Fuck Should
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About this ebook
Fuck Should is part self help, part social commentary, and part opinion.
It's about times when you'll find naysayers coming out of the woodwork like a vegemite and butter worm through the cracker holes, all because you chose to ignore a should.
Vanessa Smith
Vanessa is a nicheless blogger and writer who hopes to never choose a topic and stick to it. You can find her thoughts, musings, rants and whatever else she feels like writing about on her website NormalNess: Because we're all normal to ourselves.
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Fuck Should - Vanessa Smith
Introduction
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.
- Margaret Mead
Will this book change the world?
I doubt it.
Will it change you?
Fundamentally? No. I don't think so. But it's not designed to change who you are. Only you can know if you want or need to change who you are.
So why write a book that won't change the world or the reader?
Because reading is important. Read now, let it marinate and it will click with you when it needs to in your life.
I don't think anyone can be forced to learn something. I believe that you can repeat facts to yourself, but you'll only find the meaning that glues a lesson to your brain in a way that works for you. And when it works for you - that could be while reading this or in two, five, or ten years' time.
You might not know this book is what marinated in your brain.
I'm not writing this book having ticked everything off of my bucket list (OK, I don't have a bucket list).
I don't run a multi million-dollar company.
I'm not a philanthropist.
I don't have the marketing tag lines to sell this.
So where do I get off writing a book about life?
Well, I am alive. I have a life.
Biographies are sanitised.
Blogs are human. It's why they have survived so many rounds of so-called being dead.
Books by bloggers just get
it. They are conversational.
It's why recording a book by speaking has become very important to me. I literally did speak this a lot of book to you.
NOTE: Nothing about this book is prescriptive. That means that if I am talking about something I don't like, it doesn't mean I expect you to hate it too. It's a personal example, nothing more, nothing less.
Fuck Should, The Beginnings
Fuck Should.
Because living a life of should will kill your soul.
Yes, it's a depressing way to start a book. Maybe it's harsh truth. But there are so many shoulds in the world, so many invisible things you should be doing, or someone thinks you should be doing, that we need to acknowledge and understand them. Shoulds are not inherently right or wrong, they merely
exist and can impact us.
Should apply to you, should this, should that. Take some time and count how many times should is said to you in a week. I think it somewhat more than you would expect. The other should to note is when people imply a should, but don't explicitly say the word.
I think one of the best examples of the this is when it has been hidden in writing. Specifically, when people are writing about what is normal
. Because the implication of normal
is that if you fall outside the normal, then you are not doing something you should be doing.
That is one of the reasons that I called my website NormalNess when I re-branded it years ago - because we're all normal to ourselves. I don't know how to be anything but me. And the fact is that my interests, dislikes, likes, and the variables that make up my life are my normal, and I don't see how anything else can be normal to me.
It makes NormalNess a cross between irony and a comment on the world of shoulds.
Hair and Makeup
I've wondered if there's an inverse dichotomy. If people genuinely choose to use make up for themselves and not for society's expectations, for example wearing makeup to a corporate job, then this