Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

By Danyelle Newton

Looking For Love In All Th e Wrong Places is an inspirational book for females of all race and age groups. Many females struggle with acceptance and love and because of this they end up involved in different types of unhealthy relationships. This book will teach females that if they put their trust and love in God first then the right type of love and acceptance they desire will come. Included in this book is scripture reference for each chapter, so the reader will have a bible basis to reflect on. Also there are discussion questions at the end of each chapter for studying and reflection.

Danyelle Newtons struggle for looking for love in all of the wrong places is reflected throughout the pages of this book. This book is not only her testimony of the wrong love she looked for because she didnt have her trust and faith in God, but it reflects her journey towards finding the right type of love as well. Once she found Christ, her views on love changed and the love she was searching for didnt have to be found because it was right inside of her all along.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: May 16, 2012
• ISBN: 9781468566314

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© 2012 by Danyelle Newton. All rights reserved.

No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

Published by AuthorHouse 03/16/2012

ISBN: 978-1-4685-6630-7 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4685-6631-4 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2012905061

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To My Mother,

Thank you for loving me no matter what and for being the one constant person whose love was always right and never wrong.

Contents

Chapter 1 Foundation

Chapter 2 O.P.P. (Other People’s Property)

Chapter 3 Mr. Right Now

Chapter 4 Is Blood Really Thicker Than Water?

Chapter 5 Daddy’s Little Girl

Chapter 6 Friend Or Foe

Chapter 7 Church Folk

Chapter 8 For Love Or Money

Chapter 9 Where Is My Fairy Tale Romance?

Chapter 10 Stop Looking And Wait To Be Found

Acknowledgements

First and foremost, who would I be or where would I be if I didn’t acknowledge the God I serve. I can’t stop thanking Him enough for choosing me as one of his vessels to proclaim His word through writing. Thank you Mommy for not just being a mother, but being a mother that cares. My sister Renae, thank you for being that sister that kept me on my p’s and q’s, questioning some of the things that I did, and giving me a different look on life. My youngest sister Ashley, thank you for being that sister that challenged everything that I did and said and because of this helped me to understand that my way is not always the right way. To my son Shemar thank you for allowing me to be the best mother even if I make some mistakes along the way. To my grandmother Mary thank you for showing me what a strong Black woman looks like. To my sisters in Christ and Love Timeka, Jackie, and Latoria, where would a girl be without her good girlfriends that always gave me advice even if I didn’t want to hear it and put me in my place when I needed it. To my cousin Carla, thank you for being like a sister and even though we might not see eye to eye stay true to yourself. To my hair stylist Kim (Big Sexy) thank you for always making my outer appearance look beautiful even when on the inside sometimes I felt ugly. To my Aunt Carmen thank you for being not only an aunt, but somebody I can look up to and whose advice has helped me along my path. To my other mother Ms. Avon thank you for believing in me and acknowledging me as one of your own even though you didn’t give birth to me. To lifelong friends like Shawn, Tyrice and Ms. Barbara Joppy thank for staying around and to watch me blossom into the true woman of God I am today. To Sherrie thank you always for being my spiritual advisor and encouraging me to keep pursuing my dreams. To Sean even though things did not work out like we planned sometimes our ways are not God’s but know that you taught me a lot about love. To my pastor Rev. Dr. Jamal Harrison Bryant thank you for starting a church where I can be myself and grow all at the same time. To my father whom I do love, thank you for showing me the importance of loving people where they are and more importantly accepting people for who they are not. To my numerous family members it is just too many of you to name thank you because each one of you have a special place in my heart. To Satan thank you for putting in my mind what I couldn’t do so I could keep pressing towards what I could do. And if it is anyone that I may have forgot please charge it to my head and not my heart, I’ll catch you in the next book.

God Bless

Danyelle Newton

Chapter 1

FOUNDATION

Have you ever asked yourself why you keep attracting the wrong people in your life or why do the choices that you make always seem to have the same results? The answer to your questions could lie within the structure of your foundation. Before you begin seeking answers from God about your foundation, you have to pray:

Good and gracious God, first I come to say thank you. Thank you for seeing so fit to find my foundation worthy enough to change. Lord, I am just grateful that even when I wanted to give up on myself, You refused to give up on me. Now, God, I am praying that I will receive what I am about to read even if it consists of things that I really do not like or understand. I am asking that You will give me wisdom to understand the importance of change and then to accept the changes that You will want me to make. Help me to understand the importance of knowing that as long as my foundation is grounded and rooted in your word that I can do anything but fail.

According to Webster’s Dictionary, foundation is defined as the basis or groundwork of anything. Unfortunately, everyone’s foundation is not based on the same principles, morals, and standards. Some people’s foundations are based on love, some are based on sex, or even worse, some people’s foundations are based on alcohol or drugs. To live a fulfilling life that is pleasing to God, your foundation needs to be grounded and rooted in His word.

There is a process to fixing anything that is broken. If your car is broken you take it to a mechanic, and if your nail breaks you go to a manicurist, so if your foundation is broken then you will have to go to an architect to get that fixed. What better architect to go to than the creator of all things; the one who knows what you are made of; the one who knows your ending before your beginning; the one who designed your blueprint just with you in mind; and the one who, regardless of what you may think of yourself, always thinks better of you. This person is God, and with His help, you can build a stronger foundation. The following are steps to help you build a new foundation.

1. Clean out your house.

2. Check your foundation.

3. Make a list of things that are important to you.

4. Make a different list of things that are not important to you.

5. Put both lists away in a secret place.

6. Allow the change to take place.

7. Let go and let God.

The first step to building a new foundation is to clean out everything inside of you. You have to take everything out so that the only thing that is left standing is the frame. This makes it easier for God to begin His reconstruction. When a house is about to be remodeled, the contractors gut the whole house out, well that is what God needs to do with your life. He needs you to clear out everything for the process to begin. I know there are many items that you want to keep, but before anything gets placed back into your life, you have to seek God for permission because He is the contractor and architect. Trust that He will place the things in your life that He approves.

God can also be referred to as the interior designer because the interior designer picks out everything that compliments you or what would look good with your style. Do not fight God on this part of your process because it will be easier to let God design your interior because He knows everything to pick out for your insides to help you look better on the outside.

Step two is checking your foundation. Any good contractor will tell you that as long as you have a strong foundation, you can do just about anything to the inside. With a strong foundation, you can weather any storm that comes your way. However, those with weak foundations, and those with strong foundations built on shaky ground, normally have a hard time dealing with life and adversity.

Before any contractor rebuilds he has to check the foundation to make sure that it can handle the reconstruction process. God is the best contractor because He would never take you through reconstruction if He thought you could not