Destination North: Still Finding Our Way

By C. J. Frost

Destination North is a heartfelt, funny, honest and insightful book. You will laugh. You might cry. But with his unique writing style you will definitely be touched. C. J's inspiring narration will encourage you to reach for and find the happiness that you deserve and not just settled for.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Apr 15, 2013
• ISBN: 9781481740678

C. J. Frost

Author of the book "Finding Your true North" C. J. Frost knows the lost feeling that comes from a childhood of abuse. In this follow up book "Destination North" C. J. once again takes us on a heartfelt, funny and sincere journey. Opening our eyes and our hearts into seeing that we deserve better. Helping us to find the courage to choose the path to a safer... wiser... healthier and happier life. C. J. Frost is a poet and a writer. His book titled "Letters” took us on a journey of the heart and the soul. One filled with love... hurt... passion and desire. With a unique writing style that grips and tugs at our hearts. C. J. focuses on helping young and abused women change the way they think about life, love and relationships.

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2013 C. J. Frost. All Rights Reserved.

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Published by AuthorHouse 04/08/2013

ISBN:   978-1-4817-4065-4 (sc)

            978-1-4817-4066-1 (hc)

            978-1-4817-4067-8 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2013904596

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CONTENTS

CHAPTER 1:   LABELS

CHAPTER 2:   DAMNED THE CONSEQUENCES

CHAPTER 3:   IT IS WHAT IT IS

CHAPTER 4:   THE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH

CHAPTER 5:   LIFE WAS SUPPOSEDTO BE FUN

CHAPTER 6:   SO WHERE TO NOW?

CHAPTER 7:   THE BOX THEORY

CHAPTER 8:   FOREVER CONNECTED

CHAPTER 9:   LISTS AND CONTRACTS

CHAPTER 10:   MORE ABOUT ME

CHAPTER 11:   FINAL THOUGHTS

To God, my son, and my snowflake, the three things that will forever make up my true north.

Introduction

Well, I guess I should start by saying, Hello, yes, it’s me again. If you are reading this book, it’s probably because you have already read Finding Your True North, and I hopefully helped you in some way no matter how small. If you haven’t read the first one, that’s okay too. Hopefully, we are about to embark on a journey, one that’s eye-opening, insightful, humorous, and honest. I believe everything I write to be true with my whole heart. After I finished the first book and was reading it, I found myself amazed by the fact that I had written it.

I honestly believe that God helped me along the way, because I can’t believe some of the stuff I wrote was even inside of me. But as I was reading it, I was inspired to write a letter I wish I could have inserted into the book. But unfortunately, I could not then. But I’m adding it here. I want women to read it and see how I believe they should see themselves—that they are a gift of God to men and that we should treat them as such. Think about it. When God created the heavens and the earth, the sun and moon, and all the creatures of the earth, he created Adam. He came to realize that he wasn’t finished, that there was one last thing that needed to be done. And the last thing… the very last thing that God created was woman. Why? Because he realized that a man needed someone to share with and talk to, someone to love, someone who would be there, standing by his side. Adam needed someone to believe in him and support him in the decisions he made, someone who would give him a reason to want to do better, to want to try harder, someone who would believe in him as he believed in her, showing her honor and respect and love as a friend, a love and an equal. He did not want someone to walk behind him but rather to walk side by side with him, hand in hand. I believe that somewhere along the way, we men—not all men but a lot of us—have lost sight of this. Somehow, we have come to see woman as something to use, something for our pleasure, or people who are supposed to take over where our mothers left off—cook, clean, and do whatever else we believe they are supposed to do.

And that is why I write what I do. We can start changing the way we think as men and the way that women sometimes seem to see themselves. They can realize that they do not have to settle for less or accept the way they might be treated. Okay, so now let me step off of my soapbox and share the letter.

You Are That Woman

I’ve seen some amazing things in my lifetime. So astonishing… so surreal… that they vacillated on the very edge of heaven and hell. That place where doubt and disillusion fall second to faith and benevolence. The joy of a life created… the tragedy of a life lost… the laughter of a child rejoicing… the pain of a child’s innocence stolen. I’ve seen the kindness of a stranger… and the animosity of someone loved. And through it all, I’ve seen the miracle of God pouring out his spirit of comfort… encompassed within the arms of his passion and love… bestowed upon man. And it is in this single act of glorious sanctification that I realize he created you… a mother… a daughter… a sister… a wife. He created you… a woman. One who needs no validation of any man’s approval or acknowledgment. A woman… the personification of all God has crafted as a rock and an anchor to a man’s soul. A woman… who holds man to a higher standard, making him strive to be a better person… a stronger husband… and a more compassionate father. All enshrouded in the form of a companion… a friend… and a wife. A woman… sacred by birth… built by hands divine… the last and greatest of all his works. A woman… God’s gift to man… whose beauty is only shadowed by her love… her compassion… and her heart. You… you are that woman.

C. J.

CHAPTER 1

LABELS

Okay, there it is. This is how I believe a woman should see herself and how a man should see a woman. Unfortunately, that is just not the world we live in. But there are guys out there like me who think the way I do. As women, you need to believe in yourselves, change the way some of you think, and stop settling for less. Since I finished writing the first book, I have been called a lot of things. I’ve been called a hypocrite by some of the church. I’ve had women tell me that I was a feminist. Some have called me a male chauvinistic pig. Now I always thought that being a feminist was probably a good thing. But my understanding as to what it means and what some women actually think I believe it to mean are two different things. You know, I believe that women should be treated with respect as equals. I don’t even know if I would call myself feminist so much as I would call myself chivalrous. It’s okay to get a door for a woman or pay for dates or allow her to enter a doorway first. I have no problem with a woman making more money than me or being my boss. I was told by some women who have read my book that I obviously believed a woman should have to work and others that thought I was saying they should be home barefoot and pregnant, and that is just not true.

If a woman would rather stay at home and be a mother, then I believe that is what she should do but only after getting out of college and having a career in place, and here’s why: I believe that women who get married and have kids right out of high school are (1) being unfair to themselves and (2) possibly setting themselves up to be poorly prepared for what could possibly go wrong. Because some men (actually a lot of men) will leave women and their kids the second a new smell of perfume blows their way. Which are the ones I like to call the batrastards. I’ve actually known women whose husbands have bailed on them after fifteen years of marriage, and these women never saw it coming. One particular woman only had a high school diploma (which is still a good thing) and was not ready to be in the working field and balance work with taking care of kids. She then had to spend five more years working part-time while going to school part-time while juggling two kids and their needs. It was not an easy road, and it really took a toll on her, her kids, and the life they had to live until she graduated college. That is why I always tell young women to go to