Assertiveness for Men: Stop Being a Pushover and Learn to Say No by Using These Proven Techniques

By John Adams

Do you consider yourself a people pleaser or Mr. Nice Guy?

Are you sick being a doormat?

Do you have enough of hearing yourself saying ´Yes´ when wanted to say ´NO´?

Then keep reading.

People around you consider you a very nice person. Your colleagues know they can ask you for help because they know you will get it done in time. But for important decisions, your colleagues go to someone else. They skip asking for your take on the situation. Sometimes in meetings, you wait for the right moment to give your opinion, after a while, you grab your chance but almost nobody pays attention. You realize that your behavior is not going to bring you far. You want to do something about it.

You have come to the right place.

Here is a tiny fraction of what you will discover in Assertiveness for Men:

• What to percolator effect means (page 13)
• How you can increase your assertiveness in only 2 minutes (page 39)
• 13 examples of how to say ´NO´ in a respectful and assertive way (page 33)
• The 4 steps to learn how to react naturally in an assertive way (page 33)
• What Oxytocin is, what it does and how you can raise it (page 13)
• 4 tips to be an assertive listener (page 35)
• How to take criticism (page 36)
• The importance of body language and assertiveness (page 37)

Fair warning.

Being more assertive can have some side effects.

Just to name a few:

• People will listen to you and offer you help
• Women will find you more attractive (even your own wife)
• People won´t start a difficult discussion because they know it´s a lost battle
• You will get the long-deserved promotion and salary raise without asking for it

You might think that reading a book will not make you a more assertive person for life. That´s why it´s jam-packed with exercises. It´s not solely a book to read, it´s a workbook. With the help of practical exercises and tools, you can make the desired lasting changes in your behavior.

Do you want to start living your life on your terms and conditions?

Start today by scrolling up and clicking the ´add to cart´ button.

• Language: English
• Publisher: John Adams
• Release date: Sep 25, 2019
• ISBN: 9781393150688

John Adams

John J. Adams has been involved in the electronics industry for many years, starting as a young boy building radios and other electronic gadgets from kits. He has written electronics related articles for several magazines and has published 4 books with PROMPT Publications and McGraw-Hill on the subjects of consumer home theater, audio, video, and hobbyist electronics/software.

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Assertiveness for Men

Stop Being a Pushover and Learn to Say No by Using These Proven Techniques

By

John Adams

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Introduction to Communication Styles

Passive Communication

Aggressive Communication

Passive-Aggressive Communication

Assertive Communication

Chapter 2: Why Do We Behave the Way We Do?

Reasons for Aggressive Behavior in Men

Reasons for Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Men

Chapter 3: Current Level of Assertiveness

Questionnaire #1 to Identify Your Current Level of Assertiveness

Questionnaire #2 to Identify Your Current Level of Assertiveness

Assertiveness Journal to Know Your Current Status

Chapter 4: Building Assertiveness Based On Your Core Values

Importance of Core Values

Discovering and Defining Core Values

Core Values and Assertiveness

Chapter 5: Change Your Inner Beliefs

Assertive Rights

Changing Your Inner Beliefs

Chapter 6: Communication Techniques to Practice

Tips to Improve Assertiveness in Your Communication

Assertive Communication and Handling Criticism

Final Wrap-Up Practice Tips for Assertiveness

Chapter 7: Tools to Build Assertiveness

Power Poses to Increase Assertiveness

Chapter 8: Conclusion

Chapter 1:

Introduction to Communication Styles

What is assertiveness? It is a type of personality trait typically reflected through outward behavior and communication. A man who is assertive is one with the power to stand up for his own rights and those of others. The primary element that differentiates assertiveness from other forms of behavior and communication is the articulation of one’s rights without subjugating or hurting other people in the process.

Even in the midst of an intensely conflicting argument, an assertive man will never say or do anything that offends or upsets the opposing party. In a calm and composed demeanor, he will talk about his own opinions and beliefs. Assertiveness is the perfect balance between aggression and passiveness. Therefore, assertiveness can be defined as a personality trait that empowers a man to express his opinion, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings, honestly and directly.

It is a good idea to start understanding the concept of assertiveness and how to go about building it by learning the basics about the four different primary communication styles, including:

Passive

Aggressive

Assertive

Passive-Aggressive

Passive Communication

Passive communication refers to a style in which people do not openly express their opinions, feelings, and thoughts. People with a passive communication style don’t stand up and fight for their rights. They also cannot stand up for other people’s rights. Typically, passive communication is associated with low self-esteem, driven by a feeling of being