Dear Therapist: I’m Ashamed of How I Treated My Dying Husband
In his final days, I didn’t show him the love and care he deserved.
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Dear Therapist,
My husband of 19 years passed away in April. He had Stage 4 cancer, but was not bedridden. He was a positive, happy guy and just a very, very good husband. He spoiled me throughout our married life. I am so consumed with guilt, as I feel l neglected my husband, even though I was with him the whole time he was going for treatment. I did things like make him dinner and help him bathe, but I feel like I didn't take good-enough care of him.
Two days before he died, I yelled
