The Complete Being: Finding and Loving the Real You

By Tami Brady

Like many people, I used to spend a good deal of my time fantasizing about the life I wish I had. Caught in the mindset of "I could never do that," "why can't I be more like so and so," and "nothing is ever going to change", I felt my dreams slipping away. But one simple question, why not?, changed my life forever. This phrase challenged to take control of my life and start driving towards the me I always hoped I could be.
The Complete Being: Finding and Loving the Real You will help you realize your own hopes and dreams. This book contains the wealth of my own personal journey to contentment in easy to adapt exercises that you can use to identify and strive towards your own life ambitions. You will regain control of your own destiny by applying these simple yet thought-provoking exercises in the mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical aspects of your life.
What People are Saying About The Complete Being
"The main point I saw in this work, and one I thought was outstanding, is that we are all individuals, unique and that one set formula may not work for everyone. I believe that is what makes her work different than other self-help books."
--Shirley Johnson, Midwest Book Review
"I found myself submersed in this book, discovering it a true source of encouragement, that however overwhelming life becomes, we should stay aware of what we want, never forgetting where we come from or what our dreams are."
--Tracy Jane-Newton, An Alternative View
"The Complete Being is meant to aid you in the further exploration of your wants, needs, and desires as well as your hopes and dreams. It is a very suitable guide for those painful first steps toward selfknowledge."
--Robert Rich, PhD, author of Cancer: A Personal Challenge By Tami Brady
Psychology / SELF-HELP
The Spiritual Dimensions Series
Series Editor: Robert Rich, Ph.D.
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• Language: English
• Publisher: Publishdrive
• Release date: Dec 1, 2006
• ISBN: 9781615999187

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The Complete Being

Finding and Loving The Real You

By Tami Brady

Spiritual Dimensions Series

The Complete Being: Finding and Loving The Real You

Copyright © 2006 Tami Brady. All Rights Reserved.

No part of this publication reproduced, transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or other otherwise, or stored in a retrieval system, without the prior written consent of the publisher.

First Edition: May 2006

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Brady, Tami, 1968-

  The complete being : finding and loving the real you / by Tami Brady.– 1st ed.

      p. cm. – (Spiritual dimensions series)

  Includes bibliographical references and index.

  ISBN-13: 978-1-932690-20-0 (trade pbk. : alk. paper)

  ISBN-10: 1-932690-20-4 (trade pbk. : alk. paper)

 1. Self-actualization (Psychology) I. Title. II. Series.

BF637.S4B669 2006

158.1–dc22

     2005034314

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What People Are Saying About The Complete Being

In this informative packed work, author Tami Brady sets you on the course for success. Have you agonized wondering why others seem to achieve and you do not? Have you wanted to know something that may turn your odds around? If so this book is for you.

—Shirley Johnson, MidWest Book Review

I found myself submersed in this book, discovering it a true source of encouragement, that however overwhelming life becomes, we should stay aware of what we want, never forgetting where we come from or what our dreams are. If you want something, go out and get it, with the help of Tami Brady and her enlightening book, of course! The Complete Being should be on everyone's bookshelves.

—Tracy-Jane Newton, An Alternative View

"The Complete Being is meant to aid you in the further exploration of your wants, needs, and desires as well as your hopes and dreams. It is a very suitable guide for those painful first steps toward self-knowledge. Language is lucid and clear, with easily discernible logic to the argument. This is no stuffy academic work, but a lady chatting to you in a way you can understand."

—Robert Rich, PhD, author of Cancer: A Personal Challenge

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Table of Contents

Preface

Introduction

Mental Aspects

What exactly are mental aspects?

How do mental aspects affect daily life?

What does this mean for you in particular?

How can you figure out what your particular mental aspects mixture should include?

How can you go about changing or altering your current mixture of mental aspect?

What next?

Spiritual Aspects

What exactly are spiritual aspects?

How do spiritual aspects affect daily life?

What does this mean for you in particular?

How can you figure out what your particular spiritual aspects mixture should include?

How can you go about changing or altering your current mixture of spiritual aspects?

What next?

Emotional Aspects

What exactly are emotional aspects?

How do emotional aspects affect daily life?

What does this mean for you in particular?

How can you figure out what your particular emotional aspects mixture should include?

How can you go about changing or altering your current mixture of emotional aspects?

What next?

Physical Aspects

What exactly are physical aspects?

How do physical aspects affect daily life?

What does this mean for you in particular?

How can you figure out what your particular physical aspects mixture should include?

How can you go about changing or altering your current mixture of physical aspects?

What next?

Conclusion

Bibliography and More Resources

Mental Resources

Spiritual Resources

Emotional Resources

Physical Resources

About the Author

Index

If you try to compete with others, you are destined to fail.

Someone will always be richer, better looking, or faster.

However, if you strive to be yourself, you can't help but succeed.

You are the only person who can be you.

You are the only one who really knows who you are and the true

depth of your dreams.

Therefore, in order to be truly successful,

You need to explore who you are

And follow your most heartfelt desires.

Preface

Like most individuals on this planet, I have spent a good deal of time fantasizing about the life I would have if only I could choose. I would be more confident. I would be more adventurous. I would get more education and get a better paying job. I would choose satisfying and complementary relationships. I would feel like I had a valid place in this world.

As much time as I spent fantasizing, however, I had spent even more time wallowing in the misery of my real life and making excuses about why I couldn't accomplish these things. I began to assume that every day would be the same as the last. I even started to believe that dreams were for kids and for irresponsible people that intended to bounce from one failure to the next.

Then, one day I had an epiphany. At the time, I was a housewife raising three small children. Though I had the amazing ability to stretch a dime into a dollar, money was always extremely tight. My life centered around taking care of my children and finding ways to stretch the budget just to pay for the necessities of life.

I really loved being with my kids. I felt it was an important job and was willing to sacrifice to do what I felt was the right thing for my kids. But I had a good number of aspirations that didn't involve cleaning up messes, rereading stories for the hundredth time, or playing with bugs in the park. I wanted to be able to pay the bills each month. I wanted to become more confident and able to be part of an adult world. I wanted the freedom and ability to drive my children to various places. I wanted to see and learn a little bit about the world. I wanted to go to university and get my archaeology degree. In short, I wanted to be Tami, the person, and not just Mommy or Mrs. Brady.

For several years, I stewed about my quandary. I had always said I was going to go to university but frankly no one believed I actually ever would. The most vocal members of my family questioned why I would even want to go to university, especially to take archaeology. Archaeology was a career for single men. The only mothers who would dare train for such a job were simply trying to run away from their responsibilities. I had no intention of abandoning my family and so I eventually decided to give up on my dream.

My brother came to visit one day. We were both venting about our lives and talking about our bleak futures. I told him that I had finally given up on my hope of becoming an archaeologist. He asked me why I had to give up on this goal. I remember him saying why not. Rather irritated at my single brother's grasp of the seemingly obvious, I explained the situation to him: my responsibilities, my lack of finances, my confidence issues, my lack of an adventurous nature, etc.

Over the next few weeks, for some reason, I just kept replaying that conversation in my head. I kept hearing why not. Yes, I could list a whole book of reasons why I couldn't become an archaeologist. Strangely, however, these reasons seemed more like excuses.

I started wondering what I would tell my children if they were in my place. Surely, I wouldn't tell them to settle and be miserable. I started questioning why I was so willing to run away from a challenge. Finally, I realized that if I didn't at least try to reach my goals, I was going to regret my decision for the rest of my life.

Within six months of that epiphany, I started taking university classes. I researched and found student funding. I volunteered and then got a part time job at the local museum on weekends so that my husband could take care of the kids while I was working. I practiced my driving skills and learned how to take public transit. I pushed myself to interact with other students and resisted my natural urge to run away from the large crowded campus. I scheduled my classes around my children's school schedule, even taking a few late night classes, so that my children would not require daycare and would never come home to an empty house.

Seven years later, I had earned an undergraduate honours degree in Archaeology and graduate degrees in Archaeology and Heritage, awarded with distinction. I now run my own archaeological consulting company out of my basement. This allows me the freedom to choose my projects so that I don't have to stay away from my family for long periods of time. It also allows me the option to take on non-archaeological projects such as the writing of this book without the loss of income associated with working part-time. Moreover, I found that as I reached towards my objectives (sometimes succeeding and sometimes failing in my attempts) that in moving through or around these obstacles and challenges, I became happier in my life and more confident that I could achieve other ambitions that I had. My husband says I also became a lot nicer to be around.

In this way, the phrase why not changed my life. I hope that by reading this book, you can also start to ask yourself why not. Perhaps, you too can change your life.

Introduction

Wouldn't it be nice to be completely at ease with yourself, your life, and the world around you? Wouldn't it be great to come home every night refreshed after working the job that you truly love? Wouldn't it be amazing to have plenty of time, energy, and motivation to spend quality