Dating Advice for the Modern World

By J. J. Krause

This series of articles was written by the author over a 3 year span, during which he re-entered the dating scene after spending 24 years with his ex-wife. The articles started out as a series of email exchanges between the author and a female friend who was also going through the same process. They were expanded into book form and are available together for the first time in e-book format! Read them in order, or jump right to the topic that interests you the most!

• Language: English
• Publisher: J. J. Krause
• Release date: Oct 14, 2014
• ISBN: 9781311938619

J. J. Krause

J.J. grew up in Northern Indiana, but has lived all over the US, including accidentally spending a year in Las Vegas. (Long story. Maybe another book?) He also spent 6 months in Belize, Central America working with elementary school students. For over 25 years he has taught high performance driving for BMW, Porsche, Ferrari and other exotic and sports car and motorcycle groups. He can normally be found in the left lane, traveling "Mach Schnell." Watch your mirrors, and give a friendly wave...

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Dating Advice for the Modern World

J. J. Krause

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Copyright 2014 J. J. Krause

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This series of articles was written by the author over a 3 year span, during which he re-entered the dating scene after spending 24 years with his ex-wife. The articles started out as a series of email exchanges between the author and a female friend who was also going through the same process. They were expanded into book form and are available together for the first time in e-book format! Read them in order, or jump right to the topic that interests you the most!

Table of Contents

Letting Go

When do you have ‘Enough’?

Be Kind – Seriously…

Let's try not being judgmental

Realism in the Dating World

Online Dating Tips for Women

Online Dating Tips for Men

Pair and a Spare

First Date Expectations

Dress for Success

Sometimes it is the little things

Stop Using Sex as a Weapon

Valentine’s Day

Sick

Surviving the Holidays

Vacations together

Quickies

Holiday Hell

Stop the Self-Induced Drama

Learn to Give First

Respect. Courtesy. Understanding

Stuck in Dramaville

How Adventurous are you?

Stop Settling

Her

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About the author

Relationships are always difficult. It is just the nature of the beast since men and women think and act so differently. There will always be drama, and conflict, and disappointment. With luck there will also be amazingly good times and companionship those wonderful feelings that only being in love can generate.

The problem comes when the relationship is souring. Is it just a phase? Will it get better again? Or is this just the beginning of a long slow slide into the depths of relationship Hell? It's really hard to know! With luck some of these articles will help you make the tough choices needed to decide whether you stay and fight it out or bail and start over. Sometimes, the first step is saving yourself...

Letting Go

I lost my best friend last night. She was my best friend, lover, compatriot, and partner-in-crime. We were together for almost 6 years and the hole she leaves in my heart and my life is overwhelming.

But it had to be done.

I loved her with all my heart. Coming out of a 24 year relationship with my ex-wife I needed someone who was going to be fun, positive and help me get back to being my old self. It is funny how we tend to turn off parts of who we are to please our partners. I'm a very touchy-feely person and my ex was not. I love all things sensual and erotic and after several decades that part of our relationship was broken beyond repair. K (I'll just call her that for now) was extremely open-minded, loved anything that involved touch and made all kinds of entertaining noises when I touched her. Most of the time she enthusiastically touched me back.

In addition, we shared the same birthday, along with my oldest daughter and twin sister! We were soul mates. We finished each other's thoughts. She thought much like a guy, so I was always free to point out pretty women when we were together if she didn't beat me to it first.

For the first time in my life I was comfortable being me 100% of the time and it was fabulous. I encouraged her to learn how to ride a motorcycle and we had great fun buying and selling bikes which paid for vacations, motorcycle stuff (she called my motorcycle parts catalogs 'motorcycle porn') etc. We tried all kinds