Understanding Your Teenage Child

By Peter Lumba

There is no scary age like teen age. What do you do when your teenage child starts being rebellious? Panic and surrender or fight? You can help your child navigate through these stormy years or push her/him to self destruction.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Peter Lumba
• Release date: May 18, 2014
• ISBN: 9781311790392

Peter Lumba

The author runs a Public Benefit Organization (PBO) for disadvantaged children. Has special interest in youth development, especially teenagers.

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Understanding Your Teenage Child

By Peter Lumba

Copyright 2014 Peter Lumba

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ISBN: 9781311790392

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Table of Contents

PART ONE: KNOWING YOUR TEENAGE CHILD

Don’t Give Up Yet

Your Child Is Good At Something That Is Worthy Encouraging

Your Child, Entertainment, Sex And Drugs

Your Teenage Child And Peer Pressure

Your Child, World Of Virtual reality And Twisted Truths

Could Your Child Be Doing Drugs?

Dealing With Drug Addiction

Some Experiences That Could Trigger Health Risk Behaviours In Your Child

Encourage Your Child To Talk Without You Being Judgemental

PART TWO: SEXUAL ABUSE AND BULLYING

Could Someone Be Grooming Your Child For Sexual Abuse?

Is Your Child Already Being Sexually Abused?

Suspecting That Your Spouse Is Sexually Abusing Your Child? What To Do

Formal Sex Education Is Not Enough To Protect Your Daughter From unwanted Pregnancy – How You Can Intervene

Your Child Will Be Pressurized Into Having Sex – How To Counter This Pressure

Is Your Child A Potential Bully Victim?

How To Tell Your Child Is Being Bullied?

Coach Your Child To Stand Up To Bullies

PART ONE: KNOWING YOUR TEENAGE CHILD

Don’t Give Up Yet

As a parent, while no one will doubt your good sense, strong values, knowledge and good intention, you will soon find yourself locked horn to horn, with your teenage child

A teenager is no longer a little child. He or she has already discovered that s/he has a heart and feelings to deal with. Should your seemingly unruly teenage daughter or son’s behaviour give you sleepless nights? Certainly if your child is playing truant, is violent or an abuser of the opposite sex, is doing drugs or has another extreme dangerous behaviour, you would get concerned and seek help, otherwise most of the teenage behaviour is normal. Most of us remember how we felt as teenagers when our parents gave us moral lectures. We remember that diatribe, that harsh accusing voice, that sarcasm, that criticism and how we responded to them – bitterness and more rebellion – that is a teenager. Then why do we apply the same futile style of parenting to our teenage boys and girls? May be because we don’t know any other way and we would feel guilty if we don’t do something about the child’s rowdy behaviour.

Unlike little children, teenagers no longer obey under threat or manipulation. The introverts will feel alarmed, keep quiet and repress their feelings while the extroverts will most likely challenge your authority. None of these reactions is beneficial to both of the parent and the child. So your threats will have served no purpose other than making things worse for everyone.

First appreciate that your child is growing in a time different from the one you grew up. So trying to bring up your child the way your parents brought you up will only result in frustration and disappointment – a