Podcast #502
Confident Communication: How to Have More Connection and More Influence with Others 







Confident communication opens doors of opportunity and creates healthy relationships that thrive. Most people are too rushed or too timid to tap fully into the wealth that is available to them through confident communication. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to improve their interpersonal communication, their professional communication, or their relational communication. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/502

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I always find myself opening up this podcast every time I feel stuck in life. Every time a new obstacle gets in the way and makes me feel that because of where I've been, I can never get to where I want to go.

Well, this podcast remove those obstacles in a way that feels great.

Trish is relatable, credible, and inspiring. My life has forever been changed because of her words."

-Monjoa





 
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RELATIONSHIPS RELY ON COMMUNICATION



Communication is the key to life.



The more present you are, the better your communication will be.



COMMUNICATION WITH OURSELVES
We have to start here.
You can't communicate with others unless you actually know yourself first.

-Journal
-Ask questions
-Get curious and open
-Be coached
-Spend time with yourself
-Explore your hobbies
-Talk to yourself

You've got to figure out your own wants and needs - and you do that through inner communication; learning to listen to your inner voice and your inner wiring.
 
COMMUNICATION MISTAKES


Mistakes We Often Make:



We assume people know what we are thinking



We assume we know what people want.



Not truly listening



Interrupting the speaker



Letting your emotions dictate your responses



Failing to account for cultural differences



Judging someone's poor communication skills



Personalizing poorly delivered communication



Avoiding communication 



Not having an open mind



Speaking more than you listen



Not asking enough questions - not being interested



Looking beyond the speaker



Hoping something is forgotten



Avoiding conflict or difficult conversations 



Not knowing how to speak up about your own wants or needs



Having negative or apathetic body language



Not paraphrasing or restating



Trying to be "right"" 







Perspective to Consider:



Communication is an artform



There's always room for improvement



Separate how you've always done this (1.0) and think about the type of person you want to become (2.0) who does this.



Ask for direct feedback 







Marriage Communication:



How have I loved you well this month?



How can I love you better or more intentionally to your needs next month?



What am I doing well as a mom?



What do you think I can do better?



SNEAK PEEK TO NEXT WEEK


My top confidence tips for kids - don't miss this episode!


 
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CONFIDENT COMMUNICATION:
Don't play small or undersell yourself.
Don't over-explain.
Know that you have something worthwhile to say - always.
Believe that your voice, your ideas and your opinions matter.
Be specific and use specific language
Be ready to feel uncomfortable being direct
Know what you want or what you want to express
Maintain a positive attitude
Listen with respect and curiosity
Ask questions
Establish a stable and clear voice tone
Make eye contact
Speak from the heart and seek to understand
Look for win-win solutions
Express gratitude
Apologize when in the wrong - take ownership

3 SIMPLE EASY COMMUNICATION BOOSTS

Be Present. (Think about the other person,