The Tiara: 5 Ways to Reign as Queen of Your Castle

By Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia “LB” Brandenburg fulfilled her journey by saying “I do.” Now she’s learning how to effectively communicate with her husband, love him, and keep their intimacy alive. But these lessons, however, were not learned without a little help from an imaginary headpiece. To inspire wives and wives-to-be, Lakia is back to present readers with The Tiara, an acronym that details what a wife should do after saying “I do.”

In The Tiara, Lakia reveals five principles that will give a wife the power to strengthen the love, intimacy, and communication that she has with her spouse. Sharing personal stories and providing practical steps for any wife to follow, The Tiara is a must-read if you want to understand how to reign as queen of your castle.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lakia Brandenburg
• Release date: Mar 12, 2014
• ISBN: 9780983718239

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The Tiara

5 Ways to Reign as

Queen of Your Castle

LAKIA BRANDENBURG

The Tiara: 5 Ways to Reign as Queen of Your Castle

www.lakiabrandenburg.com

Copyright © 2013 by Lakia Brandenburg

Cover Design © 2013 MeloDsignz

Editing © 2013 WritersHero

Smashwords Edition

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without written permission of the author.

ISBN 978-0-9837182-2-2

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication: 2013915905

Printed in the United States of America

To my husband, the priceless gem in my life, for helping me blossom into the best role I could ever be — your loving wife. The precious stones in my Tiara shine brighter and brighter — one day at a time — all because of you.

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Contents

A Toast to My Mother

A Message from LB

The Role

Her Majesty

The Royal Duties

The Headpiece

The Jewels

The Wedding Gift

The Tiara: Tame Your Tongue

The Tiara: Interpret His Definition of Love

The Tiara: Affirm Him With Sweet Words

The Tiara: Respect His Authority

The Tiara: Arouse His Sexual Pleasures Often

About the Author

LB’s Picture a Perfect Marriage tour can be the highlight of your next event. You select the topic, and she’ll present.

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A Toast to My Mother

Awife. My first example came from you, the first woman to show me what commitment looked like. You were married to my father for nearly two decades before ending your relationship with him in a bitter divorce. You devoted years in the sometimes happy and not-so-happy chapters that can unfold in a marriage until the day the plot in your love story took a drastic turn. But before the dark clouds stormed over your marriage, you would often recall the golden days that you and my father once had.

Without many healthy examples to follow, you played your position the best way you knew how. Like any spouse determined to have a marriage that would withstand the tests of time, you were forced to create your own role. You used old sayings to guide your self-taught lessons on how to be a wife. When it came to meeting the needs of your husband, you strongly believed that you could do so by first keeping his belly full. As the classic saying goes, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

Your talents in the kitchen were always in use. You would satisfy my father’s hefty appetite by preparing his favorite meals. On special occasions, you would boil a small serving of pig feet just for him. It was one of his delicacies. You made sure his spirits were lifted with every sip of his signature dark-colored cognac. If you weren’t preparing a weekly dinner of grilled pork chops with fried apples and cabbage, or Salisbury steak smothered in brown gravy with a mountain of mashed potatoes and Brussels sprouts, you were up early Saturday morning, filling the air with the distinct smell of pork bacon and sausage. We were either awaken by the onion scent from your famous fried potatoes or the screeching sounds coming from the sensitive smoke detector near the kitchen. You loved to cook for your family.

There were many moments throughout your relationship when I know you felt proud to be your husband’s better half. You believed that you complemented a man who wanted a family and, most important, the genuine love from his wife. You enjoyed the companionship and intimacy that is shared between spouses and to this day I know you miss what that bond can create. Both you and my father called it the good ole’ days. (Disclosure: My mother was my father’s second wife)

It is hard for me to remember you being the ideal wife, but I know you did what you felt was right. In your eyes, you were a good wife. You followed the protocol of your heart and the tradition of so many other wives during your era. Not only did you cook, but you cleaned the house and took care of me and my siblings all while holding down a full-time job.

You were proud to be the nucleus of your family and did what was within your power to keep my father centered and connected. Despite your great efforts, to keep our family together, he made decisions that would place him outside the family unit. My father’s interpretation of the story was that your marriage became all about the kids and no longer about what he and you were building together as husband and wife. He believed that you became too domesticated and forgot about him, but knows that he played a major role in the marriage failing.

As you’ve reminisced, I know you’ve admitted that you didn’t know everything about being a wife. You even have acknowledged that you could have been a better team player in certain areas of your relationship. Despite your dreams of staying married to my father fading, your desires to marry again paint a brighter picture. Over the years you have grown in wisdom and now you are draped in faith that one day you will have a love to call your own. You have never given up hope and have patiently awaited another opportunity to create a new experience with your future husband.

As I sit beside my husband on our marital throne, I have to give honor where it is due. No matter if it were something that I wanted to see in your marriage or not, mother, you helped position me where I am today. I’m able to make better decisions for my marriage and learn from the ones you made or didn’t make. Thanks to your sacrifice and selfless acts, I am able to customize my role as a wife. I reign in my position all because of you. And for this I am forever grateful. Cheers.

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A Message from LB

Iam a wife. And I can honestly say that I’m learning how to embrace my role every day. I don’t claim to be a perfect wife. In fact, I already admitted in my first book He’s not perfect. I’m not perfect. But together we’re ... Picture Perfect that I’m not perfect — pun intended. But I do claim to be a wife dedicated to being the best to my husband and family. I took my wedding vows seriously even before the day they were publicly announced. And I continue to strive toward maturity and greatness in my position.

When I became a wife, I made a vow to myself. I envisioned the person that I wanted to represent for others, including my husband and young daughter. Whether I want to be a role model or not, I have a daughter who is watching her mother live her wife role and her father live his husband role. Our interactions with her and each other will be factors that help showcase a healthy, satisfying relationship and marriage. I’m learning that it is not what we say that is going to teach and guide her on this journey, but it is what we actually do that will train her in the way she should go. (Proverbs 22:6)

I’m dedicated to being a wife with an image of grace, honor, and real love. Marriage has matured me, and I am humbled by what being a wife is doing in my life and in the relationships that I share with others. From monitoring my thoughts, feelings, and emotions to