The Monopoly

By Benjamin Nengwani

Out of all the roads you may travel, the road to discovering yourself is the most significant. It is where you will discover your true self, your vision, purpose and abilities, and in doing so, you will never live below your potential. In a world where there is always a crisis, which can leave you out of business, unemployed and unable to pay your bills, you have to focus on controlling your space and to do that, you must first discover who you are. We only hate our lives because of what we cannot control.

Develop yourself. Temptation is a test of weakness and it will constantly be there in your life to test your character, which is only as strong as the temptations you overcome and difficulties you endure. Without character anything can destroy you. Be compassionate because everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Learn to lead your own life, control what you must and manage what you cannot control. Life is not a race.

Focus on discovering what you were born to do and do it well. Focus on your gifts, ideas, dreams and goals and not on what others are doing. Do not work for reward but fulfilment otherwise your road to success will be short rather than satisfactory. If you do not have a plan to dominate in anything that you’re going to do, don’t get into it. Luck is a poor man’s deception and self-belief is a rich man’s salvation. A wise man fights to win, but he is twice a fool who has no plan for possible defeat!

This publication will teach you how to be fruitful, multiply, replenish and dominate your space through self-governing, love, compassion, leadership, control and management. If you cannot be successful where you are, find an environment in which you can establish yourself.

About The Author-

Benjamin Nengwani is an author, speaker, market disruptor, relationship and business coach.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Benjamin Nengwani
• Release date: Apr 11, 2019
• ISBN: 9780463654439

Benjamin Nengwani

My name is Benjamin Nengwani. The son of Rose and Cames Nengwani. My name means the son of my right hand and my last name was derived from an ancient tribe of Royalty in the Southern hemisphere of Africa, meaning the morning light of hope and change. I live only to serve my purpose and help humanity to flourish. I am an Author of a publication called The Monopoly: Control Your Space Or Be Dominated. A Speaker, Market Disruptor & Life Coach. I am also aspiring to become a Self-Made Trillionaire so that I can be part of the solution to help the world improve! I believe that everybody was born to solve a problem in this world. whether the problem is in your family, relationship, with your friends, at work or even in your community. The question is, what problem are you solving now?

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Introduction

The Monopoly is about taking control of your life by taking control of yourself. Life is not supposed to happen to you. You’re supposed to happen to life. You have no right to be surprised by what happens if you’re in control of your life. You cannot allow yourself to be controlled by what is happening; instead, you should control what happens in your life. Success doesn’t happen to you, it happens because of you. Influence and attract what you want and leave the rest. We lack the ability to control what comes into and goes out of our lives. We are so lost in the abyss of life that we are not consciously available. We go through life without being present to each and every moment. It’s not that people cannot learn, grow and love; we are just not available to engage in these things. We are infatuated by popularity rather than authenticity. We want what everybody else is getting and not what we truly desire. We lack originality. Most people have multiple personalities rather than a single character. However, if you are not yourself, the world will never accept you. But if you are yourself, the world will learn to accept you.

Our lives are decided by systems and trends. We don’t have control. We are so engaged with the trends and systems around us that we don’t have time to be human – to make mistakes, rectify them and become better. You need to say, I want to be wrong, so I can learn to do right by me. Stop trying to be perfect and be human instead. Marriages are failing not because people can’t love each other anymore but because people aren’t emotionally available. You miss a magical moment because you’re too worried about work and getting to wherever you want to be on time. We don’t really enjoy our free time and the company of friends and family because we aren’t in control of our minds. Most of our lives we were told what to do and now most people can’t think for themselves. Your life is not in your hands until you discover who you are and take control of that person. Right now your other personality led you to where you are and it doesn’t matter whether you did this unconsciously or consciously, the fact is, you did it to yourself.

Learning is good but don’t be infatuated with constantly educating yourself if you haven’t discovered who you are because you’ll only confuse yourself if you do that. Most people who are educated don’t know what to do with their education. Knowledge is a curse if it only makes you doubt yourself because people who know it all don’t do much. Recognize yourself and realize who you are and whatever you decide to learn will always benefit you. You will always choose the right information to learn because you know what you need. Most people want to learn everything, but they can’t even use whatever they’ve got right now. Start using everything that you have before you want more because, if you can’t control yourself right now, you won’t be able to control the person you’ll become. You need to face yourself and deal with everything you don’t like about yourself. Deal with yourself right now while you still have minor problems because the more successful you become, the bigger your problems are going to be. If you can’t handle the problems you have now, the ones ahead of you will destroy you.

Recognize who you are and start taking control of everything in your life. Take control of your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, finances, health, social life, environment, growth, talent, natural abilities and skills. When you gain control of these things, you will know how best to employ them. We live in a confused society, full of broken people – people who have never fixed their issues. Nowadays people don’t die of old age but rather of heart failure and stroke. This is all because their hearts can’t handle more pain and their minds can’t handle more stress. Everything keeps piling up. We never fix anything; we just sweep everything under the rug. But when you don’t work on yourself, you’re letting yourself die. You’re killing yourself by not taking control of your life. Life is precious. You need to value the life you have as you’ll never have another one. You’ll never become the person you want to become if the person you are isn’t fully functional. You will always have problems that will distract you and prevent you from reaching your highest self. Govern yourself and you will be the leader that your life needs. You cannot be a leader if you cannot govern yourself.

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Recognize Yourself

Most people aren’t successful because they don’t recognize themselves. They are faced with an identity crisis. You know everything about anything that has nothing to do with you and that is a waste of your brain capacity. You are suffering in your life because you lack control. Getting to know yourself is the most powerful thing you can do in life. Some people have Masters’ degrees and PhDs but they are still not successful or the wealthiest people alive. Why? The truth of the matter is that no amount of knowledge can give you what you’ve never had unless you know yourself. When you know yourself, you know what you haven’t done but you could do and you’re self-conscious and aware. You know what influences you and what doesn’t. You know the difference between your weaknesses and what appears to be. Stop studying successful people so much and start studying yourself because, when you know yourself, you know what you can and cannot do and what you’re willing and not willing to do, and you’ll also know how far you can go. Karma is something else; one man’s treasure is another man’s grave because what works for another person might not work for you. Don’t study successful people but get inspired by them and take the same initiative to make your dream come true.

There’s something amazing about knowing yourself and realizing your potential. Somebody who has information only knows what they have learnt and can only act on what they understand of the information. Don’t feel bad because you don’t have a degree; that’s a status thing. You don’t need a degree to start a business but you do need it for an average job. Get to know yourself and you will know what you need to improve and what you can let go of. When you know yourself, it’s easier to focus because you know what you want and need. You can separate the two and use this knowledge to decide when and when not to execute your plan. You are able to distinguish what you have to do now and what you can do now. I can promise you this: when you know yourself, your life will get better and better because you’ll understand what most people don’t. You may have a lot of things you don’t need in your life but you can’t let go of them because you’re trying to maintain an image. It’s time to wake up and look at what’s real, what’s important and what’s worth it. If you don’t get to the truth now, you probably won’t get to it. People aren’t afraid to take a chance; they just don’t want to deal with their lives. So they will rather keep a job they hate, have kids they don’t want and be with a partner they don’t speak with. Don’t be that person, awaken the person you were meant to be and just turn your life around.

Get to know yourself. Information will never do anything for you that you cannot do for yourself. Knowledge is power but it is up to you to use it. This makes you more powerful than knowledge. Knowledge doesn’t mean anything without you; you give it value and meaning. So, stop underestimating yourself because you don’t have certain information. You may not be able to get to the next level because you are too infatuated with what you know. You cannot only count on what you know to make you successful but rather count on yourself too. It doesn’t matter if you have an advantage if you cannot take advantage of that advantage. You might have good information, but it won’t help you if you haven’t dealt with your fears and disbeliefs. When you know yourself, you deal with your fears before they become a problem. You deal with your doubts before you encounter that moment you have been waiting for. Trust in yourself more than you trust in knowledge; your life depends on it.

Doubt is an enemy of prosperity. People are suffering because they doubt who they really are. We may speak bold words but we doubt those words. We can’t identify ourselves with whom we want to become. We don’t know who we are so we try to be everyone else. We don’t know our purpose, abilities and value. People hate life because they don’t have dominion over it. No matter what you think you know, everybody wants to have control; to be in control of your work, relationship, income, bills and lifestyle. Right now you can’t guarantee a promotion because the company you work for decides and not you, and you can’t start your own business because you have too many bills to pay. Hate is influenced by the lack of control. Everybody hates getting sick because you cannot control sickness. We hate what we cannot control. A lot of people hate this world because there is a Promised Land where you don’t get sick, there are no bills to worry about and you don’t die. People want to go to heaven because it is the only place where they feel they’ll have control. But the truth of the matter is, "Don’t wait to die to go to heaven; it might not exist. Take control of the life you have before you. Create a heaven for yourself in this life and you shall find it in the next life.’’ In the end everyone wants to go to heaven but no one is willing to die for it.

Some people gamble their lives away because they don’t know what they want out of life. They do something and cross their fingers. They hope to win – they don’t work to win. You can’t always trust what you feel and what you hear from other people. You need to be yourself and you can influence the life that you want. You’re reading all the books available to you and saying everything the books are saying but you are not doing what the books are telling you to do. Although you are reading everything and anything, you can’t control the information that you’re getting. You just consume and consume, while most of the things you’re reading are not aligned with your dreams, goals, character and value system. Most of you only know how to do what you were trained to do and nothing more. Your capabilities are limited to what you were taught at school, at home and by society. You can’t surprise yourself anymore; you are as ordinary