local BDSM communities and has presented on topics about D/s dynamics and BDSM.In 2009, she started SubmissiveGuide.com, a community and knowledge resource for submissives of all walks of life. She focuses on common sense advice and information to bring submission into reality for many.

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A Submissive’s Guide to Your Wants and Needs

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Introduction

Let me tell you about my first explorations into bottoming and BDSM. I was quite a novice and didn't have a lot of people available to help me find my way. What I did find were perverts and predators that looked like nice guys. I was lured into these so-called Dominants traps and was hurt several times, sometimes physically. When I found my Master I vowed to become educated in what I was getting into and to follow some form of the process so that I could keep myself safe. In the process, I found friends and others that wanted to know what I knew.

In this ebook, I wrap together all the things I learned and want you to understand about yourself when it comes to your desires and your needs. This isn't meant to tell you the right way or the true way; as I believe there is no one way to do something. What I