What Should I Say, What Can I Do?: How to Reach Out to Those You Love
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What Should I Say, What Can I Do?
Practical advice on what to do at hospitals and funerals
The right words of comfort to offer
The best ways to offer financial help
Ideas for special gifts that will keep memories of the deceased alive
Different activities to do with your bereaved friend
Staying in touch and showing your love through the years
Rebecca Bram Feldbaum
Rebecca Bram Feldbaum has written a popular humorous column for the Baltimore/Washington magazine, Where What When, and she is the author of the books What Should I Say, What Can I Do? and If There's Anything I Can Do.
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What Should I Say, What Can I Do? - Rebecca Bram Feldbaum
INTRODUCTION
Certain situations in our lives are permanently cemented in our memories. They have such a profound effect on us that we can’t seem to shake the feelings that surface with those memories. These are called life-changing experiences because that is exactly what they are—experiences that change our lives forever.
My life-changing experience divided my life into two parts. The first part of my life consists of my childhood, teenage years, college experiences, first job, traveling, marriage, and becoming a mother. The second half of my life began when my husband of nine years, Robert (Bobby) Feldbaum, died, leaving me a young widow. I was thirty-seven years old and the mother of four young children, the oldest only seven. At that moment my entire world changed into something completely different.
When a person suffers such a devastating loss, he can’t come out of his abyss of grief without help from his friends and family. These wonderful people, who care about us so much and who would do anything for us, are such an important part of our lives. Their love and support are what help keep our heads above water so we don’t drown in our profound sorrow.
This book is a compilation of the ways family and friends reached out to me and my children when my husband was sick and after he died. Many of the suggestions offered in this book are based on things that personally happened to us. Other advice I either read about or heard directly from others who suffered a loss. Every widow/er I spoke to was in complete agreement with me that the love and support offered by our friends and family members is truly priceless.
Sometimes I wonder at what point I really appreciated all of the help and caring showered on me by friends and family members.
Was it when my neighbors sent over their teenage daughters to help take care of my children so I could exclusively attend to the needs of my very sick husband?
Was it when a friend came to the hospital when Bobby was undergoing a medical procedure, so I wouldn’t have to sit in the waiting room by myself?
Was it when a friend held me close immediately after Bobby died, and said, You were a wonderful wife. You did everything you could for him. Now we will be here for you and your children
?
Was it when my family members and friends sent delicious home-cooked and takeout dinners to my home for a full month after Bobby