Eat, Guilt, Repent, Repeat: Break the Cycle! Love Your Body, Your Food and Your Life!
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This process combines all the tools, strategies and techniques to help you discover and transform your life. This is book helps you gain the life you want as you shed the weighty issues that keep you in an unhealthy cycle.
This book shares with you real stories, real struggles and gives you proven techniques which will give you real transformation - from the inside out.
Bentley Bentley
Brenda Bentley draws on over 10 years of experience as a therapist and coach to help people to let go of their limitations and realize their potential. She teaches her clients to trust themselves to know what they need and to live authentically through this truth. Originally from Orlando, Florida she relocated to the England in 1999 and currently resides in Warwickshire, England. She's married and has a teenage son.
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Eat, Guilt, Repent, Repeat - Bentley Bentley
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© 2012 by Brenda J. Bentley. All rights reserved.
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Notice: The information in this book is intended as a reference volume only. Any decisions you make about your lifestyle are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. The information provided in this book is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please contact your doctor.
Published by AuthorHouse 11/26/2012
ISBN: 978-1-4772-1543-2 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4772-1544-9 (e)
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Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Chapter 1—Hitting Diet Bottom
Chapter 2—The Gift of Acceptance
Chapter 3—Food is Your Friend
Chapter 4—Imagination: The Tool for Transformation
Chapter 5—Belief is the Foundation of Perception
Chapter 6—Attraction is Action
Chapter 7—Lean Into Your Transformation
Chapter 8—Live in the Now
Chapter 9—You Are Not Your Past
Chapter 10—Forgiveness is Freedom
Chapter 11—Count Your Blessings
Chapter 12—Manage Your Emotions, Without Food
Chapter 13—Eating Intuitively
Chapter 14—The Feeling of Movement
Chapter 15—Practice Makes Permanent
Chapter 16—Commitment Contract
Chapter 17—A Transformation Story
Resources
References
This book is dedicated to all my clients who I have taught and who have taught me too.
You are an inspiration.
Foreword
Every once in a while, we are blessed with a book which seemingly appears out of nowhere. We cannot explain its reasons for arriving in our hands. It may be that we have picked it up at a bookstore, downloaded it on to our Kindle/iPad or perhaps have been gifted it. The reason does not matter as to how it is has been delivered to us.
You can trust that this book has been sent to you from a higher source, for your soul’s expansion and this is something to really rejoice in. You may have been asking or perhaps praying for answers to your deep inner soul’s longings, particularly related to weight issues. I’m pretty sure that the answer to many of your questions can be found here, in this book. It is designed to work with you on a mind, body & soul level. You will be working in partnership with the book and it will become a friend and support system to you if you choose.
If you are prepared to really stretch yourself, and are ready to allow some of these incredible changes to happen in your life right now, you will find that Brenda easily guides you throughout the book, in easy practical ways and I’m sure you will never look back! There are many incredible gems of wisdom in this book. It will be a book which can act as a guide, perhaps even as a friend, which you may like to refer to frequently, and it is timeless.
Brenda actively encourages taking responsibility for your own actions, and this book will help you to gently but powerfully do so. I personally believe we are presented with just the right tool at just the right time. Brenda has easily and effortlessly captured and explained many of the different facets of our human aspects & behavioural traits, which, we sometimes cannot understand. She helps explain different reasons for our reactions and actively gives us, the reader, wonderful simple steps to take which will create powerful results.
This is not just a book about weight loss, it is designed to help give you a clearer, broader & deeper understanding of what it really means to be at a place of peace within yourself, and which ultimately then helps to create the desired results.
This book which Brenda has so beautifully carved out,
will take you on a journey, on a mind, body and soul level. It will leave you with a sense of awe and wonder. A deep realization that, you can indeed change anything you desire to change in your life. It brings a refreshing sense of freedom, lightness and wellbeing.
Brenda has expressed this wonderfully through a combination of her own experiences in life, and also through her clients’ experiences & stories too. It’s easy to relate to and is very practical. If you allow it, this book can be a lifelong friend and tool, used to guide you at any time, and it can and will help you change your life for the better.
Jolene Setterfield, June 2012
Intuitive Mentor, TV Personality &
Author www.jolene.com
Introduction
This book was always going to be written, but it wasn’t going to be about this. I had started out with the idea of bringing together all the written resources, homework and exercises I share with clients to support them outside of the therapy room. With my intention in mind, starting out and going with the flow of what life brought to me, it was clear this subject matter served the best purpose of my intention. It made sense, as most of my clients come to me for weight loss.
In my private practice as a cognitive hypnotherapist and integrative psychotherapist (which is a fancy term for a ‘Jill of All Therapies’ that has a lot of tools in her toolbox) my clients are looking for a quick fix. When I started out helping clients I thought that was my purpose. I had studied the ‘Brief Therapy’ model as outlined by Professor Rubin Battino and believed that everyone could benefit from some therapy, but that most of us don’t need very much. I also found myself keen to focus on solutions instead of problems.
This approach was born out of my own journey where I’ve had my fair share of therapy to overcome my personal difficulties. Most of the therapy I undertook was because I needed help to resolve difficult past experiences from my childhood which continued to affect my present. These experiences gave me good insight into different therapeutic approaches that either worked or didn’t work for me. It also refined a lifetime interest in psychology as a practical application instead of all the theory I learned in college.
The reality is that change is a process and there is no quick-fix to a long-term solution. This doesn’t mean that you cannot have significant positive change in a short period of time. What I have learned is that there is no magic wand, magic words or magical treatment that will bring my clients what they want: to be fixed in under an hour.
In my practice, I use hypnotherapy as a tool to work with the unconscious learned behavior patterns. There are still misconceptions about what hypnotherapy is, and how it’s touted as a mind-control tool, where the client surrenders their will over to the hypnotist who impregnates their mind with consensually agreed suggestions to change their problem behaviors. On one level, yes, willingness is key to change. You must be willing to change and consent to this in order to make change happen. This takes out the mind-control part of this misconception as you cannot control someone’s mind who is giving you permission to do so! Still, there are many therapists that want to have the position whereby the power lies within them to change the client. I couldn’t disagree more earnestly.
There is a Chinese proverb that says: If you give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime.
And it was Karl Marx who said: Sell a man a fish, he eats for a day, teach a man how to fish, you ruin a wonderful business opportunity.
So we see there was a mismatch of what clients wanted (a quick-fix) and what I was delivering (empowerment). Most clients come to me seeking to lose weight. What they learn is weight gain is often a symptom of something else. It’s the result of an underlying poor relationship with food or with themselves. If it was true that weight is strictly a physical / biological result of the client’s eating behaviors then diets would work.
Truth is that diets only work short-term. As you can appreciate, you can change something physically, but until you change the whole person including the emotional, psychological and spiritual, you are only applying a quick-fix for a short-term solution which will fade as soon as you stop doing it.
What you will find in the pages of this book and in the companion workbook / audio toolkit are the principles, lessons, strategies, tools and empowerment to make change to the WHOLE—the physical, mental, emotional, psychological and spiritual for lasting change.
I’ve never considered myself a seller of ideas, but a teacher of concepts. These concepts are contained in the pages of this book and provide the map to take steps on your journey from where you are now to where you want to be. My role in this process is to be your guide—a guide with a good map to show you the way.
The purpose of this book is to CHANGE YOUR LIFE. If you follow these concepts and principles, you will have success and create lasting change within you. These principles can help you in all areas of your life, so it’s really just a matter of how much change and how soon it will come with your commitment to learning.
I learned a long time ago that there is a price to pay for everything—and you must be willing to pay that price. In this case, it’s following these principles and committing yourself to applying them in your daily life. If you find yourself initially not wanting to pay a price for changing then remember this: There is always a price to pay for changing and a price to pay for staying the same. You’re already paying that price, the real trick is, to have fun paying the price—you will learn how to focus on what you want and add as much positive emotion to it as you can. If you’re unwilling to pay the price, let it be okay that you are staying the same.
REMEMBER THAT IF IT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU,
YOU WILL FIND A WAY.
IF NOT, YOU’LL FIND AN EXCUSE.
Sometimes, we are not ready to pay the price or we are too emotionally bankrupt to afford it. That’s okay too. You have taken the first step of considering change. You can take another step and move ahead when you are ready. The day will come when you are ready because the pain of staying the same will be worse than the pain of changing.
What you are learning is not a set of rules you need to follow in order to achieve a specific goal of losing weight. In fact, what you are learning is how to transform yourself from the inside out. Each chapter will give you the tools, strategies and action points for you to make these changes to the way you think, and feel and this will change your behavior.
Be willing to be open to the ideas that are presented here. You may even wonder what any of this has to do with you losing weight. The point is that the first shift in your perception must be that your goal to lose weight is secondary to you changing your relationship with yourself and with food. If you solely focus on behavior and rule-based eating that diets teach, you will only have success as long as you are following these rules.
In Chapter 1 you will learn why dieting doesn’t work and this is the start to you breaking the eat, guilt, repent, repeat cycle. If you’ve ever felt like you are a failure and that you will never lose weight then here’s where the rubber meets the road. You did not fail, the diet failed you. Hitting the preverbal diet bottom is a good thing, because only from here can you shed that tiny amount of hope you cling to that THIS will be the diet that does it. You know what I mean and we’ve all been there. You’re all hyped up and ready to begin the new weight loss plan that promises so much. This will be the diet that changes everything! You will have that rocking body. You will get that promotion! You will buy a new wardrobe! You will have that fulfilling and sextacular relationship you’ve always desired! You’ll be at the gym everyday showing off your new svelte form. You will walk out into the world with your head held high and everyone will be looking at you wondering what your secret is. You will be the envy of all. You’ll be sharing your story to the world! Everyone will want to know how you did it. That old boyfriend of yours who dumped you? He’s eating his heart out and you couldn’t be happier. You’ll feel that elated sense of confidence that you’ve got it now. You will have the life you’ve always dreamed of. Everything will be great.
Your motivation is high, your determination is strong and you set out with the greatest of intentions. With fierce enthusiasm you start out on your new plan and are steadfast and true to the letter. It feels good to have structure. You know what you need to eat and not to eat. You know you can have a certain amount of calories each day. You can drink two shakes and you can eat a sensible meal each day. It’s so easy as all the meals will be delivered to your door and their chefs have prepared everything for you! You can lose the weight and keep it off! Watching your weight has never been easier with pro points because it works! You’ve cut out carbs, wheat, dairy and you are eating clean. You know everything there is to know about food combining and weigh out everything. It’s time to stop dieting and start living, one point at a time. You can fight the trend of obesity starting with yourself and be a product of the product. All you have to do is follow this plan by living it, eating it, sleeping it and repeating it. Your diet is your life.
After the first week, you begin to notice a difference as you weigh yourself on the scale the same time every day and you feel encouraged. After the second week, you’ve lost even more weight and people have begun to notice. You feel strong! You feel confident! There was that one day, when you had that cake, but you won’t tell anyone. To others, you are a monument of willpower and discipline. People test you by offering you extra portions and treats. You easily dismiss this attempt to derail you. You are a fortress!
By the third week, you’ve begun to feel a bit weak. Your body feels tired and you put this down to the detox your body is going through. Sure, there are the occasional headaches and fatigue, but you know this will pass. You find yourself thinking of food most of the time. Your structured eating approach works, but you cannot stop thinking about cake! The more you try not to think about cake, the more you think about cake and you’re beginning to lose your mind. You go to the gym to purge your food demons.
You have a bad day. Work was terrible. You argued with your husband. You feel awful. You cannot face another shake. All you want is a chocolate bar dipped in mayonnaise, wrapped in bacon, deep fried with syrup on it. You’re tired. You’re sick. You’re sick and tired and tired of being