5 Steps to Heal a Broken Heart

By Tara Richter

This is a guidebook to help anyone who needs to heal emotional wounds, but isn’t sure how, or where to start. A broken heart is one of the most difficult things a person can endure in their lifetime. When a hurricane rips through our house, we file a claim with insurance and build a new one. When we get laid off from our job, we find another one. Both of these instances are devastating, yet we seem to be able to pick up the pieces and move on. However, when our lover leaves us we can’t eat, we can’t sleep, we can’t function as human beings any longer. We feel as if our souls have been ripped from our bodies. We are walking around like an empty bag of bones. Some of us do this for years in and years out. We just don’t know what to do. How do you heal your broken heart? Within this book you will discover all the methods to deal with those painful emotions and move on with your life. If you never take the time to heal yourself, you are going out into the world with broken pieces inside of you. There is a way to put them back together again and feel love, fresh and new without the baggage of the past!
PARKER PATHWAYS BOOK REVIEW: If you want to know how to reconnect with your inner “broken heart” this is the book for you. Everyone has a definition about a broken heart, some say it is sadness, others say it is something I have to “get on with my life.” But the broken heart remains broken as if you are undergoing forever Post-Traumatic Stress. The truth is you have to get down and dirty and build a new pathway. It starts out by digging “deep” into your being in order to come out at the other end of the tunnel and become what I call the “Real You.” Moments in this book border on powerful discoveries that appear simple, but as in all nature simple survives to overcome adversity. If you follow the rules in this book, you will rise to the center of your consciousness in the “Real You.” Once you have accomplished this, you will be continually speaking from your full heart and not a remaining broken one. I recommend this book for your reading. I give a big hug or otherwise called “marasmus” to you and your family. These rules will get your brain working on a happy healing, love and new start on the pathway “to heal a broken heart.” ~ By Dr. Winn Parker Ph.D. M.T. American Society of Clinical Pathology

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richter Publishing LLC
• Release date: Jan 19, 2016
• ISBN: 9781310784088

Tara Richter

Tara Richter is the President of Richter Publishing LLC. She specializes in helping business owners how to write their non-fiction story in 4 weeks & publish a book in order to become an expert in their industry. She has been featured on CNN, ABC, Daytime TV, FOX, SSN, Channel 10 News, USA TODAY, Beverly Hills Times and radio stations all over the world! Her degree is in Graphic Design and she worked in the copy and print industry in the Silicon Valley. She has written and published 10 of her own books in just a few short years. Tara now has published many other authors in her local Tampa bay area including Anthony Amos & celebrity entrepreneur, Kevin Harrington, Shark from ABC’s “Shark Tank” with their joint book, “How to Catch a Shark.” Richter Publishing has streamlined the complex writing and publishing industry so anyone can become a published author in just a few weeks!

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This book is designed to provide information on healing a broken heart only. This information is provided and sold with the knowledge that the publisher and author do not offer any legal or medical advice. In the case of a need for any such expertise, consult with the appropriate professional. This book does not contain all information available on the subject. This book has not been created to be specific to any individual’s or organization’s situation or needs. Every effort has been made to make this book as accurate as possible. However, there may be typographical and/ or content errors. Therefore, this book should serve only as a general guide and not as the ultimate source of subject information. This book contains information that might be dated and is intended only to educate and entertain. The author and publisher shall have no liability or responsibility to any person or entity regarding any loss or damage incurred, or alleged to have incurred, directly or indirectly, by the information contained in this book. You hereby agree to be bound by this disclaimer or you may return this book within the guarantee time period for a full refund. In the interest of full disclosure, this book contains affiliate links that might pay the author or publisher a commission upon any purchase from the company. While the author and publisher take no responsibility for the business practices of these companies and or the performance of any product or service, the author or publisher has used the product or service and makes a recommendation in good faith based on that experience.

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INTRODUCTION

This is a guidebook to help anyone who needs to heal emotional wounds, but isn’t sure where, or how, to start. A broken heart is one of the more difficult things a person can endure in their lifetime. When a hurricane rips through our house, we file a claim with insurance and build a new one. When we get laid off from our job, we find another one. Both of these instances are devastating, yet we seem to pick up the pieces and move on. However, when our lover leaves us we can’t eat, sleep, and function as human beings any longer. We feel as if our souls were ripped from our bodies, walking around like an empty husk of our former selves. Some of us do this for years. We just don’t know what to do. How do you heal your broken heart?

You cannot treat a broken heart like a disease, even though your insides feel torn apart. There have even been instances where people suffered actual heart attacks from the pain of losing their love. Nothing was physically wrong with them, except for the intense emotional agony. That right there shows the powerful effect emotions can have on our bodies.

Although medication can numb the depression that usually accompanies a broken heart, they don’t heal it. You’ll be drugged up like a zombie, with a shattered heart on the inside. I think the coming zombie apocalypse will not be dead people roaming the earth eating brains. It will be zoned out humans numbing their pain with medicine.

After I found out my husband was a cheating sociopath, I went through therapy as a divorcee. My therapist never once recommended drugs. She made me work through the pain, every ounce of it ripping and tearing my insides. That is the only true way to heal. You can’t skip the pain. There is no short cut. The only way out is through pain.

Getting over a lost love is difficult. We formed a deep energy bond with that person—so deep it was on a mental, physical, spiritual level. You could probably finish each other’s sentences, just know when they were calling, even sense when something was wrong (even if they were hundreds of miles away). When this energy is severed it creates a huge loss. It’s like a drug. Where are you going to get that connection now? No one knows you like your sweetheart did.

My grandparents were married for sixty-some years. When grandma passed away from kidney failure, my grandpa was destroyed. He didn’t know how to go on living. He developed severe Alzheimer’s. One short year later he passed away. I really think he died from a broken heart. He was never the same after my grandma passed.

The grief you go through with a death is similar to when a lover leaves you. Most of us know the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. Some people may disagree with me, but I believe that when your significant other chooses to leave, the pain is worse. Death is out of our control. No one chooses terminal cancer. For the most part, death is an unplanned separation. When your husband decides one day, after twenty years, that he’s not in love with you anymore, packs his stuff and walks out the door, you are left clueless.

This separation resurfaces all kinds of insecurities, along with abandonment and rejection issues. Not only are you alone with a shattered heart, but the act of that person leaving subtly says you are worthless. Or, at least, you internalize it that way. Why did they leave? Why don’t they love me anymore? What did I do? What could I have done differently? Sometimes we never get closure, overwhelmed with feelings of, I’m not good enough, I’m not loveable, I deserved this, I wasn’t a good provider for the family, I am too fat, too ugly, the list goes on and on. It will dig up all these unresolved issues from the past. Of course these feelings are not true. You deserve love. If you suffer abandonment issues, the act of your lover leaving bubbles all of these dormant issues back up to the surface, and the pain is excruciating.

I’m not saying that losing a significant other to death is any less painful. I believe there are different emotions that come up. I’m not sure death brings up rejection issues. I have not done further research on that specific topic. I do know that when someone walks out the door and they could call you but decide not to, that definitely brings up feelings of worthlessness. You want to reach out to your lover, because they are still alive, yet you know they don’t want to speak to you. Unfortunately, this is how many domestic violence issues arise, how people go temporarily insane, putting on diapers and driving long distances to confront their counterparts. Don’t let yourself go crazy. Heal your heart and maintain your dignity.

The first rules in my books are about healing your wounds—if you cannot heal your past traumas, you will go into the dating jungle as damaged goods. So many people walk around this world like wounded puppies, not knowing what to do about it. My friend is an example of this. Married for twenty years, divorced for ten, she only recently started dating. I keep telling her she needs to heal her wounds so she can move on. She lives in the past of her divorce. For her, it’s like it happened just five minutes ago. Not a day goes by where she doesn’t utter her ex-husband’s name. I’ve tried to help her. After living with a dating coach for two years you would think something would rub off on her.

One day I had a Psychic/Medium on my radio show. I told my friend to call in, maybe the psychic would be able to help her. I didn’t tell the psychic who she was because I wanted to hear her honest answer. Low and behold, the psychic told my friend the EXACT same thing I had been telling her for two years; stop living in the past and let go of your judgmental ways. All this from only hearing her speak on the phone for about five minutes.

When I got home that night, my friend was still awake and very upset.

Tara, I don’t understand what you want me to do! she said. After the divorce I moved to Florida, got a tummy tuck and bought a condo.

I told her that those were all external factors. Sure, moving locations and